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Term-Time Holiday Fines: What Happens When Separated Parents Disagree
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Term-Time Holiday Fines: What Happens When Separated Parents Disagree

Teresa Davidson
Teresa Davidson
Partner & Head of Family
Winston Solicitors

Every August, the same story runs. The fines have gone up. It’s £80 per parent, per child, doubling to £160 if you don’t pay in time. Take three children to Spain in June, and the cost gets uncomfortable quickly.

However, what the coverage almost never addresses is the household where the decision was never a joint one. Because a notice is issued per parent, a single trip can produce a fine for a parent who did not book it, did not agree to it and did not go. That is not an anomaly or a misapplication of the rules; it is simply how the framework works.

The framework introduced in August 2024 was designed to bring consistency to how absence is treated across England. It is admirably clear about what triggers a notice and what it costs. It is silent on the question separated parents most often ask: my ex booked this, so why am I being fined for it?

What the Rules Say About Fines

The National Framework for Penalty Notices took effect on 19 August 2024. It sets a single national threshold: a notice must be considered where a child has 10 sessions of unauthorised absence, usually five school days, within a rolling 10 school week period. Those absences do not need to be consecutive.

A first notice is £80 per parent, per child, if paid within 21 days, rising to £160 if paid between days 22 and 28. A second notice for the same child within three years is a flat £160. After two notices in three years, the local authority considers prosecution instead, and a conviction means a criminal record. Head teachers can authorise absence only in exceptional circumstances, and cheaper flights are not one of them.

All of that tells you what a fine costs, but none of it tells you what happens when the two people with parental responsibility disagree.

Why the Law Counts You as a Parent Even if You Said No

Here is the point that catches people out, and the reason the framework produces results that feel so unjust to separated families.

For education law purposes, “parent” is defined far more widely than most people expect. It captures every biological or adoptive parent, everyone else holding parental responsibility, and, separately, any person who has care of the child. It says nothing about who booked the holiday, who paid for it, or who travelled. The legislation asks who the child’s parents are, not who made the decision, and that distinction is the whole difficulty for separated families.

The practical effect is that a parent who did not consent, did not book and stayed at home all week still falls within the definition, and can be issued with a notice on that basis. Depending on the circumstances, a new partner with day-to-day care of the child may fall within it too, even without parental responsibility.

To illustrate how quickly that can add up, imagine a separated couple with two children. One parent takes both away for a week in term time without the other’s agreement. In principle, that is four notices, one to each parent for each child. Paid promptly, that would come to £320. Left beyond 21 days, it would be £640.

Can Both Parents be Fined for One Trip?

In principle, yes, but in practice, it depends significantly on where you live. Local authorities decide whether to issue, and approaches vary. Some will consider written representations from a parent who neither knew about nor consented to the absence. Others issue to both as a matter of routine. It is worth contacting the attendance team promptly, and in writing, to find out which applies to you.

Understanding what a penalty notice is helps here. It is an out-of-court settlement offered as an alternative to prosecution, not to a conviction, and there is no formal right of appeal. The realistic choices are to pay, or to decline and put your case forward if prosecution follows. Keep in mind that the second route carries real risk and should not be taken without advice, because the available defences are narrow.

If you are making representations, what is likely to carry weight is evidence that you objected: a dated message to the other parent, an email to the school before the absence asking that your objection be recorded, confirmation of the child arrangements in place.

Object in writing to the other parent and to the school, and do it before the trip rather than after the notice arrives.

How the Court Can Stop a Trip Before it Happens

Taking a child out of school for a holiday is an exercise of parental responsibility. Where parents who share it cannot agree, the family court can decide for them.

A Prohibited Steps Order under section 8 of the Children Act 1989 prevents a particular step being taken without the court’s permission. In this context, that step would be removing the child from school during term time, or taking them out of the country for the trip. In deciding whether to make the order, the court applies the welfare checklist, weighing the disruption to the child’s education against the value of the holiday itself, and considering whether the objection is genuinely child-focused.

Section 8 also helps the parent on the other side of the argument. A Specific Issue Order asks the court to decide a particular question about a child’s upbringing, and the travelling parent can apply for one to seek approval for the trip when the other parent refuses.

Timing matters enormously. These applications can be made urgently, and in a genuine emergency without notice, but the court prefers advance notice and evidence that agreement was attempted first. In most cases you will also be expected to have attended a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. A parent who takes advice in April about a June trip has options, but a parent who calls two days before departure has very few.

If the trip involves taking the child overseas, the issue may be far more serious than an unauthorised absence. Taking a child out of the UK without the consent of everyone with parental responsibility, or without the court’s permission, can amount to child abduction.

There is one exception, which is if a child arrangements order names you as the person the child lives with. Then, you can take them abroad for up to a month without the other parent’s consent. However, that exception only covers taking the child out of the country. It says nothing about school. A parent relying on it is still keeping the child out of lessons without authorisation, and can still be fined for it.

If you Already Have a Child Arrangements Order

Most child arrangements orders deal with where a child lives and/or when they spend time with each parent. Few say anything useful about term time travel or who applies to the school for leave of absence.

That gap is worth closing. Provisions that repay the effort include a minimum notice period for proposed holidays, an express agreement that neither parent will book term time travel without the other’s written consent, and agreement on how any penalty will be shared.

What to do Next

If you want to travel in term time, then ask the head teacher in advance and expect refusal. Secure the other parent’s written agreement before you book. Agree in writing who bears any penalty. Remember that going ahead without agreement may fine the other parent too, which rarely improves the co-parenting relationship.

If you object, then say so in writing, immediately, and keep the record. Tell the school before the absence. Take advice early rather than in the final week, when the options have already narrowed. If a notice arrives, do not simply ignore it.

The disagreement addressed in April is usually resolved with a conversation or a letter. The same disagreement left until the week of departure is resolved with an urgent court application, at far greater cost, and with the child considerably more aware of it. That last point is the one worth holding on to.

This article is general information about the law in England as at the date of publication and is not legal advice. Penalty amounts, thresholds and local authority practice are subject to change.

About Teresa Davidson

Teresa Davidson is a Partner and Head of Family at Winston Solicitors, advising on all aspects of private children law, including child arrangements, disputes over parental responsibility and urgent applications to the family court.

