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How to Get Through Divorce in 2025: Proven Step-by-Step Process
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How to Get Through Divorce in 2025: Proven Step-by-Step Process

Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Sponsored post by Fair Result.

Divorce can feel overwhelming, but at Fair Result, we’ve created a proven, step-by-step process to help you navigate it with clarity and confidence. In 2025, with shifting legal landscapes and evolving financial complexities, our transparent, fixed-fee approach ensures that you can focus on your future without worrying about spiralling costs or hidden surprises.

1. Acknowledging the Emotional Impact

Divorce is one of life’s most emotional and challenging experiences. It’s essential to recognise and process these feelings, rather than suppress them. Many people find that seeking emotional support can make a world of difference during this time.

Tips for self-care during divorce:

  • Consider joining a support group to connect with others who understand your situation.
  • Seek counselling or therapy to work through your emotions in a healthy way.
  • Prioritise self-care through activities like exercise, mindfulness, or spending time with loved ones.

At Fair Result, we not only focus on the legal and financial aspects of your divorce but also recognise the importance of addressing your emotional wellbeing.

2. Understanding the Financial and Legal Landscape in 2025

The divorce process in England has evolved over the years. With changes such as the introduction of the no-fault divorce law under The Divorce, Dissolution, and Separation Act, the legal framework is now more streamlined. However, financial clarity remains crucial.

Key divorce trends in 2025:

  • Longer average timeframes: On average, the time to a conditional order in sole divorce cases is now around 36 weeks, with the full process from application to final order taking approximately 49 weeks. Joint divorce cases tend to be slightly quicker, with an average of 30 weeks to a conditional order and 43 weeks from application to final order.
  • Increase in divorces among older adults: The rise of “silver splitters” reflects changing attitudes toward relationships in later life.
  • Shifts in divorce applications: While January remains a peak month for divorce enquiries, overall divorce rates fluctuate based on factors such as economic pressures and societal trends.

At Fair Result, we emphasise the importance of financial preparedness. From property division to pensions, we help you navigate the complexities with transparency and clarity.

3. Fair Result’s Proven Step-by-Step Process

At Fair Result, we pride ourselves on offering a transparent, fixed-fee process designed to minimise stress and maximise efficiency. Here’s how our approach works:

a. Initial Consultation

We begin with a free consultation to understand your unique circumstances. During this meeting, we’ll identify your priorities and goals, laying the foundation for a tailored strategy that meets your needs.

b. Financial Assessment

Our team of legal and accountancy experts conducts a comprehensive review of your financial situation. With a commitment to transparency and fairness, our fixed-fee model ensures there are no unexpected surprises.

c. Tailored Strategy Development

Based on your goals, we develop a personalised plan that considers legal, financial, and emotional factors. This strategy ensures that you achieve a fair settlement while minimising unnecessary conflict.

d. Settlement Negotiations

We focus on  avoiding the need for lengthy court proceedings. Our team works tirelessly to negotiate a fair and efficient settlement.

e. Finalising Your Divorce

From managing paperwork to obtaining consent orders, we handle every legal requirement to finalise your divorce. Our goal is to ensure you’re fully equipped to move forward with confidence.

4. Client Success Stories

We’ve helped countless clients achieve fair outcomes and build brighter futures. Here’s just one example:

“After years of financial uncertainty during my separation, Fair Result gave me the clarity and support I needed. Their fixed-fee model meant no surprises, and their team made the process so much easier than I expected. Today, I’m not only financially secure but also confident about the future.”

These stories reflect our commitment to putting clients first, every step of the way.

5. Looking Ahead: Building Your Future Post-Divorce

Divorce is not the end—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. Planning for your future is key to moving forward with confidence.

Post-divorce planning tips:

  • Reassess your finances: Create a realistic budget that reflects your new circumstances.
  • Set personal goals: Whether it’s advancing your career, pursuing a passion, or focussing on your children, take steps toward achieving what matters most to you.
  • Seek support: Don’t hesitate to lean on professionals, friends, or family for guidance as you navigate your new life post-divorce.

At Fair Result, we’re here to ensure you leave the divorce process feeling prepared and empowered to embrace the next stage of your journey.

6. Trends and Insights for 2025

The festive season often prompts reflection, and many couples decide to take the next step in January, leading to a surge in divorce enquiries. Known as “Divorce Day,” the first working Monday of the year—6th January 2025—is anticipated to see a spike in divorce applications.

While divorce rates have fluctuated, certain trends stand out:

  • Coastal towns like Norwich and Hastings have the highest proportion of divorced individuals.
  • Most divorces occur between 3 and 8 years of marriage, with “silver splitters” on the rise.

These insights underscore the importance of working with experts who understand the unique challenges of today’s world. Find out more about divorce trends here.

