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How to Get Through Divorce in 2025: Proven Step-by-Step Process
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How to Get Through Divorce in 2025: Proven Step-by-Step Process

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Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Sponsored post by Fair Result.

Divorce can feel overwhelming, but at Fair Result, we’ve created a proven, step-by-step process to help you navigate it with clarity and confidence. In 2025, with shifting legal landscapes and evolving financial complexities, our transparent, fixed-fee approach ensures that you can focus on your future without worrying about spiralling costs or hidden surprises.

1. Acknowledging the Emotional Impact

Divorce is one of life’s most emotional and challenging experiences. It’s essential to recognise and process these feelings, rather than suppress them. Many people find that seeking emotional support can make a world of difference during this time.

Tips for self-care during divorce:

  • Consider joining a support group to connect with others who understand your situation.
  • Seek counselling or therapy to work through your emotions in a healthy way.
  • Prioritise self-care through activities like exercise, mindfulness, or spending time with loved ones.

At Fair Result, we not only focus on the legal and financial aspects of your divorce but also recognise the importance of addressing your emotional wellbeing.

2. Understanding the Financial and Legal Landscape in 2025

The divorce process in England has evolved over the years. With changes such as the introduction of the no-fault divorce law under The Divorce, Dissolution, and Separation Act, the legal framework is now more streamlined. However, financial clarity remains crucial.

Key divorce trends in 2025:

  • Longer average timeframes: On average, the time to a conditional order in sole divorce cases is now around 36 weeks, with the full process from application to final order taking approximately 49 weeks. Joint divorce cases tend to be slightly quicker, with an average of 30 weeks to a conditional order and 43 weeks from application to final order.
  • Increase in divorces among older adults: The rise of “silver splitters” reflects changing attitudes toward relationships in later life.
  • Shifts in divorce applications: While January remains a peak month for divorce enquiries, overall divorce rates fluctuate based on factors such as economic pressures and societal trends.

At Fair Result, we emphasise the importance of financial preparedness. From property division to pensions, we help you navigate the complexities with transparency and clarity.

3. Fair Result’s Proven Step-by-Step Process

At Fair Result, we pride ourselves on offering a transparent, fixed-fee process designed to minimise stress and maximise efficiency. Here’s how our approach works:

a. Initial Consultation

We begin with a free consultation to understand your unique circumstances. During this meeting, we’ll identify your priorities and goals, laying the foundation for a tailored strategy that meets your needs.

b. Financial Assessment

Our team of legal and accountancy experts conducts a comprehensive review of your financial situation. With a commitment to transparency and fairness, our fixed-fee model ensures there are no unexpected surprises.

c. Tailored Strategy Development

Based on your goals, we develop a personalised plan that considers legal, financial, and emotional factors. This strategy ensures that you achieve a fair settlement while minimising unnecessary conflict.

d. Settlement Negotiations

We focus on  avoiding the need for lengthy court proceedings. Our team works tirelessly to negotiate a fair and efficient settlement.

e. Finalising Your Divorce

From managing paperwork to obtaining consent orders, we handle every legal requirement to finalise your divorce. Our goal is to ensure you’re fully equipped to move forward with confidence.

4. Client Success Stories

We’ve helped countless clients achieve fair outcomes and build brighter futures. Here’s just one example:

“After years of financial uncertainty during my separation, Fair Result gave me the clarity and support I needed. Their fixed-fee model meant no surprises, and their team made the process so much easier than I expected. Today, I’m not only financially secure but also confident about the future.”

These stories reflect our commitment to putting clients first, every step of the way.

5. Looking Ahead: Building Your Future Post-Divorce

Divorce is not the end—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. Planning for your future is key to moving forward with confidence.

Post-divorce planning tips:

  • Reassess your finances: Create a realistic budget that reflects your new circumstances.
  • Set personal goals: Whether it’s advancing your career, pursuing a passion, or focussing on your children, take steps toward achieving what matters most to you.
  • Seek support: Don’t hesitate to lean on professionals, friends, or family for guidance as you navigate your new life post-divorce.

At Fair Result, we’re here to ensure you leave the divorce process feeling prepared and empowered to embrace the next stage of your journey.

6. Trends and Insights for 2025

The festive season often prompts reflection, and many couples decide to take the next step in January, leading to a surge in divorce enquiries. Known as “Divorce Day,” the first working Monday of the year—6th January 2025—is anticipated to see a spike in divorce applications.

While divorce rates have fluctuated, certain trends stand out:

  • Coastal towns like Norwich and Hastings have the highest proportion of divorced individuals.
  • Most divorces occur between 3 and 8 years of marriage, with “silver splitters” on the rise.

These insights underscore the importance of working with experts who understand the unique challenges of today’s world. Find out more about divorce trends here.

Conclusion

Divorce doesn’t have to feel like an uphill battle. With Fair Result’s proven step-by-step process, you can navigate this challenging time with clarity, confidence, and support. Our fixed-fee, transparent approach allows you to focus on what truly matters: building a brighter future.

If you’re considering divorce in 2025, let us help you take the first step. Contact Fair Result for a free consultation today.

Read more articles by Chris Sweetman.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage breakdown.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

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Why it is Vital to Include Pensions in Divorce Settlements in 2025
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Why it is Vital to Include Pensions in Divorce Settlements in 2025

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Nicki Mitchell
Nicki Mitchell
Partner
Jones Myers

Sponsored post by Jones Myers. I cannot underestimate the critical role that pensions play in financial settlements as the volume of  divorce enquiries I am receiving increases this January.

Their importance has been further reinforced by New Year calculations from online investment service Interactive Investor, whose financial analysts say that spouses could lose up to £665k by overlooking pensions and failing to take them into account in divorce settlements.

Pensions are frequently one of the most valuable assets of a marriage, often making up the second highest – or sometimes the highest – value asset in a divorce settlement after the family home.

It is key that information about pensions is made available in the financial disclosure process, which must take place before any binding financial settlement can be made.