Right to Flight: Warning Issued Over Parental Holiday Permission
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Right to Flight: Warning Issued Over Parental Holiday Permission

Natasha Aspinall
Natasha Aspinall
Family & Matrimonial Solicitor
Brindley Twist Tafft & James LLP

A growing number of parents with children from previous relationships incorrectly assume they have an automatic right to take the whole family on holiday, warns leading law firm Brindley Twist Tafft & James.

A couple planning to take a stepchild on a break may not realise they need the other biological parent’s consent if both parents share Parental Responsibility, a legal term surrounding the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities, and authorities a parent has in relation to a child under the law.

All mothers will automatically have Parental Responsibility together with fathers who are registered on the birth certificate. They will not lose it if they are divorced or the civil partnership is dissolved.

The issue is growing in importance with the increase in the number of ‘blended’ families, where each partner has children from a previous relationship. Roughly 1.1 million children in England and Wales live in blended families, according to UK Government figures.

Family & Matrimonial Solicitor, Natasha Aspinall at leading law firm Brindley Twist Tafft & James, says there is a common misconception that those who hold Parental Responsibility in relation to their child or children automatically have a right to take their child abroad.

“This is incorrect,” she said. “The term Parental Responsibility attempts to focus on the parents’ duties toward their child rather than the parents’ rights over the child.

“The general day-to-day decisions should be made by the parent with whom the children reside without interference from the other parent, subject to any additional provisions.  Important decisions regarding a child, such as taking a child abroad for an extended stay for example, need to be made by everyone with Parental Responsibility for the child.

“If a blended family wants to go on a break, it’s generally necessary to obtain the other parent’s agreement. If the biological parent doesn’t agree, you might need to apply to the court for permission. No one wants to discover this when the bags are waiting by the doorway and the airport taxi is booked.

“What time each parent is to spend with a child is to be agreed between the parties and if an agreement cannot be reached then either party will need to make an application to the court for a Child Arrangements Order (CAO).”

A CAO is a legally binding court order in the UK that specifies where a child will live, who they will spend time with, and the nature of that contact. The court will expect the parties to have engaged in mediation before the application is made.

“CAOs let each parent, as well as their new partners, know where they stand and prevent misunderstandings and disagreement, leading to more stability for the child,” Natasha adds. “It also helps ease any uncertainty for the parent that does not live with the child by alleviating any anxiety they may have about feeling like the ‘lesser’ parent.”

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About Natasha Aspinall

Natasha qualified as a Solicitor in 2003. She joined Brindley Twist Tafft & James LLP in our Family & Matrimonial department in November 2022, based out of our Balsall Common office. Natasha joins us from a local Solicitors firm where she worked as Head of the Family Law department for the last 5 years.

When Your Ex Has a Bigger Holiday Budget: A Guide to Keeping Christmas Special
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When Your Ex Has a Bigger Holiday Budget: A Guide to Keeping Christmas Special

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Chloe O.
Alternative Dispute Resolution professional and Certified Divorce Coach
The Divorce and Separation Coach

The holiday season can be challenging for divorced co-parents, especially when one parent has a more generous budget for gifts. When your ex can spend more lavishly on presents, it can leave you feeling sad or frustrated about holiday arrangements, especially if you’re feeling financially constrained. Acknowledge these feelings without judgment and find ways to care for yourself during the holidays.

In this article, I share a variety of approaches and coping strategies to ensure your Christmas is filled with meaning, no matter what your financial circumstances are. Here are strategies for handling differing budgets with grace, fostering a positive holiday experience, coparenting effectively with your ex and strengthening your bond with your children.

1. Shift the Focus to Meaningful Moments Over Material Gifts

When your budget is tighter, think about ways to create lasting memories that don’t centre around material items. Moments like decorating the tree together, going ice-skating, or making holiday crafts are valuable ways to build a joyful holiday atmosphere. Emphasise activities that create a sense of connection, so the focus moves away from presents to experiences.

Studies show that people, especially children, remember moments and feelings more vividly than they do material items. This means that building memories fosters a warm, lasting impression.

It’s natural for children to get excited about gifts, and sometimes they might even compare what they receive from each parent. While you don’t need to address financial matters directly, you can teach the values of gratitude and caring in a gentle way.

If gifts are a central part of your holiday tradition, consider offering experience-based gifts rather than things. For example, you might plan a special outing, like a trip to a local museum, a picnic in the snow, or baking holiday classics. These activities can become cherished memories that feel just as fulfilling as a physical gift.

This approach teaches kids to appreciate a range of experiences and helps them understand that different families and homes can have varying holiday celebrations. Gratitude goes a long way in building a more positive, balanced attitude in children toward the holidays and life in general.

2. Have a Constructive Conversation with Your Ex (If Possible)

If you and your ex maintain open communication, consider addressing the gift-giving topic to create a more balanced approach. It might feel uncomfortable, but setting a unified intention can help avoid the potential of gift-giving becoming a competition. You can suggest various solutions: buying joint gifts for the children or agreeing a similar budget can be a good idea. Some parents do a mix of both, where they will split the cost of a larger gift “from Father Christmas” and agree on a similar budget for smaller gifts from each parent. You can be as creative as you wish with these arrangements, the key is to collaborate effectively to find a solution that allows the children to have a wonderful experience, no matter how much you spend.

Frame the conversation with a positive focus, using language that reflects your intentions for the children’s benefit rather than any frustration or jealousy. When you both prioritise the kids’ happiness, you’re more likely to find common ground on holiday arrangements.

3. Create New Holiday Traditions

One way of making Christmas special for your children is to start a unique post-divorce family tradition that they can look forward to every year. Maybe it’s a specific holiday movie marathon, preparing a festive meal, or spending Christmas Eve together reading holiday stories. Traditions like these not only help establish your home as a place of stability and warmth but also show children that the holiday’s joy comes from family, love, and consistency.

One idea I often share, is to design a fun and budget-friendly holiday calendar. Plan daily or weekly festive activities that don’t require a large budget. For example:

  • Holiday Movie Nights: Watching classic holiday movies as a family with homemade popcorn.
  • Long Forest Walk Followed by Hot Chocolate: Take your children on a nice long walk in the cold before returning home for a large cup of hot chocolate and their favourite treats.
  • Christmas Baking Day: Pick one day to bake holiday cookies together and enjoy the results.
  • Holiday Lights Adventure: Go to the closest high street to see all the festive decorations and displays.