Conclusion

Divorce doesn’t have to feel like an uphill battle. With Fair Result’s proven step-by-step process, you can navigate this challenging time with clarity, confidence, and support. Our fixed-fee, transparent approach allows you to focus on what truly matters: building a brighter future.

If you’re considering divorce in 2025, let us help you take the first step. Contact Fair Result for a free consultation today.

Read more articles by Chris Sweetman.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage breakdown.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

Why it is Vital to Include Pensions in Divorce Settlements in 2025
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Why it is Vital to Include Pensions in Divorce Settlements in 2025

Nicki Mitchell
Nicki Mitchell
Partner
Jones Myers

Sponsored post by Jones Myers. I cannot underestimate the critical role that pensions play in financial settlements as the volume of  divorce enquiries I am receiving increases this January.

Their importance has been further reinforced by New Year calculations from online investment service Interactive Investor, whose financial analysts say that spouses could lose up to £665k by overlooking pensions and failing to take them into account in divorce settlements.

Pensions are frequently one of the most valuable assets of a marriage, often making up the second highest – or sometimes the highest – value asset in a divorce settlement after the family home.

It is key that information about pensions is made available in the financial disclosure process, which must take place before any binding financial settlement can be made.

Disclosure must include details of all pensions, including state pensions – and the value of each one. This ensures that couples are able to make informed decisions as to what a fair settlement looks like for them

The most common way in which a disparity in pensions is addressed in a divorce settlement is pension sharing which provides a clean break between parties, as the pension assets are split immediately.

Alternatively, in some cases ex-spouses prefer to take a greater share of the equity in the family home or other capital, as a trade-off for a share of the other’s pension.

Some divorces may involve several pension arrangements so it is important to consider which arrangements should be shared, and to what extent.

The pension share may be internal (when the recipient becomes a member of the scheme) or external when the share must be invested in an existing or new arrangement of the receiving party. Care should be taken to obtain details of the cost of any transfer.

In deciding what is best for them, the couple need to consider how their respective financial needs will be met  and what other assets are available for distribution.

Alternative and non-confrontational ways for divorcing couples to reach a financial settlement without a lengthy and expensive court process include Mediation and Collaborative Family Law.

Both options – in which I have extensive expertise – are conducted in a spirit of mutual co-operation and put children’s best interest first.

At Jones Myers we always recommend that divorcing couples seek expert advice from highly experienced lawyers regarding their finances. Independent Financial Advisers can assist with pension valuations and projected future incomes.

Taking guidance early on will avoid the risk of losing out on what could be a substantial pension sharing provision that spouses are entitled to – and which can prevent long-term financial issues.

Read more articles by Nicki Mitchell.

About Nicki Mitchell

With three decades experience in family law, Nicki specialises in the financial aspects of relationship breakdown – and particularly complex cases involving family businesses, multiple properties, and complicated pension arrangements.

A skilled mediator, child inclusive mediator and collaborative family lawyer Nicki champions Alternative Dispute Resolution processes which avoid a lengthy court process and can lead much more quickly and cost effectively to a successful resolution.

Her exceptional track record also includes advising clients on the more traditional methods of resolving issues surrounding family breakdowns. Direct Dial: 01904 202553 or email  Nicki.mitchell@jonesmyers.co.uk  www.jonesmyers.co.uk

Child Maintenance and Spousal Maintenance: Understanding the Differences
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Child Maintenance and Spousal Maintenance: Understanding the Differences

Nicki Mitchell
Nicki Mitchell
Partner
Jones Myers Family Law

Sponsored article by Jones Myers Family Law.

In the countdown to the festive season, concerns over finances can understandably escalate – especially for those divorcing and separating who have children but do not have their own income streams.

The aim of this article is to provide key insights into Child Maintenance and Spousal Maintenance.

While they are often believed to be inextricably linked, they are two very distinct issues.

Child Maintenance Support

How do divorcing/separating couples work out Child Maintenance?

Child Maintenance is something which needs to be considered whenever separating couples have children, regardless of whether they were married or not and whatever their financial circumstances.

The Child Maintenance Service (CMS), a stand-alone government body,  provides a formula for parents to calculate child support.

Most separated couples will use the formula as a basis for agreeing the level of child support to be paid and make informal arrangements for this to be paid directly.

Divorcing couples have the option of including their agreement on child support in the order (often known as a consent order) which sets out their agreement as to how their assets, debts, pensions etc will be divided.

Which parent is responsible for paying the support?

The parent with whom the children spend less time will be responsible for paying child support to the other parent.  Where the children’s time and the child care responsibilities are shared equally between the parents then no child support is usually payable.