Disclosure must include details of all pensions, including state pensions – and the value of each one. This ensures that couples are able to make informed decisions as to what a fair settlement looks like for them

The most common way in which a disparity in pensions is addressed in a divorce settlement is pension sharing which provides a clean break between parties, as the pension assets are split immediately.

Alternatively, in some cases ex-spouses prefer to take a greater share of the equity in the family home or other capital, as a trade-off for a share of the other’s pension.

Some divorces may involve several pension arrangements so it is important to consider which arrangements should be shared, and to what extent.

The pension share may be internal (when the recipient becomes a member of the scheme) or external when the share must be invested in an existing or new arrangement of the receiving party. Care should be taken to obtain details of the cost of any transfer.

In deciding what is best for them, the couple need to consider how their respective financial needs will be met  and what other assets are available for distribution.

Alternative and non-confrontational ways for divorcing couples to reach a financial settlement without a lengthy and expensive court process include Mediation and Collaborative Family Law.

Both options – in which I have extensive expertise – are conducted in a spirit of mutual co-operation and put children’s best interest first.

At Jones Myers we always recommend that divorcing couples seek expert advice from highly experienced lawyers regarding their finances. Independent Financial Advisers can assist with pension valuations and projected future incomes.

Taking guidance early on will avoid the risk of losing out on what could be a substantial pension sharing provision that spouses are entitled to – and which can prevent long-term financial issues.

Read more articles by Nicki Mitchell.

About Nicki Mitchell

With three decades experience in family law, Nicki specialises in the financial aspects of relationship breakdown – and particularly complex cases involving family businesses, multiple properties, and complicated pension arrangements.

A skilled mediator, child inclusive mediator and collaborative family lawyer Nicki champions Alternative Dispute Resolution processes which avoid a lengthy court process and can lead much more quickly and cost effectively to a successful resolution.

Her exceptional track record also includes advising clients on the more traditional methods of resolving issues surrounding family breakdowns. Direct Dial: 01904 202553 or email  Nicki.mitchell@jonesmyers.co.uk  www.jonesmyers.co.uk

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Child Maintenance and Spousal Maintenance: Understanding the Differences
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Child Maintenance and Spousal Maintenance: Understanding the Differences

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Nicki Mitchell
Nicki Mitchell
Partner
Jones Myers Family Law

Sponsored article by Jones Myers Family Law.

In the countdown to the festive season, concerns over finances can understandably escalate – especially for those divorcing and separating who have children but do not have their own income streams.

The aim of this article is to provide key insights into Child Maintenance and Spousal Maintenance.

While they are often believed to be inextricably linked, they are two very distinct issues.

Child Maintenance Support

How do divorcing/separating couples work out Child Maintenance?

Child Maintenance is something which needs to be considered whenever separating couples have children, regardless of whether they were married or not and whatever their financial circumstances.

The Child Maintenance Service (CMS), a stand-alone government body,  provides a formula for parents to calculate child support.

Most separated couples will use the formula as a basis for agreeing the level of child support to be paid and make informal arrangements for this to be paid directly.

Divorcing couples have the option of including their agreement on child support in the order (often known as a consent order) which sets out their agreement as to how their assets, debts, pensions etc will be divided.

Which parent is responsible for paying the support?

The parent with whom the children spend less time will be responsible for paying child support to the other parent.  Where the children’s time and the child care responsibilities are shared equally between the parents then no child support is usually payable.

If there is any dispute between the parents about whether this is the case then the CMS will generally assume the primary carer to be the parent who receives Child Benefit and assess child support accordingly.

For how long does Child Maintenance continue?

The paying parent is obligated to provide child maintenance until the child completes “qualifying education” which is generally full-time secondary education but can include other forms of ongoing study such as some apprenticeships. No child support is payable after the child attains the age of twenty.

What happens if parents cannot agree on the level of support?

If the parents are unable to agree then either one of them can make an application the Child Maintenance Service (CMS) for a calculation.

The CMS will calculate the support payable using a six-step process.

The various stages include determining the paying parent’s yearly gross income. The relevant parent usually provides this. However, the CMS can obtain the information from HM Revenue and Customs (HMRC) if the parents do not supply this.

Factors, such as pensions and school fees, which could change the paying parent’s financial situation, are also assessed before converting the yearly gross income into a weekly figure.

Key criteria the calculator draws on includes the number of children receiving the income and the level of what is called ‘shared care.’ This is based on how much time the child/children of the paying parent spends with them and includes overnight stays.

What happens if the paying parent loses their job?

Either parent can let the CMS know of a change in circumstance. The Agency will then re-evaluate and reduce the level of support the paying parent needs to provide based on the calculator system.

What happens if the paying parent refuses to pay?

The receiving parent can contact the CMS which would then take appropriate enforcement measures such as applying for a court order to take legal action.

What happens if the paying parent dies during the support period?

CMS payments would cease on the death of the paying parent. State benefits, such as Universal Credit, may be available to the surviving parent, depending on their circumstances at the time.

Are there any other options besides the CMS for parents to agree Child Maintenance?   

Agreements between parents can be negotiated with support from experienced family law experts such as Jones Myers.

Our specialist services include mediation, a non-confrontational option for parents to reach a solution in a spirit of co-operation which puts their children’s best interests first.

As a qualified Mediator and Child Inclusive Mediator I regularly see at first hand the  benefits of the mediation process for parents, children and the wider family.

Spousal Maintenance

Divorce does not automatically bring an end to the financial obligations between divorcing and separating couples.

Significant income disparities between spouses may require ongoing financial support to prevent undue hardship, especially when considering the well-being of any children involved.

What is Spousal Maintenance?

Spousal Maintenance is a payment made by one party to the other as part of the financial settlement on their divorce or separation.

Usually, it is paid every month and can last for either a defined period or, in increasingly rare cases, until one of the former spouses dies.

Spousal Maintenance is different from Child Maintenance, which is statutory. It is not an automatic  entitlement and only applies to divorcing couples.

How is the amount and duration agreed?

There is no set formula for working out Spousal Maintenance payments. How much is paid and for how long can be settled through mutual agreement between a spouse and their ex during divorce proceedings.