Simple activities like these add excitement and anticipation, creating a festive atmosphere in a way that feels more special than any expensive gift.

4. Stay Positive and Avoid Comparisons

Comparing yourself to your ex, or even to other families, can fuel insecurity. Instead, focus on what you can offer and remember that emotional security and stability are gifts that children will carry with them for life.

Children pick up on emotional cues and can sense when parents feel down or inadequate. Maintaining a positive attitude helps them see that holiday joy isn’t tied to what they receive. Modelling this positive approach encourages resilience and gratitude in children.

While it might feel difficult to watch your ex give extravagant gifts, remember that supporting your children’s relationship with both parents is beneficial. You can show genuine excitement for what they receive from their other parent, while still showing pride in the experiences and gifts you provide.

This doesn’t mean you have to agree with every choice your ex makes, but it does mean showing respect for your children’s enthusiasm and experiences. This attitude will foster a sense of security and help your kids feel loved by both parents without any guilt or confusion.

Final Thoughts

While it’s natural to feel pressure or frustration when your ex has a larger holiday budget, remember that the joy your children experience during Christmas doesn’t hinge on expensive gifts but on the warmth, joy, and love you bring into your home. By emphasising meaningful moments, maintaining a positive mindset, and focusing on what you can provide, you’re giving your children the best gift of all—cherished memories and a stable, loving holiday experience.

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About Chloe O.

“My name is Chloe O., I am an Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) professional and a Certified Divorce Coach. I specialise in working with women to help them reduce conflict during and after divorce by improving their negotiation and communication skills with their spouse. The objective is to work towards an amicable divorce outcome in order to minimise the emotional and financial cost of divorce. I work with all types of clients but I have extensive experience in supporting expatriates and international families who are dealing with the unique situation of living abroad during and after their divorce, with limited local family support, language barriers and relocation considerations.”

For more information about my work and services (including my Podcastsnewslettermyth-buster videos…), you can visit my website and/or follow me on InstagramFacebook or LinkedIn.

It's Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas: The Empty Chair
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It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas: The Empty Chair

Despina Mavridou
Despina Mavridou
Author, Mediator, Lawyer

“It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas”—But Not Everyone Feels That Way. As Christmas approaches, festive decorations and holiday cheer fill every corner. Yet, for many families, this season may bring unique challenges. For some, it might be the first Christmas with an empty chair at the table—a bittersweet reminder of a loved one now living in a different home. This absence serves as a stark reminder that things have changed and that cherished traditions may never be quite the same.

For years, my own family experienced this quiet discomfort, particularly around the holidays. There was an unspoken rule not to mention what had changed, but I learned that silence can turn this absence into a lingering shadow—a ghost that haunts the holiday table year after year. Ultimately, the empty chair remains, and everyone tiptoes around it, fearing that speaking about it will bring back sadness.

While these changes may be difficult, they don’t have to cast a shadow over the holiday or create quiet discomfort, especially for children. Give kids the space to express their feelings and share their sadness if they need to. Don’t feel you need to appear overly cheerful; this can confuse children. Instead, work together to plan something meaningful, and if there’s a moment when sadness surfaces, simply be present. Accept their feelings without trying to fix or advise. Often, your presence alone is enough.

The Christmas season can indeed be hard for separated families, particularly in the first year apart, and especially for children. However, parents have the power to create a new dynamic—one that acknowledges change without framing it as a loss. How can this be done? By creating new traditions and allowing children to express themselves openly.

Allow kids to share if they miss the other parent rather than avoiding the topic. This openness can help them accept and process their emotions, making them feel seen and supported. Explain holiday plans clearly, including how much time they’ll spend with each parent. If one of the major holidays is spent with the other parent, consider creating your own special “Christmas Day” on a different date, giving your family a holiday of your own to look forward to.

For the parent who remains in the family home, it may help to create new memories in shared spaces. Consider rearranging the furniture, adding new decorations, or introducing new traditions to refresh the environment. For the parent who has moved to a new home, involve the kids in decorating and setting up—let them help create new memories in this new space.
Keep in mind that kids may always miss having their parents together, as you are the most foundational figures in their lives. While it’s hard for them to accept the separation at first, they will adapt and find balance. They can process the separation if they feel safe, secure, and supported. However, they struggle when they feel caught in the middle, expected to deliver messages between parents, or pressured to take sides. This is not their role.

It’s beneficial to maintain the same parenting values you had before the divorce and to avoid confusing them by allowing certain privileges in one household that are not permitted in the other. For example, allowing unlimited television in one home does not make anyone a better parent; it simply gives kids a sense of control. Competing to fulfill all their wishes regarding presents may lead children to expect more and more. When parents don’t communicate and cooperate, kids notice and may even “use” this by telling each parent different things, making it difficult to understand their real needs and feelings.

Before creating a new parenting approach and setting aside previous household rules, keep in mind who is most affected by these changes. Remember that what kids need most is your presence and the consistency that their experiences in both homes are aligned, as contradictions can confuse them more than anything else. At the end of the day, it’s just another festive season, and how it unfolds is entirely up to you.

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About Despina Mavridou

My name is Despina Mavridou. I am an author, a mediator and a lawyer in Greece.

I experienced the negative effects of divorce due to my parents’ separation when I was ten years old. For many years I was in the middle of their fights, trying to find a balance. When I was approx. 17 years old, I decided that I didn’t want to see my dad anymore. This cost me my relationship with him for more than 20 years (we have reunited recently).

After many years working as a lawyer, in the last four years I discovered mediation and also my passion for writing. For this reason, I left my job as a lawyer to concentrate on my passion.

My first published book is titled Mum, Dad, Can you hear me? and it is partially based on my personal story. I always wanted to share certain things with my parents to make them understand how I was feeling about their divorce.

Moreover, working as a mediator in family dispute issues, I saw how difficult it is for parents to get in their kid’s shoes.

The specific book Mum, Dad Can you hear me? serves dual purpose.