If there is any dispute between the parents about whether this is the case then the CMS will generally assume the primary carer to be the parent who receives Child Benefit and assess child support accordingly.

For how long does Child Maintenance continue?

The paying parent is obligated to provide child maintenance until the child completes “qualifying education” which is generally full-time secondary education but can include other forms of ongoing study such as some apprenticeships. No child support is payable after the child attains the age of twenty.

What happens if parents cannot agree on the level of support?

If the parents are unable to agree then either one of them can make an application the Child Maintenance Service (CMS) for a calculation.

The CMS will calculate the support payable using a six-step process.

The various stages include determining the paying parent’s yearly gross income. The relevant parent usually provides this. However, the CMS can obtain the information from HM Revenue and Customs (HMRC) if the parents do not supply this.

Factors, such as pensions and school fees, which could change the paying parent’s financial situation, are also assessed before converting the yearly gross income into a weekly figure.

Key criteria the calculator draws on includes the number of children receiving the income and the level of what is called ‘shared care.’ This is based on how much time the child/children of the paying parent spends with them and includes overnight stays.

What happens if the paying parent loses their job?

Either parent can let the CMS know of a change in circumstance. The Agency will then re-evaluate and reduce the level of support the paying parent needs to provide based on the calculator system.

What happens if the paying parent refuses to pay?

The receiving parent can contact the CMS which would then take appropriate enforcement measures such as applying for a court order to take legal action.

What happens if the paying parent dies during the support period?

CMS payments would cease on the death of the paying parent. State benefits, such as Universal Credit, may be available to the surviving parent, depending on their circumstances at the time.

Are there any other options besides the CMS for parents to agree Child Maintenance?   

Agreements between parents can be negotiated with support from experienced family law experts such as Jones Myers.

Our specialist services include mediation, a non-confrontational option for parents to reach a solution in a spirit of co-operation which puts their children’s best interests first.

As a qualified Mediator and Child Inclusive Mediator I regularly see at first hand the  benefits of the mediation process for parents, children and the wider family.

Spousal Maintenance

Divorce does not automatically bring an end to the financial obligations between divorcing and separating couples.

Significant income disparities between spouses may require ongoing financial support to prevent undue hardship, especially when considering the well-being of any children involved.

What is Spousal Maintenance?

Spousal Maintenance is a payment made by one party to the other as part of the financial settlement on their divorce or separation.

Usually, it is paid every month and can last for either a defined period or, in increasingly rare cases, until one of the former spouses dies.

Spousal Maintenance is different from Child Maintenance, which is statutory. It is not an automatic  entitlement and only applies to divorcing couples.

How is the amount and duration agreed?

There is no set formula for working out Spousal Maintenance payments. How much is paid and for how long can be settled through mutual agreement between a spouse and their ex during divorce proceedings.

Information is exchanged about each spouse’s income and their monthly outgoings. If one spouse has insufficient income to meet their needs and the other can afford to make up or contribute to that shortfall then Spousal Maintenance may be appropriate.

Interim Spousal Maintenance can be agreed or ordered in the initial stages of separation to ensure that the spouse who is weaker financially can manage their basic monthly outgoings.

Does getting Spousal Maintenance involve going to Court? 

If the couple are unable to come to a mutual agreement, the Court can decide whether Spousal Maintenance should be paid.

In every case the Court must consider the possibility of a Clean Break Order – which severs all financial ties between the couple.

If a Clean Break Order is not appropriate immediately, the court will order what the Judge considers to be a reasonable level  of Spousal Maintenance – and for how long this must be paid.

The court will have before it detailed information about the income available and each party’s income needs. Spousal Maintenance is usually only ordered for a fixed period of time, long enough to enable an adjustment to independence.

How can couples reach a solution without going to court?  

More couples are turning to non-confrontational options, which allow them to retain control of decisions which affect them, put their children’s best interests first and avoid costly and destructive court battles.

They include negotiation, mediation or collaborative practice where couples and their lawyers commit to find a positive solution without going to court and sign a binding agreement to that effect. Our specialist lawyers at Jones Myers have extensive experience in advising couples in these areas.

In what circumstances is Spousal Maintenance terminated?

When Spousal Maintenance ends will be set out in the court order.  Typically this will be when the spouse receiving the payments has had time to adjust to independence or when their financial needs are reduced. For example, when the children finish school or university, or they leave home.

Spousal Maintenance will cease when one of the spouses dies or if the recipient of the maintenance gets married again or enters into a civil partnership.

What happens if the parties situation changes?   

If the circumstances of the spouses alter significantly after a Spousal Maintenance Order has been made, they can agree to change the payments ordered and send an agreed order to the Court which supersedes the original order.  If agreement is not possible then either of them can apply to the Court to vary the terms of the order.

