A Divorce Story
Tim was adopted by a couple who already had a seven year old daughter and a nine year old son.
The parents were loving, however Tim never really connected to his siblings due to the age differences.
When Tim was thirty, he met a twenty year old woman and they married a year later. This couple had different life experiences and expectations. Tim said that he felt set in his ways in his early thirties and his wife was more of a free spirit and wanted to have fun. She was more tolerant of the differences in people and Tim was more comfortable with familiar people and settings.
Tim knew early on that this union was a big mistake, but he thought that he would stick it out.
Their marriage lasted for several years. He claims that his being rigid led to their divorce along with his young wife’s flitting around like a butterfly.
In his small town in Wisconsin, there were no formal support groups for divorcing people. There were generic women’s groups, but nothing for the fellows. He was not close to his siblings, so did not get the support that he needed. Tim felt that divorce was such a lonely and frustrating time.
Post-divorce he went to San Francisco to meet like-minded people. Tim felt like a stranger and encountered folks who seemed superficial. Running away did not work out for him. Tim now lives in a medium size city in Wyoming and is happier with his life. Tim dates women closer to his age and with similar backgrounds.