Information is exchanged about each spouse’s income and their monthly outgoings. If one spouse has insufficient income to meet their needs and the other can afford to make up or contribute to that shortfall then Spousal Maintenance may be appropriate.

Interim Spousal Maintenance can be agreed or ordered in the initial stages of separation to ensure that the spouse who is weaker financially can manage their basic monthly outgoings.

Does getting Spousal Maintenance involve going to Court? 

If the couple are unable to come to a mutual agreement, the Court can decide whether Spousal Maintenance should be paid.

In every case the Court must consider the possibility of a Clean Break Order – which severs all financial ties between the couple.

If a Clean Break Order is not appropriate immediately, the court will order what the Judge considers to be a reasonable level  of Spousal Maintenance – and for how long this must be paid.

The court will have before it detailed information about the income available and each party’s income needs. Spousal Maintenance is usually only ordered for a fixed period of time, long enough to enable an adjustment to independence.

How can couples reach a solution without going to court?  

More couples are turning to non-confrontational options, which allow them to retain control of decisions which affect them, put their children’s best interests first and avoid costly and destructive court battles.

They include negotiation, mediation or collaborative practice where couples and their lawyers commit to find a positive solution without going to court and sign a binding agreement to that effect. Our specialist lawyers at Jones Myers have extensive experience in advising couples in these areas.

In what circumstances is Spousal Maintenance terminated?

When Spousal Maintenance ends will be set out in the court order.  Typically this will be when the spouse receiving the payments has had time to adjust to independence or when their financial needs are reduced. For example, when the children finish school or university, or they leave home.

Spousal Maintenance will cease when one of the spouses dies or if the recipient of the maintenance gets married again or enters into a civil partnership.

What happens if the parties situation changes?   

If the circumstances of the spouses alter significantly after a Spousal Maintenance Order has been made, they can agree to change the payments ordered and send an agreed order to the Court which supersedes the original order.  If agreement is not possible then either of them can apply to the Court to vary the terms of the order.

The Court will consider factors such as changes in income, employment status or financial needs to assess if a variation is appropriate.

For vital areas of law such as Child Maintenance and Spousal Maintenance, I cannot emphasise enough the importance of consulting experienced family lawyers like Jones Myers.

Offering expert legal advice to our clients, we help them to understand their legal position and options.

Providing legal guidance and representation with child maintenance disputes, we support clients to ensure that the child maintenance arrangements are fair and reasonable.

Our approach prioritises resolving disputes in a non-confrontational manner, allowing us to assist couples in reaching voluntary agreements for child maintenance.

We can also assist in negotiating Spousal Maintenance agreements to reach a fair and mutually acceptable solution. If an agreement cannot be reached through negotiation, we can represent clients in court proceedings to seek a Spousal Maintenance Order or to vary an existing order.

Read more articles by Nicki Mitchell.

About Nicki Mitchell

With three decades experience in family law, Nicki specialises in the financial aspects of relationship breakdown – and particularly complex cases involving family businesses, multiple properties, and complicated pension arrangements.

A skilled mediator, child inclusive mediator and collaborative family lawyer Nicki champions Alternative Dispute Resolution processes which avoid a lengthy court process and can lead much more quickly and cost effectively to a successful resolution.

Her exceptional track record also includes advising clients on the more traditional methods of resolving issues surrounding family breakdowns. Direct Dial: 01904 202553 or email  Nicki.mitchell@jonesmyers.co.uk  www.jonesmyers.co.uk

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Wanting to Separate? Starting the Divorce Conversation
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Wanting to Separate? Starting the Divorce Conversation

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Jo Harrison
Jo Harrison
Divorce Consultant and Relationship Therapist
Family Law in Partnership

Every relationship is different and any conversation about separation is highly personal, but there are themes to consider if you are building up to discussing separation with your partner.

Safety First

When it comes to ending a relationship, safety may be the most significant consideration.  In some situations, the moment you tell your partner that you want to separate is when you are most likely to be at risk of violence. If you have any safety concerns, I suggest that you seek legal advice before speaking to your partner (making sure that the act of booking a consultation doesn’t put you at risk). In such a consultation you are likely to think about a practical plan to ensure that you and any children are in a safe place with access to support.

Planning the conversation

It is never going to be an easy conversation, particularly if your partner is not expecting it. Some couples find that going to relationship therapy and looking at the problems in their relationship can help them to transition into the separation more smoothly. Having this kind of support for your relationship can help you to create space to listen to how each other is feeling and can support mourning where necessary. If joint work doesn’t feel possible then it can be helpful to seek your own individual therapy to work out what you feel about the relationship and how to communicate this sensitively.

Timing

With or without couples therapy, I recommend that you think carefully about the timing of the conversation. You may feel there is never going to be a good time, but you can create a space for the conversation to happen by considering the following steps:

  • schedule a proper time, giving your partner notice that you want to talk to them – rather than springing it on them spontaneously;
  • make it a supportive time when you are able to talk and process what is being said – not just before bed or just before one of you has to go off to work;
  • if you have children and it is possible, arrange for them to be looked after by someone else so that you can focus on each other;
  • have a plan for afterwards.

Tone

I also recommend that you think about the tone of the conversation and how to make it constructive. If you list all the problems you’ve had with your partner, it is likely to make them defensive and this might get in the way of them being able to take on board what you are saying. This is where it can be helpful to describe the issues in the marriage between you from your own experience, using phrases such as ‘I feel’, rather than making it a blaming conversation.  This can be difficult if you have a lot of angry and disappointed feelings towards your partner that you feel you need to express, but in the initial conversation remember that, particularly if the news is coming as a shock to your partner, there is only going to be so much information that they can take on board.

This also links to another consideration – if you have had some time to emotionally prepare for the ending of the relationship you may feel that you want to start talking immediately about the practicalities of separating. Your partner, however, may be processing the emotional side of things and have absolutely no bandwidth for thinking about the practicalities.

For both the person initiating the divorce and the person receiving this information, it can be really helpful to prepare for how this part of the conversation is going to go. You should be prepared to allow each other time and space to process what’s happening.