The Court will consider factors such as changes in income, employment status or financial needs to assess if a variation is appropriate.

For vital areas of law such as Child Maintenance and Spousal Maintenance, I cannot emphasise enough the importance of consulting experienced family lawyers like Jones Myers.

Offering expert legal advice to our clients, we help them to understand their legal position and options.

Providing legal guidance and representation with child maintenance disputes, we support clients to ensure that the child maintenance arrangements are fair and reasonable.

Our approach prioritises resolving disputes in a non-confrontational manner, allowing us to assist couples in reaching voluntary agreements for child maintenance.

We can also assist in negotiating Spousal Maintenance agreements to reach a fair and mutually acceptable solution. If an agreement cannot be reached through negotiation, we can represent clients in court proceedings to seek a Spousal Maintenance Order or to vary an existing order.

Read more articles by Nicki Mitchell.

About Nicki Mitchell

With three decades experience in family law, Nicki specialises in the financial aspects of relationship breakdown – and particularly complex cases involving family businesses, multiple properties, and complicated pension arrangements.

A skilled mediator, child inclusive mediator and collaborative family lawyer Nicki champions Alternative Dispute Resolution processes which avoid a lengthy court process and can lead much more quickly and cost effectively to a successful resolution.

Her exceptional track record also includes advising clients on the more traditional methods of resolving issues surrounding family breakdowns. Direct Dial: 01904 202553 or email  Nicki.mitchell@jonesmyers.co.uk  www.jonesmyers.co.uk

How to Prepare for Divorce: Steps to Take Before Filing
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How to Prepare for Divorce: Steps to Take Before Filing

Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Sponsored post by Fair Result.

Divorce is an emotional and life-changing process. If you’re considering ending your marriage, knowing how to prepare before you file can make a significant difference in the outcome. With the right preparation, you can avoid common pitfalls and protect both your emotional wellbeing and financial future. Whether you’re seeking guidance on the divorce process or looking for effective divorce solutions, this guide will walk you through the essential steps to take before filing for divorce.

Step 1: Evaluate Your Reasons for Divorce

Before filing for divorce, it’s important to take the time to reflect on why you want to end the marriage. Divorce is a major decision that affects your life, your children (if you have any), and your finances. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Have you considered marriage counselling or therapy?
  • Is this a temporary conflict or a long-term issue?
  • Are you financially prepared for the divorce process?

If you’ve weighed the pros and cons and feel that divorce is the right path, then it’s time to start preparing.

Step 2: Prepare Financial Documentation

One of the most important steps before filing for divorce is organising your financial records. Divorce settlements heavily rely on accurate and complete financial information. Collect the following documents:

  • Tax returns (last 3–5 years).
  • Bank statements and financial accounts (savings, checking, retirement).
  • Investment portfolios.
  • Mortgage and property information.
  • Pay slips and employment records.
  • Debts (credit cards, loans, etc.)

These documents will provide a clear picture of your financial standing, making it easier to negotiate a fair divorce settlement. If you’re looking for divorce solutions that can help you manage this process efficiently, consider reaching out to Fair Result.

Step 3: Understand and Prepare for the Divorce Process

Divorce laws and processes vary depending on your location. In the UK, you can file for divorce using one of two methods: a sole application or a joint application. It’s crucial to understand which option is best suited for your situation. Here’s a brief overview:

  • Sole Divorce Application: One spouse files for divorce without the other’s participation. This may occur when the divorce is contested, or the spouses are not on good terms.
  • Joint Divorce Application: Both spouses agree to the divorce and file together. This is often the less contentious route and can lead to a smoother and faster resolution.

Understanding which route to take will help you set realistic expectations about timelines and costs. In 2024, the average time from filing to a final divorce order for sole applications was around 49 weeks, while for joint applications, it was 43 weeks. Keep this in mind as you prepare for the process ahead.

Step 4: Plan for Your Children’s Wellbeing

If you and your spouse have children, their wellbeing must be at the forefront of your divorce preparations. The family court system prioritises the best interests of the children, and so should you. Consider the following:

  • Where will your children live?
  • How will custody and visitation be divided?
  • What financial support arrangements need to be made?

Make sure you understand the legal aspects of child custody, support, and visitation agreements in your area. It’s also important to keep the lines of communication open with your spouse when it comes to parenting decisions. If you’re unsure about any of these aspects, seeking advice from an experienced family law professional can help you find the right divorce solutions.

Step 5: Consider Your Living Situation

Divorce often means a significant change in living arrangements. If you’re living with your spouse, you should plan whether one of you will move out or if you will continue living together during the divorce proceedings. The decision may depend on:

  • Ownership or rental agreements.
  • Financial stability and ability to afford separate housing.
  • Custody arrangements for children.

