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Grandparents' Rights: What Happens When Your Grandchildren's Parents Divorce?
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Grandparents’ Rights: What Happens When Your Grandchildren’s Parents Divorce?

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Rina Mistry
Rina Mistry
Senior Associate & Solicitor
Nelsons Solicitors

When two parents decide to divorce, there is of course a ripple effect on other members of the family, including children and grandparents. Rina Mistry, senior associate specialising in family law at leading East Midlands law firm Nelsons discusses the legal rights of grandparents, and the challenges that can come up during a parental divorce.

Grandparents play an important role in their grandchildren’s lives – they often act as secondary guardians, they may be involved in special occasions like birthdays and family events, and they can be a link to a grandchild’s traditional culture or religion.

Separation and divorce in any family is an unsettling and uncertain time, with potentially new living arrangements and changes to routines for children and other relatives.

There is often an assumption that grandparents have automatic rights to see their grandchildren, when unfortunately, this is not the case. The law does not give grandparents (maternal or paternal) any automatic rights to be in their grandchild’s lives. This means that if parents choose to keep their children away from grandparents, they are free to do so. This can have a significant impact on the grandparent-grandchild relationship.

Challenges

Grandparents may face a number of hurdles when navigating their grandchildren’s parents’ divorce. Communication may become more challenging, particularly between ex-spouses, which can make it hard to keep contact with grandchildren – especially those that are very young.

In more serious situations, there can be the issue of parental alienation – usually this happens when one parent intentionally tries to damage the relationship between the other parent and the children by speaking badly about them or enforcing negative views. This can also happen with grandparents, which can be traumatic for grandchildren who may have had a close bond previously.

Talking it out

Despite not having automatic rights, grandparents still have options available to them. The first and usually the most effective is to try resolving all issues between the adults, whether it is directly or via the mediation process.

The situation can vary from case to case; it may be that the relationship between the adults has broken down or the grandparents are concerned for the children, and in an attempt to intervene they are denied any further time with the grandchild.

If legal advice is needed, grandparents will always be asked whether or not they have attempted to speak with the parents of the child to try and resolve the issues and further consideration will be applied as to whether correspondence from solicitors may assist to resolve the issues amicably.

If an agreement cannot be reached and a referral to mediation has not yet been made, this will be the next step. Mediation is not only a better option to try and resolve the issues but also far more cost-effective than making an application to Court. Compulsory attendance will be needed at a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM). There are exemptions available, for example if the grandchild is at significant risk of harm, but in most cases, the Court will expect grandparents to attempt to resolve issues through mediation. 

Court application

If mediation is considered inappropriate or is refused by the other party, then the only available option is making a formal application to Court to resolve the child arrangements. This is the last option most solicitors would advise, however, this may be the only available option if all else has failed.

As grandparents hold no parental responsibility, they will need to first ask the Court for permission before being able to make an application for a Child Arrangements Order. If the Court grants permission, then a formal application for a Child Arrangements Order can proceed. However, if the Court does not grant permission, progress would go no further.

Like all applications, the Court will consider each matter individually but must take into account the following:

  • The nature of the application
  • The applicant’s connection with the child
  • Any risk of the proposed application disrupting the child’s life to the extent that they would be harmed by it.

If Court is the only option available, then it is highly recommended that you seek independent legal advice regarding your position and next steps.

Maintaining relationships

Whatever course of action is taken, respectful communication is highly encouraged throughout the process between not only parents but all family members. Not only does this support a more efficient process, but it limits the emotional impact on children and paves the way for better relationships in the future.

Grandparents should take the same approach to not speak negatively about either parent in front of their grandchildren and instead look to focus on their best interests and ensuring they feel cared for and supported.

For more information on grandparents’ rights during a parental divorce, please contact the expert family law team at Nelsons, by visiting www.nelsonslaw.co.uk/personal-legal-services/family-law-solicitors/children-law

About Rina Mistry

Rina Mistry is a Senior Associate in Nelsons’ expert Family Law team, specialising in complex Private Children Law and focusing on several niche areas. These include parental alienation, cross-border jurisdictional disputes, and cases involving serious allegations of harm. She also handles matters related to internal and external relocation, whether temporary or permanent and international child abduction. Additionally, Rina is experienced in private children matters where a child or parent is neurodiverse, surrogacy, applications on behalf of grandparents, and same-sex parenting cases.