Transition

Ultimately it is not just about one conversation. The moment you tell your partner that you want a divorce may be the first time it is verbalised, but it may reflect many years of thinking about it. There will be a process, both legal and psychological, that will follow in which it will be important that you both have a support network within which to think about the implications of your separation.

I often work with people who are contemplating or thinking about divorce to give them space to prepare for this big transition in their life and to support them in thinking about how to handle it best in the relationship.

Expert View

Jo Harrison, a Divorce Consultant and Relationship Therapist, says: “Each divorce is different and has its own set of challenges. There are difficult choices to be made and difficult feelings to cope with – whether those feelings are your own or those of your ex-partner. Being able to talk about and process the changes that divorce entails can be really helpful.

Parents can use counselling to think about what is going on for the whole family and how to minimise the impact on any children. Some people come in for a one-off session and others may come more regularly – it really depends on the situation and we can think together about what might be best.” 

About Jo Harrison

Jo is a Divorce Consultant and Relationship Therapist with Family Law in Partnership. She is very experienced in working with individuals and couples who are separating.  A former family lawyer, Jo has a depth of experience and understands the legal process, which many if her clients find helpful.

If you would like to enquire about support individually in relation to preparing for a divorce or separation, please contact the FLiP relationship support team at E: therapists@flip.co.uk 

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Divorce – It’s a Balance Between the Emotional Stress, the Cost and the Return!
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Divorce – It’s a Balance Between the Emotional Stress, the Cost and the Return!

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Peter Marples
Peter Marples
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Many of you know I was the founder of a progressive family law practice Fair Result with my business partner Christopher Sweetman.

The practice is not apologetic that we are a challenger brand but in the past 4 years we have become a major practice in England, with unique partnerships including the Professional Footballers Association and winning countless awards, both in the UK and Internationally.

Whist a number of our clients could be seen to be ‘wealthy’, by no means all of them – indeed 75% of them are not in this category.

We have a wide spread profile of clients, representing the whole of society and we will often take on a client who has no money to fight their divorce in terms of fees. This is exactly the reason we set up the practice.

As a non-lawyer, it never ceases to amaze me how ruthless lawyers are when it comes to their fees. I was brought up to focus on my clients and the returns would ultimately follow, not think of myself first and that customers are way down the line of those we should be focussed on.

In the past four years, I have witnessed opposing clients dropped by lawyers because they can’t see a future income stream, that client engagements are paused because lawyers don’t have visibility of their fees over the next few months and a total destain for client’s emotions and challenges.

Don’t get me wrong, we need to be paid for what we do. We aren’t a charity, but there does come a point at which clients should be respected for what they are ‘those that pay the wages and the overheads’.

We set up Fair-Result to do exactly that, client first! We do have challenges with clients paying but this is always at the end of a process, and we share the risk in that as the process progresses.

There is never a week goes by in our business where we receive a call from someone that we spoke to over 2 years ago. A call which starts in the normal way. ‘Hi, its… remember me’ followed by our response that is ‘Yes, how are things’. The same line always follows – the fact that frankly nothing has progressed in the previous two years, they have spent some money, but not a lot and are now in a place where they simply don’t know what to do, and their legal advisors are not offering much in the way of solutions.

Nothing surprises us anymore.

However, in the past three weeks alone, we have received at least five calls such as this, one with £m’s in the marital pot, another with a not inconsiderable number of rental properties and a third instance where the wife (our potential client) is starved of cash and assets, despite there being considerable funds to distribute, in the form of Public Sector pensions, a marital home and some limited investments.

During my own divorce, I used to call my former wife ‘penny wise and pound foolish’. She would argue about the pennies but forget about the substance of the whole pot we were arguing about and spend endless thousands with her lawyers arguing about where I had taken the latest EasyJet flight too.

So, what is the purpose of this article? Quite simply it is to present a position that when undergoing a divorce, you are balancing up three key things:

  • Your emotions
  • The cost
  • The reward or result in terms of financials and in many cases the impact on the children.

So, if you are arguing about £50,000 or £5m the principle is the same.

You have to invest to get the result you want, or you will one of those people calling us up after two years having got nowhere.

But I hear you say, I don’t have the cash? To fight them.

Well, that is where Fair Result comes in. The ONLY fixed fee financial divorce settlement business in the UK. And guess what, you pay nothing until the financial agreement has been signed by both parties, whether it takes us 2 months or 2 years to finalise.

We share the risk with you, our aim is to minimise the emotional stress but above all it is to get you exactly what you are entitled too.

So, stop plodding on for two years, when you know you won’t get anywhere, spending £500 here and there when that is all you can afford, getting more and more wound up about your spouse’s behaviour and spending habits.

Get it closed off, sorted out and you too can move on both emotionally and financially.

As we get older, we begin to realise that life is short, the years clock off quicker than you want them too. Why spend 2 years getting nowhere when you can contact the Fair Result team, and it will cost you nothing until your divorce is sorted – absolutely nothing.

Contact Peter at peter@fair-result.co.uk 24/7 and you will be guaranteed of a response within 30 minutes. A fixed fee, set from the outset and nothing to pay until your divorce is settled.

If you can get a better offer than this contact us and we will do your divorce for absolutely nothing, irrespective of its complexity – GUARANTEED!

Read more articles by Peter Marples.

About Peter Marples

Peter Marples – Director of Fair Result and qualified accountant, with the determination to change the way divorce is transacted. For further advice on financial settlements and navigating divorce, use the contact details below:

  • Email
  • Give the team a call – 07500933818 or 0333 577 7009
  • Complete an enquiry form

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What is 'Resolution Together'?
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What is ‘Resolution Together’?

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Emma Alfieri
Emma Alfieri
Legal Director
Greene & Greene Solicitors

Resolution Together is a new way for separating couples, and for parents who are in dispute about the care of their child, to obtain advice from a single legal professional.

This new way of working follows the implementation of the Divorce Dissolution and Separation Act which allowed couples, for the first time, to make joint applications to end a marriage collectively.  As a result, Resolution has developed a new approach to help separating couples. Resolution is a community of family justice professionals who work with families and individuals to resolve issues in a constructive way.

