The Dress

Linda Simpson
Linda Simpson –
Divorce and Parenting Consultant
Writer and Speaker

The Dress

The colours in this portrait are in sharp contrast, bumping up against each other, cold and bold
The kitchen window frames my single silhouette in this scene, the pose rigid and frigid
How am I feeling?  Relief – a decision was made. Mixing it up are the odd skips of my heart.
Outside on the street a large, black garbage bag slumps on the sidewalk
In the snow.
It looks a bit like Jabba the Hut in his curbside garbage day kingdom or maybe it’s Absolem, that hookah-smoking caterpillar pointing the way ahead.
I can see their puffed lips and sinister smile appearing in the folds of the bag as it settles into place, the twist tie wrenching it all up into a curved head.
Inside the black bag is a white dress,
All satin, lace and crusted pearls.
Briefly my mind wanders – What is a crusted pearl?
The dithering about what to do with the dress is finally over,
For years, ironically in retrospect, it was bagged up in a dark corner of the closet.
It is tainted, the lustre is long gone from the silky, smooth satin.
The waxy scent of a candlelit night many years ago snuffed out by reality.
I hear the garbage truck’s giant jaw grinding somewhere nearby, chewing up the rubbish from my neighbour’s weekly life
Then the gears shift as it gets closer, the motor is sluggish and then surges, lumbering along, slowly heaving its way down the street
The phone starts chirping off in another room.
Later when I look out the window
There is nothing left on the sidewalk but a wet, black, bare patch surrounded by a little mound of white flakey snow. The kingdom has been abandoned.
Feeling far less rigid and cold – I wonder-
If deceit were a colour then what would it be?

“I take strength from your calm, your honesty, and the hope you give me for my future.” Cheryl

Linda is a fresh voice in the divorce advice world. She offers a pragmatic, common sense approach to life after divorce issues based on over twenty years surviving and thriving following a very traumatic divorce.

As a single parent, her sons are an enormous source of joy in her life. She is a loving mother and grandmother to four delightful grandchildren.

She holds a degree from the University of Waterloo with concentrations in sociology and philosophy and guidance counselling certification from Queen’s University.

She is an accredited trainer for The Peace Education Foundation, a leader in conflict resolution training. The institute is ‘dedicated to educating children and adults in the dynamics of conflict resolution and promoting peacemaking skills in home, schools, and community.’

In a long and successful teaching career, she also served as a counsellor and workshop facilitator for SEL (social emotional learning) programming and The Peace Education Foundation throughout her school and school district and was a frequent conference presenter for SUNY Potsdam Faculty of Education USA.

She writes for The Divorce Magazine UK and her blog is seen regularly on Huffington Post Canada where the focus is life after divorce and parenting issues.

She is a writer and poet and is presently at work on a book based on her divorce experience.

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