On one hand I want to help children understand that divorce is not the end of the world and that they can have both parents in their lives.

On the other hand, I want to help parents see divorce through the eyes of a ten-year-old girl to better understand the thoughts, needs and feelings of children and how important it is for them to have both parents in their lives.

Separated Parents: Taking a Child on Holiday / Abroad
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Separated Parents: Taking a Child on Holiday / Abroad

Emma Alfieri
Emma Alfieri
Legal Director
Greene & Greene Solicitors

With lighter evenings and (slightly) warmer weather, Spring is that time of year when parents realise the school summer holidays are not too far off and are busy making family plans for the summer holidays.

We are often asked to advise separated parents about the rules on taking their child/children abroad and whether they require permission to do so.

The rules are clear.  A parent must get the permission of everyone with parental responsibility for a child before taking the child abroad.  If this is not possible, permission will have to be sought from the Court.

The only exception to this rule is where there is already a Court Order (Child Arrangements Order) in place.  In this case, if the Court Order states that the child will “live with” a nominated parent, that parent can take the child abroad for 28 days without getting permission from the non-resident parent.

The word ‘abroad’ relates to any country other than England and Wales, so permission must be sought to travel with a child to Scotland or Northern Ireland.

Taking a child abroad without permission of the other person with Parental responsibility or without a court order is child abduction.

Who has Parental Responsibility?

A mother automatically has parental responsibility for her child from birth.

A father usually has parental responsibility if he is married to the child’s mother or listed on the birth certificate.

Same-sex partners will both have parental responsibility if they were civil partners at the time of the treatment, such as donor insemination or fertility treatment.

Why is it so important to get permission of the other parent?

At a UK or foreign border, an adult travelling with a child might be asked for evidence of permission to travel with the child.

A letter from the other person with parental responsibility for the child is usually enough to evidence the permission. The letter should include the other parent’s contact details and confirmation that they know about and agree to the trip.

It also may help at the border if the parent takes with them evidence of their relationship with the child, such as a birth or adoption certificate, or a divorce or marriage certificate, particularly if the adult’s  surname is different from the child’s.

Before travel it is advisable to check the entry requirements for the country to ensure all the required documentation in place.  Depending on the country there may also be differing age limits/rules for when a person is considered to be a child.

How do you get permission from a Court?

If permission cannot be obtained from the other person with parental responsibility to take the child abroad, the parent seeking to take the child abroad will need to apply to the Family Court for a Court Order.

If a parent is refusing to grant permission they will need to have a good reason as to why. The Court is more likely to grant permission if travel is to a safe country and the travel is going to benefit the child.

If a Court application is required it is important to allow plenty of time (ideally at least 3 months) so there is sufficient time for the Court to deal with the issue.

This article is only intended to be a summary and not specific legal advice.

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About Emma Alfieri

Emma Alfieri is a Legal Director at Suffolk firm Greene & Greene Solicitors.

Emma advises on all aspects of family law, including divorce and associated financial matters, disputes between cohabitants and child related disputes.

A member of Resolution, Emma is committed to resolving disputes as positively and agreeably as possible whilst also being motivated to obtain the best possible outcome for her clients.

Since 2012 Emma has been consistently recommended by the Legal 500 on an annual basis and in the most recent 2024 edition Emma is ranked as a “rising star”.

As an advocate of fault free divorce, Emma lobbied at Parliament with other members of Resolution in 2016 to bring about the recent changes to divorce law.

Best European River Cruises

Best European River Cruises and Those Markets

Women and Divorce
Wendi Schuller
Author of
The Global Guide to Divorce

My sons and I had wanted to do this for a decade and finally went on a Viking River Cruise last December originating in Budapest and terminating in Munich.

Although we had been to most of the places before, these cities are very different at this time of year with the incredible wooden stalls decked out in Christmas finery.

Pack for both Artic and spring like conditions as weather can be a bit unpredictable. Throw in a few smart outfits for the evenings, but nothing formal. The beauty of river cruises as opposed to ocean ones, is that they are docked in the centre of the city in the midst of the festivities.

The Christmas markets are usually about a ten minute walk from the ship, which is lovely for quick strolls after dinner. The wooden stalls full of toys, ornaments, food and much more are lit up like a fairyland in the evenings. What is nice about these markets is that one is buying directly from the artists, bakers and toymakers. The markets are often in the heart of the city near the shops, which makes ticking items off your holiday gift list quite easy.

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There are fab markets to visit during the European river cruises.

A Christmas river cruise is on a ship of around 100 to 150 passengers.

There is much mixing and interactions among the passengers. Meals are open seating with dinner at a specified time with beer and wine included. Activities take place in the lounge and this is a time to mingle with others.

One night we had a German Children’s Choir who sang carols in either German or English. They were adorable. There are a variety of lectures, concerts, folkloric dances, a cooking demonstration and so much more. There is an on board library with reference books and games. There are shelves of books that others can take and replace with one that they have read.

I really like the cappuccino/hot chocolate machine that is available round the clock. In the afternoons, local cookies and pastries are provided. The young European staff are amazing and the concierge will arrange for tickets, taxis, reservations or whatever is desired on shore. The holiday décor on the ship is exquisite.

The itinerary includes city excursions which may very slightly during the winter. In the summer we went to a marvellous organ concert in Passau, Germany. On we went to a gingerbread store that had been in the same family for generations instead. It was interesting learning about the different types of gingerbread and nibbling on the samples.

One Christmas market was a bit of a drive, and that was in lovely Salzburg. Fun to see where “The Sound of Music” was filmed. They had quite an extensive market and a very walkable city.

The markets in various cities have specialities. We got the potato dish in Bratislava and the cheese recolette in Salzburg, and Munich. Bratwurst was prevalent everywhere.

Hot mulled wine was available in all of the markets and even in the gingerbread shop in Passau. Budapest had unique baked goods as did the other markets. Viking gives handouts on what to buy, both in crafts and food at each market. They explain what is unique in the markets and cities being visited. Their history of the regions and maps are helpful.

This trip was my Christmas present to my sons and we arrived home on December 21st. I bought a few treats on the trip for Christmas morning. This river cruise to the Christmas markets was magical and is a worthwhile addition to anyone’s Bucket list.

