When Jay met Katharine it was though he met his soul mate but as you may have guessed already, this is their divorce story.
Although they were opposites – she is fiery and he is quite laid back – they seemed to click. Katharine is a go-getter and Jay is more introspective. They met each other’s friends and family and did not see the need for an extended courtship.
Jay’s long-term friends warned him that they were mismatched and they should not get married. They were concerned that he was being guided by lust and had taken leave of his senses.
Jay now admits his buddies were right and wishes that he had paid heed to their warning. Katherine is a Type A personality and Jay is a definite Type B. This mismatch started to cause numerous problems in their daily lives from where to vacation to how to spend a weekend at home. Katharine is intense and has to be around other people and Jay enjoys quieter pursuits.
Jay owned a small business before he met Katharine. It made no sense to bring Katharine into this company as an employee when they were barely getting along at home. Not surprisingly their work styles were quite different as well.
Being with each other 24/7 led to a breaking point. The work environment deteriorated and loyal employees were becoming frustrated.
Jay filed for divorce and they are going through an acrimonious one at present but he is confident that he will be able to keep his business in the divorce since he had taken precautions with having “legal work” done before and during marriage. Jay remains vague regarding if the legal work is considered a pre-nup.
The income derived from the business during marriage is considered marital property,though. He claims he legally made sure that Katharine was considered an employee and not an owner.
Although Jay has a realtor’s licence, Katharine is insisting that he not be allowed to handle their house sale. She moved across country and is attempting to dictate the day to day minutia.
Today, Jay tells his employees Type A people should marry another one and the same with Type B. He claims the two ought not to marry each other. He tells people to listen to old friends’ warnings when they consistently say someone is not right for you. Another piece of advice is to protect your pre-marital assets legally to ensure that you keep them if divorced.
Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).
Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.
She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.
Author of The Woman’s Holistic Guide to Divorce