The service is suitable for those whose joint aim is to reach an outcome that meets their needs and, if they are parents, the needs of their children. A key feature is that individuals must give their informed consent to disclosing all the relevant factual and financial information required in order to reach their decisions together, to one another and the legal professional who will be advising and guiding them towards their final outcome. The legal professional who works with the couple will not be acting for either party individually, and also the legal professional may not represent either or both in communications with the Court, other than where it has been agreed that the Legal Professional will file any draft Order with the Court on their behalf.

Some of the principles relating to Resolution Together are closely aligned to other dispute resolution approaches, such as Mediation. However, the difference is that Resolution Together provides an advice based service where both clients are able to receive advice, including legal advice on a jointly beneficial basis.

Generally, couples that choose Resolution Together will not be in a dispute, or have a “conflict”. Couples do not have to be in agreement about everything, but need to be willing to consider options and not have entrenched positions. A willingness to work hard towards finding an agreed outcome is key.

The ultimate aim is that the parties taking part in Resolution Together will reach a decision that will be recorded in a draft Order, and a legal professional will assist them to obtain an approved Order.

Read more articles by Emma Alfieri.

About Emma Alfieri

Emma Alfieri is a Legal Director at Suffolk firm Greene & Greene Solicitors.

Emma advises on all aspects of family law, including divorce and associated financial matters, disputes between cohabitants and child related disputes.

A member of Resolution, Emma is committed to resolving disputes as positively and agreeably as possible whilst also being motivated to obtain the best possible outcome for her clients.

Since 2012 Emma has been consistently recommended by the Legal 500 on an annual basis and in the most recent 2024 edition Emma is ranked as a “rising star”.

As an advocate of fault free divorce, Emma lobbied at Parliament with other members of Resolution in 2016 to bring about the recent changes to divorce law.

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How to Prepare for Divorce: A Comprehensive Guide
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How to Prepare for Divorce: A Comprehensive Guide

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Divorce is a significant life event that can impact various aspects of your life. Many people enter the process without fully understanding its implications, but preparation is crucial. This guide will help you navigate divorce in the UK by focusing on mental, financial, and parental preparation.

Mentally Prepare for Divorce

Divorce can be mentally and emotionally challenging. Before proceeding, ensure you’re certain about your decision. Consider marriage counselling or individual therapy to gain clarity and support.

Visualising your post-divorce future can help you focus on your goals instead of the past. Despite preparation, expect to face difficult days. Develop healthy coping strategies like maintaining physical health, exercising, spending time with friends, and engaging in enjoyable activities. A counsellor or therapist can provide valuable support during this time.

When choosing a divorce lawyer, look for someone who offers both legal expertise and empathetic guidance. A good family lawyer can ease the emotional burden of the process.

Financially Prepare for Divorce

Financial concerns are often the most pressing during a divorce. Early legal advice is crucial to understanding your entitlements and preparing for financial changes.

A family lawyer can help you understand your rights regarding the divorce settlement, the family home, and potential spousal maintenance. Plan for your immediate living expenses, as finalising a financial settlement can take months, and court proceedings may extend this period.

If you’ve depended on your spouse’s income, explore long-term financial support options such as benefits and spousal maintenance. Avoid taking actions that could be perceived as concealing funds, like moving money to a private account, as this can complicate legal proceedings.

Always consult an expert family lawyer before making significant financial decisions.

Parental Preparation for Divorce

For parents, divorce adds the concern of its impact on children and the parent-child relationship. Early agreement on childcare arrangements with your ex-partner can reduce stress for everyone involved. Drafting a formal parenting plan can provide clarity and minimise uncertainty.

Consult a family lawyer to understand your parental rights and ensure the parenting plan is fair and in your children’s best interests. Agree with your ex on what and how to tell your children about the divorce, ensuring they receive a consistent message from both parents.

Seeking Legal Advice

Being prepared for the divorce process and your new life afterward is crucial. Expert advice can make the journey smoother and less stressful. Ensure you choose experienced divorce lawyers who can provide specialist legal guidance for a smooth divorce.

Read more articles by Gemma Scourfield.

About Gemma Scourfield

Gemma is a divorce and family law solicitor with Woolley & Co, Solicitors based in Pembrokeshire West Wales. She has been based in Wales since qualifying in 2007 although has clients throughout the UK and abroad. In 2016, Gemma was accredited as an Advanced Family Law Panel Member with the Law Society which recognises her expertise in domestic abuse and financial relief.

Gemma qualified as a family law solicitor in 2007, she joined Woolley & Co from a regional firm in Wales in August 2021.

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Preparing for Divorce – A Guide to Gathering the Right Paperwork
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Preparing for Divorce – A Guide to Gathering the Right Paperwork

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Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Preparing for a divorce can be an overwhelming process – especially when it comes to gathering the necessary paperwork. This guide will help you understand what documents you need and how to organise them effectively.

By being well-prepared, you can streamline the divorce process and potentially save time and money.

Having all your documents in order also gives you a clearer picture of your situation, which can be invaluable when making important decisions.

Financial Documents

Start by collecting all relevant financial documents. Having a clear picture of your financial situation is crucial for fair asset division and potential spousal maintenance calculations. Also, it’s important to be mindful of hidden assets. These typically include:

  • Bank statements for the past 12 months
  • Credit card statements
  • Mortgage documents or rental agreements
  • Payslips and P60 forms
  • Tax returns for the past three years
  • Pension statements
  • Investment account statements
  • Documentation of any debts or loans

Property and Asset Information

Gather documents related to your property and assets. These documents will help determine the total value of your marital assets for equitable distribution.

  • House deeds or lease agreements
  • Vehicle registration documents
  • Valuations of high-value items (e.g., jewellery, art, antiques)
  • Business ownership documents, if applicable

Personal Identification Documents

Ensure you have copies of essential personal documents. These documents may be required for various legal procedures during the divorce process.