 

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ABOUT WENDI

Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).

Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.

She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.

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South America Tours with Children

Women and Divorce
Wendi Schuller
Author of
The Global Guide to Divorce

Travelling to South America is doable with youngsters, when staying in a central location and taking day trips.

My young sons and I stayed in Cuzco, Peru and took excursions to must-see attractions nearby. My travel agent arranged for a packaged trip with hotels, meet & greet at airports, and a personal guide with a car.

My kids were too young to be on a group tour – yet we got a great price with these services bundled together.

One day we took the train to the astounding Machu Picchu and did a guided tour in a group once there. Consider going to this site near the beginning of the trip in case the kids get burned out on Inca ruins, plus it is at a lower altitude than Cuzco.

Having our guide with a car meant that the boys could linger playing with llamas and spend less time hearing detailed histories of Inca sites when tired. We could tell the guide just to hit the highlights when our energy was flagging.

One day we passed a lovely inn in the Urubamba Valley and our guide said we would have lunch there a bit later. If the kids are hungry, let your guide know. Ours took us to the town of Ollantaytambo with spectacular ruins. I cut it short, informing the guide that we three were hungry and needed to eat. Clarify what “a bit later” really means and explain when the optimal lunch time is for your family.

The outdoor markets are colourful, full of activity, and a fun way to soak up culture. The Pisac market is on the itineraries and is full of hand knitted wares, musicians and good food. The prices were almost double of the one on the outskirts of Cuzco. Kids can blow off energy running around and looking at the enticing goods.

The altitude of Cuzco is 3400 meters, so have an easy day upon arrival to acclimate. Drink plenty of cocoa leaf tea to help ward off altitude sickness. I took Diamox before and during the trip to prevent altitude sickness. Cuzco is a lovely city with colonial buildings and beautiful churches with ornate décor.

The main plaza is a lively place but use your intuition if a situation does not seem right. Local children surrounded one son and wanted to “borrow” his Gameboy. When I stepped in and confiscated it, the children dispersed quickly. My son later said he was afraid of them. There are a variety of restaurants and we enjoyed cheese fondue at a Swiss one.

South America Tours with Children
South America Tours with Children – One day we took the train to the astounding Machu Picchu .

Buenos Aires is a family-friendly city with a European feel and a good subway system.

We have been here several times over a four day period in November. That is a good month to go, which is their spring with the jacaranda trees covered in lavender blooms.

On the first trip we went to a gaucho ranch in the countryside with horses. They had an elaborate lunch with a cultural show which was fun.

Most hotels have day trips such as this one, so no need to plan ahead. We mostly went to the fabulous Botanical Garden which contains 5000 species of plants, fountains and greenhouses.

The big draw for us are the cats, who many were former pets. They are well taken care of and fed in this paradise. We saw some familiar faces with subsequent trips, and happily others had been adopted. They are friendly and sat on our laps. Take some cat food with you when visiting this lovely place.

Nearby in this Palermo district is the exquisite Japanese Garden. My boys enjoyed wandering around and stopping for a snack in the Japanese Tea house. On another day, we would walk to the zoo after the Botanical Garden.

Every day we went to the Galerias Pacifico shopping mall which was originally a Beaux Arts Building. The cupola has lovely frescos and this beautiful place has interesting shops and cafes. We got great food and especially enjoyed the lemon meringue pie and coffees. In the pedestrian only area outside of the Galerias Pacifico, there are people performing the classic Argentine tango.

Near our hotel was a McDonalds which served Argentine beef burgers which is easy on the budget. We stayed a short walk away in the Plaza San Martin area with a park. Skip the tiny San Martin subway station where we witnessed a mugging. Instead, walk the ten minutes and use the larger one near Galerias Pacifico. Buenos Aires is a shopper’s paradise with well-priced leather goods, tinwork (I bought picture frames) and other fun stuff for kids.

A friend took her sons on a week cruise around the Galapagos Islands and they were thrilled with all of the wildlife on this adventure.

Two acquaintances from Brazil, go back almost yearly and have talked about how much their kids enjoy that country.

South America has reasonably priced hotels and meals which is wonderful when one’s finances may be tight post-divorce.

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Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).

Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.

She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.

How to travel light with children

Single Parent Holidays – How to Travel Light with Children

Women and Divorce
Wendi Schuller
Author of
The Global Guide to Divorce

There are tricks to packing for a holiday to make life easier, whether going alone or with the kids.  My sons and I usually only have carry on, and in order to do this we have perfected a few practices.

We save socks and underwear with a hole in them for holidays, so they can be worn and thrown away on the trip. Trousers and shoes that still look okay but are getting a bit worn, are also packed and discarded too.

When my sons were little, I took almost outgrown clothes and left them behind in the hotels with a note.

I went to South Africa right after my divorce and the nice looking shirts that my ex had given me, were worn and donated to a local charity. I went to Egypt with a stuffed carry on and got rid of most of my clothes and had room for many souvenirs.

I do not take a handbag, but only a money pouch that can also hold a few other essentials like lip balm. I carry a small bag for books, snacks, an umbrella, etc around the city or while on tours which takes up no space in my suitcase. I take a larger tote bag as my personal item when travelling, that is roomier than a handbag.

Have a small travel wardrobe that washes well in a hotel or cabin’s sink and can be hung up to dry. This includes nice dresses in washable silk, for more formal affairs. I use the shampoo to wash clothes that is provided by the hotel or ship.

Magazines have foundation, lotion, and serum samples that I save for holidays. I get facials at Neal’s Yard and they are generous with trip size containers of their wonderful products.

How to Travel Light A pharmacy has special days where companies come in and hand out small promotional size goodies in their skin care lines. Stash these away for your next holiday, including the small tubes of toothpaste from your dentist.

I save small eye cream and lip balm containers and put my own creams and lotions into them to save space when packing toiletries.

Our local library has a rack where people leave their magazines and pick up other ones. I get some of these freebies for a trip. I read a book and often leave it in the ship or hotel’s library to lighten my load. Some people swear by the plastic bags that take the air out of clothes and squash them for more packing space, however I have not had much luck with these.

Business travellers often take apparel in just two or three colours to mix and match more easily, especially when they have both casual and formal functions.