In some cases, staying in the marital home during the divorce process might be necessary to ensure stability for the children or for financial reasons. However, if the environment becomes too toxic or stressful, moving out might be a better option for your mental health.

Step 6: Seek Legal Advice and Support

No matter how amicable your relationship with your spouse may seem, it is always in your best interest to prepare and consult with a family law expert before filing for divorce. Legal advice can help you avoid common pitfalls, such as agreeing to an unfair financial settlement or signing documents you don’t fully understand.

At Fair Result, we offer unique divorce solutions with fixed fees, ensuring that you won’t have to worry about escalating legal costs. Our team of divorce specialists is here to guide you through the entire process, sharing the financial risks with you. You pay nothing until your divorce is finalised, allowing you to focus on moving forward with confidence.

Step 7: Protect Your Emotional Wellbeing

Divorce is an emotional journey, and it’s easy to become overwhelmed by stress, anger, or sadness. Taking care of your mental health is just as important as the legal and financial aspects of divorce. Consider seeking emotional support from:

  • Therapists or counsellors
  • Divorce support groups
  • Trusted friends or family members

Maintaining a strong emotional foundation will help you stay focussed and make better decisions during the divorce process. Divorce solutions that address both the emotional and financial aspects are essential for a smoother transition.

Step 8: Budget for the Divorce Process

The financial impact of divorce can be significant, and it’s important to create a realistic budget for the process. Divorce costs can vary depending on the complexity of your case and the law firm you choose. The cost of living crisis has made many couples hesitant to move forward with divorce, but with the right legal team, you can minimise financial stress.

Fair Result offers a fixed-fee structure, meaning you won’t pay anything until your divorce settlement is finalised. This innovative approach allows you to avoid unexpected fees and prepare your finances with confidence.

Why Early Divorce Preparation Matters

Preparing for divorce before filing can save you time, money, and emotional stress. By following these steps and seeking professional guidance, you can ensure that you are prepared for the challenges ahead. Divorce solutions from trusted firms like Fair Result are designed to help you through the process with minimal disruption to your life.

Are you considering divorce?

Contact Fair Result today to learn how our expert team can assist you in navigating this difficult time. With our fixed-fee divorce solutions, you can rest assured that your financial and emotional wellbeing will be protected every step of the way.

Call: 07500933818 or 0333 577 7009

Email: peter@fair-result.co.uk or chris@fair-result.co.uk

Find out more about Fair Result.

Read more articles by Chris Sweetman.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage breakdown.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

Wanting to Separate? Starting the Divorce Conversation
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Wanting to Separate? Starting the Divorce Conversation

Jo Harrison
Jo Harrison
Divorce Consultant and Relationship Therapist
Family Law in Partnership

Every relationship is different and any conversation about separation is highly personal, but there are themes to consider if you are building up to discussing separation with your partner.

Safety First

When it comes to ending a relationship, safety may be the most significant consideration.  In some situations, the moment you tell your partner that you want to separate is when you are most likely to be at risk of violence. If you have any safety concerns, I suggest that you seek legal advice before speaking to your partner (making sure that the act of booking a consultation doesn’t put you at risk). In such a consultation you are likely to think about a practical plan to ensure that you and any children are in a safe place with access to support.

Planning the conversation

It is never going to be an easy conversation, particularly if your partner is not expecting it. Some couples find that going to relationship therapy and looking at the problems in their relationship can help them to transition into the separation more smoothly. Having this kind of support for your relationship can help you to create space to listen to how each other is feeling and can support mourning where necessary. If joint work doesn’t feel possible then it can be helpful to seek your own individual therapy to work out what you feel about the relationship and how to communicate this sensitively.

Timing

With or without couples therapy, I recommend that you think carefully about the timing of the conversation. You may feel there is never going to be a good time, but you can create a space for the conversation to happen by considering the following steps:

  • schedule a proper time, giving your partner notice that you want to talk to them – rather than springing it on them spontaneously;
  • make it a supportive time when you are able to talk and process what is being said – not just before bed or just before one of you has to go off to work;
  • if you have children and it is possible, arrange for them to be looked after by someone else so that you can focus on each other;
  • have a plan for afterwards.

Tone

I also recommend that you think about the tone of the conversation and how to make it constructive. If you list all the problems you’ve had with your partner, it is likely to make them defensive and this might get in the way of them being able to take on board what you are saying. This is where it can be helpful to describe the issues in the marriage between you from your own experience, using phrases such as ‘I feel’, rather than making it a blaming conversation.  This can be difficult if you have a lot of angry and disappointed feelings towards your partner that you feel you need to express, but in the initial conversation remember that, particularly if the news is coming as a shock to your partner, there is only going to be so much information that they can take on board.