  • Birth certificates for you and any children
  • Marriage certificate
  • Passport
  • Driving licence

Child-Related Documents

If you have children, collect the relevant paperwork. This information will be vital if child arrangements need to be determined as part of the divorce proceedings.

  • School records
  • Medical records
  • Child benefit information
  • Any existing custody or visitation agreements

Other Legal Documents

Gather any existing legal documents that may be relevant. These documents can significantly impact the divorce proceedings and outcomes.

  • Prenuptial or postnuptial agreements
  • Previous court orders or judgments
  • Separation agreements
  • Wills or trusts

Organising Your Paperwork

Once you’ve gathered all the necessary documents, it’s time to organise them effectively. Create a filing system, either physical or digital, that works for you. This might involve using folders, binders, or cloud storage solutions.

Make copies of all important papers. Keep one set for yourself and prepare another for your solicitor.

Store the originals in a secure location, such as a safe deposit box or a locked filing cabinet at home.

Consider using a spreadsheet to track and summarise financial information. This can be particularly helpful for complex financial situations.

Being organised will help you and your solicitor navigate the divorce process more efficiently. It can also reduce stress by giving you a sense of control over the situation.

Final Thoughts

Gathering the right paperwork for your divorce may seem daunting, but it’s a crucial step in ensuring a fair and smooth process. Following this guide and consulting with your solicitor will prepare you to move forward with your divorce proceedings.

Remember, thorough preparation can lead to better outcomes and potentially reduce the stress and duration of the divorce process.

While collecting and organising all these documents may take time and effort – doing so will ultimately serve you well as you navigate this challenging life transition.

If you’re unsure about any aspect of document gathering, don’t hesitate to seek advice from your solicitor. They can provide guidance specific to your situation and ensure you haven’t overlooked any crucial paperwork.

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About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage breakdown.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

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The Dangers of DIY Divorces
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The Dangers of DIY Divorces

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Emma Alfieri
Emma Alfieri
Legal Director
Greene & Greene Solicitors

Since fault free divorce law came into effect on 6th April 2022, it has become much easier for parties to complete a DIY divorce without seeking legal advice. Whilst the changes were welcomed, the new law has resulted in many DIY divorcees not understanding the law and/or encountering problems along the way.

One common (and wrong) assumption is that the Final Order of divorce automatically prevents an ex-spouse from making financial claims in the future. This is false. The only way to achieve a legally binding financial “clean break” is for the parties to also submit a separate signed Consent Order to the Court embodying the financial agreement they have reached. If this additional step is not taken, an ex-spouse is entitled to make financial claims against their former spouse in the future, even after they are divorced and the assets have been divided.

A trigger for a financial claim by an ex-spouse months or years after the divorce could be, for example, if a former spouse later accumulates wealth, such as by inheritance or lottery win. This situation can be stressful and expensive to sort out and therefore it is always advisable to enter into a Consent Order at the time of divorce.

In some DIY divorce cases the parties may be aware of the requirement to have a Consent Order but do not take advice before signing the document.   This could result in a binding Order that excludes valuable assets or income that cannot later be re-visited.

Another common mistake is some of the less obvious assets of the marriage such as pensions and business interests are overlooked, instead focussing on property alone. The pension assets of a marriage can be some of the most valuable assets and are often ignored resulting in a poor outcome for the party with the lower pension provision.

Timing is another factor that can get overlooked. For example, a divorce lawyer would usually recommend a final Order of Divorce is not applied for until financial matters have been resolved and a Consent Order approved by the Court (but not in all circumstances). There could also be consequences if a party re-marries before they have properly dealt with financial matters.

Believe it or not, every case is different. The individual facts need to be applied to each set of circumstances. Whilst many DIY divorcees will scour the internet for advice, there are no on-line resources that provide the answer to every single situation/scenario.  That’s why is it is always advisable to take legal advice early on, even if that advice is limited to just one consultation.

In conclusion, whilst a DIY divorce will always be the cheapest option, it is important that parties going through divorce can properly understand what they need to do, when, and to consider any other factors they may not have thought about.  This will ensure parties do not find themselves in a position where their quest to save money could be a decision they later live to regret.

This article is only intended to be a summary and not specific legal advice.

Read more articles by Emma Alfieri.

About Emma Alfieri

Emma Alfieri is a Legal Director at Suffolk firm Greene & Greene Solicitors.

Emma advises on all aspects of family law, including divorce and associated financial matters, disputes between cohabitants and child related disputes.

A member of Resolution, Emma is committed to resolving disputes as positively and agreeably as possible whilst also being motivated to obtain the best possible outcome for her clients.

Since 2012 Emma has been consistently recommended by the Legal 500 on an annual basis and in the most recent 2024 edition Emma is ranked as a “rising star”.

As an advocate of fault free divorce, Emma lobbied at Parliament with other members of Resolution in 2016 to bring about the recent changes to divorce law.

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How to Know If It’s the Right Time for a Divorce
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How to Know If It’s the Right Time for a Divorce

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Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Deciding to end a marriage is one of life’s most challenging decisions. While there’s no universal “right time” for divorce – certain signs may indicate it’s time to consider this option. In this article we will explore key indicators and important considerations when contemplating divorce.

Signs Your Marriage May Be in Trouble

Persistent unhappiness is often the first sign that a marriage is in trouble. If you’ve been consistently unhappy for an extended period, despite efforts to improve the relationship – it may be time to reassess your marriage.

This feeling often goes hand-in-hand with a breakdown in communication. When attempts at meaningful dialogue consistently fail or lead to arguments – it can signal a fundamental issue in the relationship.

Infidelity is another major factor that can lead to divorce. Repeated unfaithfulness or an inability to rebuild trust after infidelity can be deal-breakers for many couples. Even more serious is the presence of abuse in a relationship. Physical, emotional, or verbal abuse, like financial control, should never be tolerated and is a clear sign to seek help and consider leaving.

Sometimes, couples find themselves growing apart due to diverging values or goals. If you and your spouse have fundamentally different life aspirations or core values that can’t be reconciled, it may lead to irreconcilable differences.