Rina takes a client-focussed approach and aims to achieve the best possible outcome for all her clients, considering and tailoring her advice to each individual set of circumstances, whilst always ensuring that the children’s best interests remain at the forefront.  Rina can support her clients in direct negotiations concerning arrangements, issuing a Court application or using alternative dispute resolution, such as mediation or arbitration.

Alongside children-related matters, Rina is also experienced in advising on all matters arising out of divorce and separation.

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Agreeing Living Arrangements for Autistic Children When Separating
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Agreeing Living Arrangements for Autistic Children When Separating

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Rina Mistry
Rina Mistry
Senior Associate & Solicitor
Nelsons Solicitors

According to statistics, there is an increased risk of separation between parents of children with autism due to the challenges posed by the condition placing an additional strain on the relationship.

Agreeing on living arrangements for autistic children when parents are separated can be a complex and challenging process. Rina Mistry, senior associate from Nelsons solicitors is outlining some of the steps and considerations that may help in such situations.

Child’s best interest

First and foremost, it is vital that the child’s well-being and best interests are prioritised over and above personal differences. Parents must consider the child’s unique needs, routines, and preferences when deciding on living arrangements. This must be made a priority; the focus is the children’s best interests and not the interests of the parents.

Open communication

Parting couples need to maintain an open, respectful, and constructive communication with the other parent. Discussing the child’s needs, strengths, challenges, and potential living arrangements should be carried out in a calm and constructive manner. This does not necessarily need to be in person, and it is now very common for parents to use court-approved apps as an effective way of co-parenting.

Parents need to acknowledge and respect the other parent’s role in their child’s life. A positive relationship between the child and both parents should also be encouraged.

Consistency and routine

Children with autism often display repetitive behaviours and interests, meaning that they benefit from having a strict routine in place. One way in which to do this would be for the parents to remain living in the family home together. However, this might not be practical in the circumstances and could certainly present difficulties.

Nesting or birdnesting is becoming increasingly popular among separating parents and can provide a short-term solution to the arrangements for the children while long-term plans are being made. The advantage of a nesting arrangement is that the children will remain in the family home (the nest), while the parents leave and return to the property sequentially.

At the very least, parents need to aim for consistency and stability in their child’s living environment and routines. This could include creating a schedule that allows the child to adapt comfortably between both parents’ homes.

Collaborative decision-making

Parents should seek to collaborate on and agree on a detailed parenting plan that includes the child’s specific needs and care requirements and the living schedule, including weekdays, weekends, holidays, and vacations.

The parenting plan should address how both parents can support the child’s therapies, schooling, medical appointments, and any other important decisions that need to be taken and agreed upon.

Flexibility and adaptability

It is important to be flexible and willing to adapt the living and contact arrangements as the child’s needs change over time. Parents are also advised to maintain a cooperative approach, allowing adjustments when necessary.

Professional input

Based upon the circumstances, advice from therapists, educators, or healthcare professionals who understand your child’s needs may need to be obtained. Their insights and recommendations can provide guidance in creating suitable living arrangements.

Documentation

Separating couples should keep records of all agreements and modifications made regarding their children’s living arrangements. Written documentation can help prevent misunderstandings and serve as a reference if conflicts arise.

Self-care

Finally, take care of yourselves as parents. Managing a child’s needs, especially one with autism, can be demanding. Ensure you have a support system and take time for self-care to manage stress effectively.

Remember, each situation is unique, and what works for one family may not work for another. Flexibility, empathy, and a child-centred approach are key in finding suitable living arrangements that meet the needs of an autistic child in a separated family.

Guidance and advice from a specialist family law solicitor can be instrumental in navigating these challenges and can ensure clarity and enforceability in the arrangements made.

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About Rina Minstry

Rina qualified as a Solicitor in 2013 and joined the expert Family Law team at Nelsons in December 2020 as a Senior Associate, following its acquisition of Glynis Wright & Co.

Rina advises on a wide range of family law work, including divorce, civil partnership dissolution, finances, separation agreements, child arrangements, parental responsibility, cohabitation/living together agreements, Prohibited Steps and Specific Issues Orders, child relocation, parental alienation and domestic violence.

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