This also links to another consideration – if you have had some time to emotionally prepare for the ending of the relationship you may feel that you want to start talking immediately about the practicalities of separating. Your partner, however, may be processing the emotional side of things and have absolutely no bandwidth for thinking about the practicalities.

For both the person initiating the divorce and the person receiving this information, it can be really helpful to prepare for how this part of the conversation is going to go. You should be prepared to allow each other time and space to process what’s happening.

Transition

Ultimately it is not just about one conversation. The moment you tell your partner that you want a divorce may be the first time it is verbalised, but it may reflect many years of thinking about it. There will be a process, both legal and psychological, that will follow in which it will be important that you both have a support network within which to think about the implications of your separation.

I often work with people who are contemplating or thinking about divorce to give them space to prepare for this big transition in their life and to support them in thinking about how to handle it best in the relationship.

Expert View

Jo Harrison, a Divorce Consultant and Relationship Therapist, says: “Each divorce is different and has its own set of challenges. There are difficult choices to be made and difficult feelings to cope with – whether those feelings are your own or those of your ex-partner. Being able to talk about and process the changes that divorce entails can be really helpful.

Parents can use counselling to think about what is going on for the whole family and how to minimise the impact on any children. Some people come in for a one-off session and others may come more regularly – it really depends on the situation and we can think together about what might be best.” 

About Jo Harrison

Jo is a Divorce Consultant and Relationship Therapist with Family Law in Partnership. She is very experienced in working with individuals and couples who are separating.  A former family lawyer, Jo has a depth of experience and understands the legal process, which many if her clients find helpful.

If you would like to enquire about support individually in relation to preparing for a divorce or separation, please contact the FLiP relationship support team at E: therapists@flip.co.uk 

Top Tips To Consider When Preparing For Divorce
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Top Tips To Consider When Preparing For Divorce

Emma Davies
Emma Davies
Partner
Nelsons Law

Going through a divorce is a stressful time that can cause conflict between both parties. Specialist family lawyer and qualified collaborative practitioner Emma Davies shares her top tips with us to ensure as smooth a transition as possible into the next chapter of your life.

Understand your financial situation

One of the important things you will need to consider is the distribution of financial assets. Estimating the value of the marital pot will help give you an idea of what you may be entitled to as the Court’s starting point is equal sharing of matrimonial assets.  Giving consideration to your housing needs and what you would need to purchase your own property taking account of your mortgage capacity is a helpful starting point as the Court has the discretion to depart from equality depending on the needs of the parties and their dependent children.  We’d always recommend keeping a budget of your income and expenses as this will help in determining whether you would be entitled to spousal maintenance and, if so, the appropriate amount.

Collate the paperwork

Gathering together all of the relevant financial documentation is at an early date will save a lot of time moving forward and vastly aid in your preparation. Some of the documents you need to ensure you have are:

  • All bank and building society account statements for the last 12 months;
  • Up to date credit card statements;
  • Redemption statements for loans;
  • Details and documentary evidence of investments;
  • Cash Equivalent Transfer Values for pensions
  • Mortgage redemption statements; and,
  • Property Title information.

You will also need your most recent P60 and payslips if you’re employed, or two years of accounts if you’re self-employed.

Look to the future

It can be very easy to get bogged down in the present and focus only on the current proceedings. However, it’s important to consider if it is possible to become financially independent from your spouse after your divorce and whether it is possible to undertake further training or a change of job to improve your position. While the Court can make an order providing you with spousal maintenance if you cannot meet your income needs,  it will work towards the financial independence of both parties and achieving a clean break focussing on what both parties earning capacity is.

Entitlement to child maintenance is,  in most cases, determined by the Child Maintenance Service.  The online child maintenance calculator on the gov.uk website serves as a useful starting point to ascertain the appropriate amount that should be paid by the non-resident parent.

Document your valuables

Keep a full record of possessions with photographs if possible – this includes the contents of your house, vehicles, jewellery etc.–  if anything goes missing, this provides proof of its existence. Try and agree an amicable division of these chattels as often, the legal cost in doing so are disproportionate to the value of those items.

Don’t act in haste

It can be tempting to make quick decisions such as moving out of the marital home., Take legal advice before making any decisions of this magnitude. Once such decisions are made, going back on that choice can often be far more difficult and could also have an adverse effect on your case.