Red Flags That Shouldn’t Be Ignored

A complete loss of intimacy, both physical and emotional – can indicate a deep disconnect between partners. This lack of closeness often signals that the relationship has moved from a romantic partnership to a mere cohabitation arrangement.

Addiction issues can also strain a relationship beyond repair. Untreated substance abuse or other addictive behaviours not only affect the individual but can have devastating effects on the entire family unit.

Financial problems, particularly financial infidelity or constant money stress – can erode trust and stability in a marriage. Persistent financial dishonesty or unresolvable conflicts over money management often lead couples to consider divorce.

Some couples stay together solely for the sake of their children. While considering children’s well-being is crucial – remaining in a dysfunctional marriage may not be in their best interest long-term. Children are perceptive and can often sense tension and unhappiness between their parents.

If you’ve exhausted all options – tried counselling, communication strategies, and other interventions without success – it might be time to consider separation or divorce.

Important Considerations Before Deciding

Before making a final decision about divorce, it’s crucial to seek professional help. Engage in marriage counselling to explore all possibilities for reconciliation. A trained therapist can provide valuable insights and tools to help you navigate your relationship challenges.

Consider a trial separation. A period of living apart can provide perspective and clarity on the relationship. It allows both partners to experience life without the other and can sometimes rekindle appreciation for the marriage or confirm that separation is the right choice.

Consulting a divorce solicitor is also an important step. Understanding the legal implications and potential outcomes of a divorce can help you make a more informed decision. A solicitor can explain your rights, potential financial impacts, and issues related to child custody if applicable.

Lastly, take time for self-reflection. Consider your own needs, well-being, and future goals. Think about what you want your life to look like in the coming years and whether your current relationship aligns with those aspirations.

Final Thoughts

The decision to divorce is deeply personal and should never be made hastily. If you’re consistently feeling that your marriage is beyond repair and is causing more harm than good – it may be time to seriously consider your options.

Remember, seeking professional guidance can help you navigate this difficult decision and its aftermath.

Whatever you decide, prioritise your well-being and that of any children involved. There’s no shame in ending a relationship that no longer serves you – just as there’s value in fighting for a marriage that still has the potential for happiness and growth.

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About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage breakdown.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

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Divorce and Separation Checklist
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Divorce and Separation Checklist

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Emma Alfieri
Emma Alfieri
Legal Director
Greene & Greene Solicitors

Since the changes to divorce law (in England and Wales) on 6th April 2022, it is now relatively straight forward for individuals to obtain a divorce on-line. The welcome changes have helped parties to navigate the divorce process in a more simplified way meaning individuals going through the divorce process no longer have to consult a divorce lawyer.

Whilst the new ‘fault free’ divorce law has been beneficial to divorcing couples in saving costs and reducing conflict, there are a worrying number of individuals who now take no legal advice whatsoever. This is concerning in relation to dividing the family finances as becoming divorced does not ‘close off’ financial matters and therefore financial claims are often left open, with the individuals blissfully unaware.

Therefore we would always advise individuals going through divorce to have at least one session of legal advice so they have full knowledge of the perils and pitfalls of divorce.  Below are some key points :

Seek early legal advice

It is important to seek legal advice early.  An initial consultation can be invaluable and is often much less daunting than one might think. Family lawyers are very ‘normal’ people who will listen and not judge.

Therapy/ counsellor

If there is a possibility of getting the relationship back on track, a joint marriage counsellor or therapist may be useful. If the relationship is over, an individual therapist or counsellor can help individuals to work through the issues surrounding the separation and to help to deal with the transition.

Try to keep things amicable

Try to be pragmatic and reasonable where possible as this will make the separation much easier to deal with. Try and work together, particularly where there are children involved. Arguing over minor issues and matters of principle will increase conflict, stress and costs, and is rarely productive.

Living arrangements

Consider where both parties will live. Will this be in the same house together?  Sometimes this will be a necessity and is another reason to try and minimise the tension.  Alternatively, if one person will leave then a plan should be put in place for who that will be, where will they go and how two households will be funded.

Arrangements for children

The initial arrangements for the care of the children will be a priority. Take time to consider when and where they will see each parent.  Having an agreed plan in place from the offset will ensure it is as stress-free as possible for the whole family.  A parenting plan could help – Parenting Plan – Cafcass – Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service

Reaching agreements

If a financial agreement is reached between the parties, ensure the agreement is formalised in writing, and embodied into a Financial Remedy Order. If the agreement is verbal or not formalised in the correct way, beware – it will not be a binding agreement.

Alternatives to court

There are many alternatives to Court which should be considered to avoid court and reduce the tension, particularly where there are children involved.

Do not forget about pensions

The sharing of pensions is just as important as the sharing of capital assets such as property and must not be overlooked.  A Pension on Divorce Expert may need to be involved.

Financial and tax advice

It may be useful to speak to an accountant in relation to capital gains tax issues, for example, if more than one property is owned or if one party moves out and lives elsewhere, there could be adverse tax consequences.

Wills

It is important to consider making or updating any Will previously made to ensure that those named to inherit are still correct. It is also worthwhile considering death in service benefits under any pension provision.

This article is only intended to be a summary and not specific legal advice.

Read more articles by Emma Alfieri.

About Emma Alfieri

Emma Alfieri is a Legal Director at Suffolk firm Greene & Greene Solicitors.

Emma advises on all aspects of family law, including divorce and associated financial matters, disputes between cohabitants and child related disputes.

A member of Resolution, Emma is committed to resolving disputes as positively and agreeably as possible whilst also being motivated to obtain the best possible outcome for her clients.

Since 2012 Emma has been consistently recommended by the Legal 500 on an annual basis and in the most recent 2024 edition Emma is ranked as a “rising star”.

As an advocate of fault free divorce, Emma lobbied at Parliament with other members of Resolution in 2016 to bring about the recent changes to divorce law.

