Jason had a high paying job working for a couple in the Hollywood film industry.
Their parties were legendary and perks were numerous.
After several years, Jason started dating one of their daughters. Annabel was a party girl who danced into the wee hours and seemed to thrive on the club culture. Jason enjoyed socializing, but not as an everyday occurrence. He accompanied Annabel to many of these soirees, but could not keep up with her.
Jason and Annabel did not have deep, meaningful conversations, but rather on more superficial topics such as the latest celebrity antics.
She was lively and did not have to work. Even though they had a tempestuous relationship, Jason was sure that Annabel would settle down after they married. They wed after eighteen months of dating.
Annabel kept up her partying ways and had zero interest in domestic duties. If her husband joined her in the clubs then fine, and if not that was fine too. Jason began to realise that people do not change and what you see is what you get.
Annabel told Jason that she was going to the Florida Keyes with her sister and would see him in a week or so. Jason thought this seemed strange, but it was out of his control. When Annabel returned, she seemed distant and made phone calls in private. She was secretive about her trip and had many conversations with her sister.
Annabel and Jason took a short weekend holiday to San Diego and he left his phone on record in their room. After Jason left, Annabel called her new lover that she met when with her sister. Jason confronted Annabel with the evidence, but she refused to admit any wrong doing.
She denied that her actions were out of line for a married woman, so they got a divorce – a hollywood divorce.
Jason was fired by Annabel’s parents and is living off the last of his savings now. Seems like he is being blackballed by his former employers in the film world. He has a cousin who is a musician in Hollywood, and is contemplating asking him for some job assistance.
Jason stresses that if someone is a party girl when dating, it is unrealistic to expect her to become a domestic goddess when the wedding ring is slipped upon her finger.
A shallow person can be fun to dance with, but is not marriage material.
He also cautions about not mixing a love life with your job, especially if dating the boss’s daughter. Next time around, he is going to have a pre-marital session to ensure compatibility.
Wendi Schuller is a published author who has conducted classes on various subjects. She draws upon her knowledge as a nurse, Neuro-Linguistic Programmer (NLP), and hypnotherapist, providing a blueprint to guide women through this difficult transition. Schuller hired an attorney for a court divorce, but decided to go the collaborative route instead and has worked with a mediator post-divorce.
Author of The Woman’s Holistic Guide to Divorce