Seek expert advice

The most important thing to do before starting a divorce is to seek legal advice. Having a solicitor put a strategy in place to help you navigate your way through proceedings will drastically ease stress during what we know can be an overwhelming and emotive time. Solicitors can give you a good indication of where you stand and how divorce will affect you financially. Every case is different, and it’s important you seek advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

About Emma Davies

Emma is a partner and head the family law team at Nelsons. She qualified as a Solicitor in 2008 and has been at Nelsons since 2009.
Emma advises on divorce and financial settlements which involve complex issues and substantial assets. She also advises on pre and post nuptial agreements and separation agreements along with private law Children Act disputes. Emma is a qualified collaborative practitioner.
Emma’s areas of expertise include divorce, civil partnership dissolution, financial provision, collaborative law, pre-nuptial agreements, post-nuptial agreements, separation agreements, parental responsibility, child arrangements, and prohibited steps orders and specific issue orders.
Divorce – It’s a Balance Between the Emotional Stress, the Cost and the Return!
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Divorce – It’s a Balance Between the Emotional Stress, the Cost and the Return!

Peter Marples
Peter Marples
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Many of you know I was the founder of a progressive family law practice Fair Result with my business partner Christopher Sweetman.

The practice is not apologetic that we are a challenger brand but in the past 4 years we have become a major practice in England, with unique partnerships including the Professional Footballers Association and winning countless awards, both in the UK and Internationally.

Whist a number of our clients could be seen to be ‘wealthy’, by no means all of them – indeed 75% of them are not in this category.

We have a wide spread profile of clients, representing the whole of society and we will often take on a client who has no money to fight their divorce in terms of fees. This is exactly the reason we set up the practice.

As a non-lawyer, it never ceases to amaze me how ruthless lawyers are when it comes to their fees. I was brought up to focus on my clients and the returns would ultimately follow, not think of myself first and that customers are way down the line of those we should be focussed on.

In the past four years, I have witnessed opposing clients dropped by lawyers because they can’t see a future income stream, that client engagements are paused because lawyers don’t have visibility of their fees over the next few months and a total destain for client’s emotions and challenges.

Don’t get me wrong, we need to be paid for what we do. We aren’t a charity, but there does come a point at which clients should be respected for what they are ‘those that pay the wages and the overheads’.

We set up Fair-Result to do exactly that, client first! We do have challenges with clients paying but this is always at the end of a process, and we share the risk in that as the process progresses.

There is never a week goes by in our business where we receive a call from someone that we spoke to over 2 years ago. A call which starts in the normal way. ‘Hi, its… remember me’ followed by our response that is ‘Yes, how are things’. The same line always follows – the fact that frankly nothing has progressed in the previous two years, they have spent some money, but not a lot and are now in a place where they simply don’t know what to do, and their legal advisors are not offering much in the way of solutions.

Nothing surprises us anymore.

However, in the past three weeks alone, we have received at least five calls such as this, one with £m’s in the marital pot, another with a not inconsiderable number of rental properties and a third instance where the wife (our potential client) is starved of cash and assets, despite there being considerable funds to distribute, in the form of Public Sector pensions, a marital home and some limited investments.

During my own divorce, I used to call my former wife ‘penny wise and pound foolish’. She would argue about the pennies but forget about the substance of the whole pot we were arguing about and spend endless thousands with her lawyers arguing about where I had taken the latest EasyJet flight too.

So, what is the purpose of this article? Quite simply it is to present a position that when undergoing a divorce, you are balancing up three key things:

  • Your emotions
  • The cost
  • The reward or result in terms of financials and in many cases the impact on the children.

So, if you are arguing about £50,000 or £5m the principle is the same.

You have to invest to get the result you want, or you will one of those people calling us up after two years having got nowhere.

But I hear you say, I don’t have the cash? To fight them.

Well, that is where Fair Result comes in. The ONLY fixed fee financial divorce settlement business in the UK. And guess what, you pay nothing until the financial agreement has been signed by both parties, whether it takes us 2 months or 2 years to finalise.

We share the risk with you, our aim is to minimise the emotional stress but above all it is to get you exactly what you are entitled too.

So, stop plodding on for two years, when you know you won’t get anywhere, spending £500 here and there when that is all you can afford, getting more and more wound up about your spouse’s behaviour and spending habits.

Get it closed off, sorted out and you too can move on both emotionally and financially.

As we get older, we begin to realise that life is short, the years clock off quicker than you want them too. Why spend 2 years getting nowhere when you can contact the Fair Result team, and it will cost you nothing until your divorce is sorted – absolutely nothing.

Contact Peter at peter@fair-result.co.uk 24/7 and you will be guaranteed of a response within 30 minutes. A fixed fee, set from the outset and nothing to pay until your divorce is settled.

If you can get a better offer than this contact us and we will do your divorce for absolutely nothing, irrespective of its complexity – GUARANTEED!

Read more articles by Peter Marples.