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Navigating Divorce As An LGBTQ+ Couple In The UK.
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Navigating Divorce As An LGBTQ+ Couple In The UK

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Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Divorce is a significant life event that can have profound emotional, financial, and legal implications for anyone. Unfortunately, for LGBTQ+ individuals, the journey can be further complicated by societal prejudices, lack of understanding, and specific legal nuances. While the legalisation of same-sex marriage in the UK in 2014 marked a significant milestone, there are still complexities and potential challenges that LGBTQ+ couples may face during the divorce process.

Grounds for Divorce

In recent years, the UK introduced no-fault divorce laws, allowing couples to divorce without having to cite reasons such as unreasonable behaviour or adultery. This change brings greater simplicity and reduces potential conflict around assigning fault.

However, for LGBTQ+ couples, there may still be nuances to navigate when it comes to defining concepts like adultery within the context of their relationships. Some LGBTQ+ relationships have non-traditional structures or different boundaries around monogamy. Working with lawyers experienced in LGBTQ+ family law can ensure these nuances are properly understood and addressed.

Additionally, LGBTQ+ couples may face bias or lack of understanding from some legal professionals if explanations of relationship dynamics are required as part of proceedings. An LGBTQ+-friendly legal team is crucial for ensuring the divorce process is fair and respectful of all relationship styles.

Division of Assets and Finances

The division of assets and finances is a critical aspect of any divorce proceeding. For LGBTQ+ couples, this process may involve unique challenges. For example, if one partner has been financially dependent on the other, determining appropriate spousal support can be complex. Additionally, issues around property ownership and financial entitlements may require careful consideration, particularly in cases where the couple had a long-term relationship before same-sex marriage was legalised.

In a traditional heterosexual marriage, the division of assets and finances is typically based on the principle of fairness, taking into account factors such as the duration of the marriage, each spouse’s financial contributions, and any dependent children. However, for LGBTQ+ couples, additional factors may come into play.

One significant challenge can arise when one partner has been financially dependent on the other for an extended period. In some cases, LGBTQ+ individuals may have sacrificed career opportunities or financial independence due to societal prejudices or the lack of legal recognition for their relationship. Determining appropriate spousal support in these situations can be complex and may require careful consideration of the couple’s unique circumstances.

Another potential issue is property ownership and financial entitlements accumulated during the period before same-sex marriage was legalised in the UK. In some cases, LGBTQ+ couples may have been in long-term committed relationships for decades before being able to legally marry. Determining how to divide assets and finances in these situations can be intricate, as the legal framework for property rights and financial entitlements may have been different during that time.

Child Custody and Parental Rights

LGBTQ+ individuals have the legal right to adopt and raise children in the UK, and their parental rights are recognised in divorce proceedings. However, navigating child custody and visitation arrangements can be intricate, especially in cases involving surrogacy or co-parenting arrangements.

The legalisation of same-sex marriage in the UK has brought greater clarity and protection for LGBTQ+ parents’ rights in divorce proceedings. Regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity – both parents are entitled to seek custody and visitation rights, and the court’s primary consideration is the best interests of the child.

However, there may be unique challenges for LGBTQ+ couples when it comes to child custody and parental rights. For example, in cases involving surrogacy or assisted reproductive technologies, legal issues around parentage and parental rights can be complex.

By understanding the legal rights and seeking guidance from experienced professionals, LGBTQ+ couples can navigate the complexities of child custody and parental rights during divorce proceedings with greater confidence and clarity. Ultimately, the primary focus should be on ensuring the best possible outcome for the children involved.

Domestic Partnerships and Civil Unions

Before same-sex marriage became legal in the UK, many LGBTQ+ couples entered into domestic partnerships or civil unions. The dissolution of these partnerships may involve different legal processes compared to traditional divorce proceedings. Couples in this situation must seek specialised legal advice to ensure their rights and interests are adequately protected.

In the UK, civil partnerships were introduced in 2005, providing same-sex couples with legal recognition and rights similar to those of married couples. However, the dissolution of a civil partnership followed a different legal process than divorce. After same-sex marriage became legal in 2014, existing civil partnerships could be converted into marriages, but some couples may have chosen to remain in their civil partnership.

For couples seeking to dissolve a civil partnership, the process is known as “dissolution” rather than divorce.

Additionally, the division of assets and financial entitlements in the dissolution of a civil partnership may follow different rules and guidelines compared to divorce proceedings. Legal professionals must be well-versed in these nuances to ensure a fair and equitable distribution.

Similarly, for LGBTQ+ couples who entered into domestic partnerships or other forms of legal recognition before civil partnerships or same-sex marriage were available, the dissolution process may involve unique complexities. These partnerships may have been governed by different laws and regulations, and the division of assets and financial entitlements could be subject to different considerations.

Discrimination and Sensitivity Concerns

While the law aims to be impartial and non-discriminatory, unconscious biases and prejudices can still influence the attitudes and actions of some legal professionals.

One area where discrimination can manifest is in child custody disputes. Despite legal protections, some judges or legal professionals may harbour biases that could influence their decisions regarding parental rights or the best interests of the child. LGBTQ+ parents may face unfair scrutiny or assumptions about their ability to provide a suitable environment for their children.

To mitigate the risks of discrimination and ensure a fair and equitable process, it’s crucial for LGBTQ+ couples to work with legal teams that are well-versed in LGBTQ+ family law and have a proven track record of sensitivity and inclusivity. These professionals can help advocate for their clients’ rights, challenge biased assumptions, and ensure that the unique circumstances and perspectives of LGBTQ+ couples are respected throughout the proceedings.

It’s important to remember that while discrimination and insensitivity may still exist, the legal system and society as a whole are continuously evolving to become more inclusive and accepting of LGBTQ+ individuals and families. By staying informed, advocating for their rights, and seeking out legal help – LGBTQ+ couples can navigate the divorce process with greater confidence and resilience.

Final Thoughts

Even though the journey may be challenging, LGBTQ+ couples need to understand their rights and seek guidance from professionals who are well-versed in LGBTQ+ family law. By approaching the process with understanding, sensitivity, and a commitment to fairness, couples can navigate the complexities of divorce and move forward with greater clarity and resilience.

Read more articles by Chris Sweetman.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage break down.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

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