When travelling with children, accept strangers’ help.

My toddler had a meltdown in an airport and I was losing my cool. I happily let a grandmother entertain him in his stroller with a new toy that she was giving her grandson. I had a newborn and a pre-schooler on a flight when the man sitting in front of us graciously got my stroller and kids’ luggage down from the overhead locker. Then Tiger Woods even insisted that we got off the plane before him.

Wrap up activity books, travel sized games and other entertaining small toys and dole them out on the trip. I gave my young sons medication for their ears on flights after consulting with their paediatrician, since the other remedies did not help their Eustachian tubes.

I took premeasured formula in a container that held three individual bottles’ worth and only had to put water in the bottle. I dumped in the right amount of powdered formula for each bottle given and this made travelling with a baby very easy. Of course carry extra snacks since there can be flight delays.

One doctor thought she would be smart and gave her young sons an anti-histamine on a long haul flight to get them to sleep most of the way. It was a trip from Hell. She said for the entire flight they screamed and cried like when they were on the verge of sleep at home, but were cranky and did not nap at all on the plane.

This is quoted by many folks, “Take twice the money and half of the clothes that you think that you will need on a trip.”

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Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).

Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.

She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.

travel around the world

How to Travel Around the World Post-Divorce and not Break the Bank

Women and Divorce
Wendi Schuller
Author of
The Global Guide to Divorce

There are ways to explore exotic locales or places closer to home and not break the bank.

The Travel Bug is in our family’s DNA, so I had to learn some financial shortcuts to make this possible.

I am in a group who meets regularly to swap travel stories and tips. My sons claim it is really for travel addicts to get their travel fix.

I have been to over sixty countries and have a few tricks up my sleeve.

One major method for getting airline tickets is using my credit card through an airline. I rack up more miles by having an airline sponsored one, rather than a generic card through a bank, with miles used for various airlines.

My friends that have cash back cards do not get enough for the equivalent of free airline tickets. Usually I have enough miles for my two sons to go to another continent every year or so.

I skip the airline credit card with extra perks- such as several passes to the airport lounge – and get the one that accumulates the most miles with purchases. I put everything, and I mean everything on that card. I only get a haircut or pedicure with aestheticians who take plastic.

Any repair or tradespeople have to accept my visa, or I get someone else. I pay utilities, grocery, petrol, and school fees with my Visa.

Gov.UK charges a 1.4% fee for using a credit card to pay taxes. Even with a fee, it is still worthwhile for me to pay all of my taxes with my airline Visa card. I only charge what I can pay off in entirety each month, so do not accrue any interest charges.

My utility companies charge a nominal fee per transaction (not monthly) to use a credit card for payments. I pay ahead so only pay 3 to 4 transaction fees per year.

The big way to have money to travel is to live simply.

My sons do not have up to date electronics by choice. Cut down on costs in the home, such as keeping the thermostat low and most appliances and gadgets unplugged when not in use.

I buy classic clothes that last and have a small wardrobe specifically for travel.

It is easy to forgo new clothes when I can envision a trip to Asia with the savings.

Travel Around the WorldMy girlfriends like to meet for lattes instead of a meal so they can add to their travel funds as well. When extra money comes my way, it immediately goes to the travel fund.

We have a bright teal canister from Marrakesh which contains coins found on the ground and any extra cash. It is amazing how throwing in coins and five pounds here and there adds up to a holiday.

I buy basic organic groceries, but skip pricier items including fizzy drinks. I have bought new designer clothes at charity shops. Go to free or nearly free concerts and events.

Scrutinize your expenditures to see what can go. Pare down your gift list and inform these recipients (who probably have been wanting to do this too). Some friends asked me to just take them out for a latte instead of exchanging presents.

See if your professional organization has trips or conferences in far flung places. There used to be a travel agency that had trips with daily meetings for four types of professionals and nursing was one of them.

I went to Kenya, Poland, Prague, China and so many other places for a much lower price. A friend recommended another travel agency with incredibly low fares and my sons and I went to India with them.

Ask around or do an online search for travel agencies with consistently great prices. I routinely find wonderful trips that are promotions in UK women’s magazines. Two of my travel agents (now retired) found travel specials that were affordable, including one to Fiji with my mum and little boys.

See how you can cut lodging costs when traveling. My mum took me on a trip to Washington D.C and we stayed in a dorm room and ate some meals there in Georgetown University’s cafeteria.

The American travel guru Rick Steves, recommends taking a packaged tour, but opting out on some of the city excursions. The price and convenience makes it worthwhile to forgo a few paid local tours and balance the trip with some alone time away from the group.

A few people have been pleased with doing house swaps with strangers for a few weeks. Make sure to do this through a reputable company. I went to several travel talks where people recommended doing volunteer work through organizations, such as EarthWatch.

Travel companies and cruise lines that I use, send me e-mails with their special promotions and savings. My former travel agents alerted me when there were specials. When I decide to act upon one of these promotions, such as our Viking River cruise to Christmas markets, I sell something. I have more items than I require, so I take goods, often from a trip, to a consignment shop.

Today I took a lovely hand painted box from Krakow and a wooden jewellery chest from Java to one. Sometimes I have opted for a little less cash and sold items outright to a shop downtown. Metal shops will take old battered sterling silverware or broken chains and give you some pounds for them.

Do you have family china that you do not really want? Sell them and cherish the travel experience in memory of your departed relative. Be creative in slashing costs and discovering fabulous travel deals.

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Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).

Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.

She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.

Baby Friendly Boltholes

Single Parent Holidays – Toddler and Baby Friendly Boltholes

Women and Divorce
Wendi Schuller
Author of
The Global Guide to Divorce

It may not seem like a relaxing holiday with a baby in tow – but with a little pre-planning it can be rewarding for all.

Having a trip with a limited itinerary, such as a beach holiday worked well for us.  My baby or toddler loved sitting in the sand playing with a plastic shovel and when older, making sand castles.

The sea creatures and birds added extra entertainment to lazing around at the shore. One parent suggests going to an area that also has a bay, cove or sound near the ocean which is calmer water for the little ones.

