Self-medicating is an unhealthy way of dealing with acute stress and people shared how they survived divorce and beyond without hitting the bottle.
Gardening is what got Aiden through a tough divorce situation, and is a wonderful way to center oneself by taking care of plants.
They depend upon you, giving purpose and focus with a daily routine to your life. Aiden looks forward to and is rewarded by vibrant flowers and organic vegetables. He has a connection to others by sharing his bounty.
Jane got in a singles group post-divorce with both genders to meet a variety of people for friendships. She also joined a women’s group since many others had relationship woes and understood what she was experiencing. They have been in similar situations and can impart their insights.
Lastly, Jane became a member of a divorce group who discussed the specific aspects of this situation, such as visitation and in-laws. Jane felt these three types of groups gave her an outlet for dealing with divorce rather than by heavy drinking.
Marlie said during a stressful time, a bottle of wine calls out to her. She avoids temptation by bolting out of the house for a latte or manicure, a way of nurturing herself without the booze. Marlie stated that she would still have to face the problem the next morning and would rather do so without a hangover and headache.
Polling people provided more tips to avoid self- medicating, such as by subscribing to a web site that sends positive quotes and affirmations your way. Katy endured an acrimonious divorce by “going to a place away from everyone to get centered.” This was in a quiet room in her house or in nature which instilled clarity and calmness for subsequent court dates. Ethan adopted a cat right after his divorce for companionship to prevent loneliness. He now volunteers with a cat rescue organization.
If still feeling the desire to self-medicate, then seek medical assistance. A course of anti- depressants may be helpful with therapy. Remember chocolate does wonders for boosting one’s mood.
Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).
Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.
She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.