Coping with Life after Divorce – Why Financial Discipline Matters

Charis Rooks
Charis Rooks
Author and Speaker

One of the hardest things to do after any divorce is to accept discipline.

I remember sitting in front of a financial advisor a year after my second divorce. She was going over some things with me and I became very argumentative.

I had excuses for all my financial mistakes and it was all due to the divorce.

I was so negative that she looked me in the eye and said I cannot teach you if you’re not willing to learn. I looked at her really funny and followed my look with “what did you just say to me”?

She repeated herself and I walked out.

I hated that she was correcting me and teaching me how to be more disciplined with my financial matters.

Isn’t that crazy how I acted when I came to her to help me be more disciplined in the areas of financial matters, because she was the expert?

Does that sound familiar to any of you?

We all have encountered this sometime in our lives. But it’s funny how a year later I was sitting in front of her again because I was finally ready for change. I had to humble myself and ask her to please show me the correct way to make financial investments and decisions as a single mother with two children.

I had to stop and say yes due to my past decisions and my current circumstances I am in need of help. I also learned firsthand there is help for you but you will have to learn and to learn you must first embrace discipline.


After her second divorce, Charis decided that it was time to do something not only for herself but also for other women going through similar struggles.

As a survivor of divorce, Charis knows all about the lies and confusion that come with divorce. Though divorce does eventually end, the emotional scars and stress that come with a difficult divorce do not.

Charis is passionate about speaking the truth to women who are caught in the endless cycle of struggle after divorce and she encourages them to share their stories to help provide not only counseling for themselves but also support for others.

Charis does not limit her time to Draw for Women but also reaches out in other ways.

She is an accomplished and published author, having penned God Rarest Diamonds: A Proverbs Life after Divorce Devotional for women and Coming Soon- The 30 Day Life after Divorce Prayer Challenge for Women, which provides encouragement, support, and spiritual enlightenment to those who are struggling, helping readers bring peace to their life journeys. In addition to Draw for Women and writing,

Charis has a personal life that is as full as her professional life.

Charis is married to a wonderful man and is the mother of two talented and beautiful daughters.

Charis earned her Bachelor’s Degree in Business Technical Management with a concentration in Small Business and Entrepreneurship- Magna Cum Laude in Spring of 2016 and is currently pursuing her MBA.

When she is not working or studying, Charis loves to read, write, and travel. Charis is a dedicated individual who wants nothing more than to share her ideas, experiences, and knowledge to help other women who are struggling with divorce to become comfortable with themselves and with the state of their lives again. 


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