The South Pacific surrounding the Cook Islands, is like stepping into a warm, multi-coloured bathtub water – just perfect for tiny children. Taking my young sons to Na Trang, Vietnam required holding on to them in the large waves. Even beaches on the same island can be vastly different – a surfer’s dream or like a pond.

Many parents have stated that staying in a condo, cottage or villa was worth the extra expense.  They liked having extra room, a kitchen and more seclusion for toddler tantrums.

The location, beach or mountains was more secondary as long as they had this bigger space than a hotel room.

Another choice is staying with friends or family who may have baby necessities and other kids. We visited my mother in my old home which still had some of my toys and book. My mother purchased a stroller, travel crib, high chair, and car seat which remained at her place. I just threw a few clothes and essentials in our suitcase for an easy trip. The little ones had lots of playtime with Gran and I vegged out with uninterrupted reading.

Selecting a destination with animals is a hit with youngsters, such as a farm stay or being near a zoo.

In northern Thailand, our hotel was across the street from a fabulous butterfly and orchid farm. Twice a day water buffalo were paraded around the hotel property and my sons petted or rode these gentle beasts. We also went to a nearby elephant sanctuary. Staying near a petting zoo or animal park are other options.

Schedule running around time into the itinerary to blow off toddler energy, such as going to nearby parks.  My boys enjoyed meeting and playing with other children in these areas.

One holiday that did not work out well with a baby was going to Disneyworld.

Baby friendly boltholes
Baby friendly boltholes and traveling with baby. There are various baby friendly boltholes for the perfect single parent holidays for life after divorce.

It took too much time going to the different areas and he became fussy. Parking his stroller at different rides and venues became tedious. A small, more local amusement park would okay. My babies also enjoyed children’s museums.

Consider going to hotels that have kids clubs.

My sons’ favourite one was at the Four Seasons in Nevis. It was from ages 3-9, but my 19 month old was welcome with my supervision. They learned Caribbean culture, songs and had field trips around the beach and hotel property.

Most of the Four Seasons resorts have a complimentary kids club for either 3-9 or 4-12, with babies allowed under guardian supervision. All of their hotels have complementary cribs and other baby essentials.

Atlantis Paradise Island Resort in the Bahamas has kids clubs from ages one to seventeen.

Club Med is renowned for their kids clubs which include sports and circus training at no cost for those four and over. There is a fee for the Baby Club starting at six months and the petit club up to age four.

In the evenings, a Pyjama Club is available so parents can enjoy adult company with dinner and drinks. Club med provides free cribs and high chairs. My friend took her baby and pre-schooler to the Club Med in Thailand and all had such a fun holiday. The kids clubs at Club Med have specially trained youth counsellors and have a vast variety of activities for children.

There are various travel agencies that book holiday cottages, villas, hotels and trips for families with babies, whether in the UK or farther afield.

Thomas Cook has a list of Family World hotels and resorts globally which are geared towards kids as young as six months.

These hotels provide the necessary equipment such as cribs and potties. They have a baby service centre where parents can make bottles and special meals. There is a toddler program which includes time in the water in places such as Crete and Menorca.

Another one is Neilson Clubs which provide nannies in their different locations starting with the Starfish Club at four months (has a fee). The Sea Urchin Club for kids 2-4, plus clubs for older siblings are complimentary and includes supervised beach fun along with indoor activities. A mobile listening devise for parents is available. Some of these great clubs are in Turkey and Greece.

Sunsail’s Minnow Club is for those four months to two years and has a charge. Their other kids clubs are complimentary. The kids clubs and activities for parents can be as active as one likes and includes sailing lessons, wind surfing and water sports.

Besides swimming and canoeing, these youngsters can enjoy quieter pursuits, such as story time or games.  Some of these destinations include Greece.

Holiday with Baby is a travel company that has baby friendly stays in the UK and abroad. Their UK Cottages are baby proofed with necessary baby equipment. They have listings for villas and hotels globally which are geared to the little ones.

Simpson Travel offers specials providing complimentary childcare particularly in their locations in Greece. Their Hatchlings Creche is for babies six months to three years. The Turtles Club is for 4-10. Twice a week parents can have an adult evening while the kids have fun in the kids club evening sessions.

When divorced, it is nice to have a balance of being with the kids and having some alone or mingling with other adults time too.

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Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).

Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.

She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.

Holiday Destinations for Children

Top Holiday Destinations for Children Post-Divorce

Women and Divorce
Wendi Schuller
Author of
The Global Guide to Divorce

These suggestions for great holidays after divorce are from a kid’s point of view. Shop around for holiday destinations for children with an affordable deal and have a fantastic adventure.

Singapore is clean, easy to get around with a plethora of attractions for children and adults.

The world class zoo has a unique night safari with low lightening for easy viewing of nocturnal creatures. I enjoyed having breakfast with an orang-utan and walking around the lush grounds.

The Botanic Gardens are immense with diverse vegetation, including orchids.

Having tea at Raffles was a highlight for the boys with dishes from many cultures. Sentosa Island can be reached by cable car and is packed full of amusements. My sons particularly liked Underwater World which consists of walking under a tunnel and viewing marine life swimming around you. I liked the WWll and Maritime museums.

My sons were three and seven when I started taking them to Morocco.  The people are warm and welcoming – even to naughty little boys.  I recommend watching the Alfred Hitchcock movie, “The Man Who Knew Too Much” which was partially filmed in Marrakesh.  When we were in the Djemaa El-Fna square in Marrakesh, my three year old asked if we would be seeing a man killed there, like in the movie.

This exotic, non-stop action place is teeming with snake charmers, story tellers, musicians, and venders. Getting lost in the souk (market place) in Marrakesh only adds to the excitement and mystery. Even walking around looking in shops is an adventure.

Yves Saint Laurent donated the small, but exquisite Jardin Majorelle garden to Marrakesh which is near a nice museum – both keeping the attention of young boys. Marrakesh is a great base for taking jaunts outside of the city.

One morning we took an easy hike in the foothills and one son hitched a ride on a passing donkey. Another option is taking a hot air balloon ride and ending up having mint tea with a family in their home. On the way to the lovely nearby coastal city of Essaouira, you will see goats in trees.

Sri Lanka is a great family-friendly country with beaches, tea plantations, and temples.

Holiday Destinations for Children
I enjoyed having breakfast with an orang-utan while in Singapore.

