Many couples remain married despite infidelity and this is often celebrated as marital success by both the infidelity support community and marital therapists. What is discussed less often is the quality and nature of the post-infidelity marriage – unfortunately many are little
This was not how I envisioned it. A year ago, my wife and I reached retirement. We have been working on our dream home for several years. It was finally finished, and we were set to move in and then my whole
The current COVID-19 situation has already had far-reaching implications in many aspects of our lives, however one aspect of its long-term impact which has so far gone under the radar is its effect on family dynamics. As experts in family law, this
What is emotional abuse and what does it look like? Linda was in an emotionally abusive relationship for most of her 25 year marriage. In this interview, she speaks about her own experience, as well as what emotional abuse looks like and
I’m everything a man should be. I’m as constant as the rolling sea. I’m tall and dark and handsome I’m generous and kind. You could search the whole world over, no better man you’d find. Yes I’m everything a man should be.
I didn’t pop the question and I didn’t buy the ring, She said “you men are all the same you only want one thing”. I said “if I denied it I would surely be a liar, Its true I only want
I was married to a liar for 25 years. At a very personal level, I have first-hand knowledge of the devastation lying creates in people’s lives. I know that liars can be clever, charming, smug, and thoroughly convincing. Scott Peck, in People
Divorce has long been touted as being almost inevitable for couples getting married in recent years, with the phrase “1 in 2 marriages end in divorce” said far too often. However, it may surprise some of you to learn that divorce is
Listening to a friend talk about their divorce, I pause and think — this all sounds familiar. My friend details the lead up to her separation and there are so many similarities it’s a bit unnerving. Same actions, same words, same behaviour.
You may have heard of ‘switch therapy’ from the popular Channel 4 programmes Seven Year Switch USA and Australia where four couples are assisted by two relationship experts, Dr Dan Shapiro and Dr Jessica Griffin who specialise in relational trauma, high conflict
For those of you who have been dealing with a difficult breakup this year it will have taken its toll. Emotional stress from the rollercoaster of negative emotions combined with the new practical challenges that come with being newly single can be
Couples Coaching for 2017 – The case of Clive and Romaine Smith, an excellent example of how some timely talking and listening can help save a relationship. This example also demonstrates that couples coaching is about practicalities and problem solving. Not so
“I’m scared to leave my relationship and that’s why I’ve stayed for so long” a recent client told me during a coaching session. In fact I probably hear this at least 5 times a week for a variety of different reasons. This