We stopped at the Pinnewala Elephant Orphanage where there is bathing time for the babies and feeding time for all. Kids can see the elephants up close.

Kandy is in the hill country with easy walks around the lake within the city. The Temple of the Tooth contains Buddha’s relic and sometimes has elephants participating in festivals at this interesting site. The nearby botanic gardens includes royal palm trees and orchids, but my sons liked the bats hanging from the trees best. We toured a spice farm and at another stop saw the process of making tea. There was a cultural show that included fire eaters which was a hit with the kids present.

In Dambulla, the Cave Temple consists of five caves containing many beautiful statues of Buddha. My boys liked the cheeky monkeys trying to con tourists out of food.

Polonnaruwa is a temple complex which is nearly a millennium old. The Buddha statues and buildings were an easy walk for little ones and we saw a lot in two hours. My sons liked the beach in Negombo, but I thought it was a bit rundown and would advise going elsewhere. Friends recommend Galle and surrounding areas for beach life.

Luang Prabang in Laos is a UNESCO city that is small, charming and easy to navigate with a stroller. There are gorgeous temples with intricate ornamental details and an informative museum. My sons also liked the palace. The beauty of the buildings with inlaid designs combined with French influenced Asian food is a treat which gets repeat visitors. The monks stroll the streets in the early morning and receive rice from the townspeople. My sons enjoyed taking a boat ride to caves which have thousands of Buddha statues, some with semi-precious stones.

Croatia is near the top of my sons’ list of great places.

In Dubrovnik they enjoyed walking on top of the city wall and just exploring this lovely city. In Split, the Diocletian’s Palace is a magnificent Roman ruin that was modified in the Middle Ages and shows everyday life. The small Town Museum was a hit with the weaponry and 14th Century coins and other artefacts. They liked the small market place with local vendors. The big draw for kids in Split is that they have re-enactments of battles from the Middle Ages and other entertainment from that era in the small town square. Split is buzzing with energy and excitement with lots of kids around.

One can lose money, but never travel experiences that are life changing. Budgets are tight after divorce, but travelling with my sons is my most important investment.

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Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).

Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.

She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.

Cruising with Kids

Single Parent Holidays – Cruising with Kids

Women and Divorce
Wendi Schuller
Author of
The Global Guide to Divorce

A holiday on a cruise ship can be just the way to tick all of the boxes for fun, adventure, and family time while keeping to a strict budget.

I started cruising when my sons were two and six and we have been hooked ever since.

There are different types of ships for different tastes – so doing a little research before booking is prudent. I am not a fan of the mega ships – but some friends like the vast array of activities, such as rock climbing and ice skating.

The big draw on ships is the kids’ clubs, which have separate age groups. My sons met kids from around the world and especially enjoyed the sea days when they could spend more time there.

Most ships’ clubs are for those between three and seventeen.

Cunard allows babies from six months in the play area with parental supervision. They also have a night nursery for those between twelve and twenty-three months until 11 pm so a parent can enjoy adult company and take in a show.

Carnival, P & O, and Norwegian Cruise Lines start their kids’ clubs at age two.

Most of the cruise lines offer a babysitting service for a fee. Celebrity Cruises includes science and nature with their kids programs and has slumber parties. Most cruise lines, including Costa and Disney, have year round children’s programs. Fred Olsen’s Black Watch and Balmoral only have them during school holidays although the Braemar has a dedicated playroom.

My sons particularly enjoyed the teens’ hangout on the Holland American ships. When we sailed around the Hawaiian Islands the children’s program included Polynesian culture. They learned songs, dances, vocabulary, and fun facts about these islands.

The nannies on the QE2 ship threw a fabulous 7th birthday party for my son with an alligator cake and party favours for the other little passengers. My sons were upset when they reached eighteen and were not in a club anymore. Some ships, like on Cunard’s Queen Elizabeth, had a group for those in their twenties.

My son is still in touch with some of those young people and catches up with them when back in London.

Make your expectations clear so you and the kids are on the same page. My rule for lunch and dinner is that we meet in the cabin and go to either the dining room or cafeteria together. I mandate their company for at least one afternoon tea each cruise. I give clear instructions about what time and where we are meeting for shore excursions.

I enjoy my boys’ company, but also my alone time reading or snoozing in a deck chair.

Cruises give us relaxing time to bond without the stress that comes with divorce and the diversion of jobs and commitments.

We concentrate on fun and strengthening our relationships with each other. My mum often joined us and cruising is a way to vacation that keeps three generations happy.

Tips for keeping within your budget when cruising with kids :

Cruising with Kids
The big draw on ships is the kids’ clubs.

I do not buy either the alcoholic or non-alcoholic drink packages, instead we drink the free water, tea or coffee.

We enjoy a latte or beer in an atmospheric place on shore as part of the local culture.

We are judicious with shore excursions and choose the ones that are extraordinary. These included a day trip to Lapland to meet Father Christmas, visiting the villages in Cinque de Terre, going to the archaeological sites on Kirkwall, and a day trip to Albania.

In Oslo, we did a city tour for a fraction of the ship’s excursion price once we got off the ship. In other places such as Croatia, we walked on the city wall and soaked up the culture without a formal tour.

If you enjoy your cruise, consider booking another one while still on board for an additional discount.

We stick to mainly two cruise lines for the perks of being in a loyalty program. The discounts are larger and after a long haul flight, I enjoy being able to board a little earlier.

The beauty of ships’ loyalty programs as opposed to airlines’ ones, is that you keep your status. One you have sailed a certain amount of days, you never lose it, but only go up in the program.

With the airlines, your status is dependent upon how many miles you accrued the year before, and ships are what you have sailed during your life, not past the year.

There are specialist cruise booking sites that compare prices and give good deals. I book with cruise lines directly and get their e-mails regarding specials.

Travel agents can look out for cruise sales and last minute price reductions. I book early and get the best fares. Having a third or fourth person in a cabin brings their fares down drastically. I book early for 2 for the price of one specials, such as on the river cruises.

Two single women I met live in the vicinity of Southampton. They keep a bag packed and call the various cruise lines every few days for a last minute cancellation. They cruise for next to nothing. What a life!

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Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).

Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.

She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.