About Peter Marples

Peter Marples – Director of Fair Result and qualified accountant, with the determination to change the way divorce is transacted. For further advice on financial settlements and navigating divorce, use the contact details below:

  • Email
  • Give the team a call – 07500933818 or 0333 577 7009
  • Complete an enquiry form
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What is ‘Resolution Together’?

Emma Alfieri
Emma Alfieri
Legal Director
Greene & Greene Solicitors

Resolution Together is a new way for separating couples, and for parents who are in dispute about the care of their child, to obtain advice from a single legal professional.

This new way of working follows the implementation of the Divorce Dissolution and Separation Act which allowed couples, for the first time, to make joint applications to end a marriage collectively.  As a result, Resolution has developed a new approach to help separating couples. Resolution is a community of family justice professionals who work with families and individuals to resolve issues in a constructive way.

The service is suitable for those whose joint aim is to reach an outcome that meets their needs and, if they are parents, the needs of their children. A key feature is that individuals must give their informed consent to disclosing all the relevant factual and financial information required in order to reach their decisions together, to one another and the legal professional who will be advising and guiding them towards their final outcome. The legal professional who works with the couple will not be acting for either party individually, and also the legal professional may not represent either or both in communications with the Court, other than where it has been agreed that the Legal Professional will file any draft Order with the Court on their behalf.

Some of the principles relating to Resolution Together are closely aligned to other dispute resolution approaches, such as Mediation. However, the difference is that Resolution Together provides an advice based service where both clients are able to receive advice, including legal advice on a jointly beneficial basis.

Generally, couples that choose Resolution Together will not be in a dispute, or have a “conflict”. Couples do not have to be in agreement about everything, but need to be willing to consider options and not have entrenched positions. A willingness to work hard towards finding an agreed outcome is key.

The ultimate aim is that the parties taking part in Resolution Together will reach a decision that will be recorded in a draft Order, and a legal professional will assist them to obtain an approved Order.

Read more articles by Emma Alfieri.

About Emma Alfieri

Emma Alfieri is a Legal Director at Suffolk firm Greene & Greene Solicitors.

Emma advises on all aspects of family law, including divorce and associated financial matters, disputes between cohabitants and child related disputes.

A member of Resolution, Emma is committed to resolving disputes as positively and agreeably as possible whilst also being motivated to obtain the best possible outcome for her clients.

Since 2012 Emma has been consistently recommended by the Legal 500 on an annual basis and in the most recent 2024 edition Emma is ranked as a “rising star”.

As an advocate of fault free divorce, Emma lobbied at Parliament with other members of Resolution in 2016 to bring about the recent changes to divorce law.

How to Prepare for Divorce: A Comprehensive Guide
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How to Prepare for Divorce: A Comprehensive Guide

Divorce is a significant life event that can impact various aspects of your life. Many people enter the process without fully understanding its implications, but preparation is crucial. This guide will help you navigate divorce in the UK by focusing on mental, financial, and parental preparation.

Mentally Prepare for Divorce

Divorce can be mentally and emotionally challenging. Before proceeding, ensure you’re certain about your decision. Consider marriage counselling or individual therapy to gain clarity and support.

Visualising your post-divorce future can help you focus on your goals instead of the past. Despite preparation, expect to face difficult days. Develop healthy coping strategies like maintaining physical health, exercising, spending time with friends, and engaging in enjoyable activities. A counsellor or therapist can provide valuable support during this time.

When choosing a divorce lawyer, look for someone who offers both legal expertise and empathetic guidance. A good family lawyer can ease the emotional burden of the process.

Financially Prepare for Divorce

Financial concerns are often the most pressing during a divorce. Early legal advice is crucial to understanding your entitlements and preparing for financial changes.

A family lawyer can help you understand your rights regarding the divorce settlement, the family home, and potential spousal maintenance. Plan for your immediate living expenses, as finalising a financial settlement can take months, and court proceedings may extend this period.

If you’ve depended on your spouse’s income, explore long-term financial support options such as benefits and spousal maintenance. Avoid taking actions that could be perceived as concealing funds, like moving money to a private account, as this can complicate legal proceedings.

Always consult an expert family lawyer before making significant financial decisions.

Parental Preparation for Divorce

For parents, divorce adds the concern of its impact on children and the parent-child relationship. Early agreement on childcare arrangements with your ex-partner can reduce stress for everyone involved. Drafting a formal parenting plan can provide clarity and minimise uncertainty.

Consult a family lawyer to understand your parental rights and ensure the parenting plan is fair and in your children’s best interests. Agree with your ex on what and how to tell your children about the divorce, ensuring they receive a consistent message from both parents.

Seeking Legal Advice

Being prepared for the divorce process and your new life afterward is crucial. Expert advice can make the journey smoother and less stressful. Ensure you choose experienced divorce lawyers who can provide specialist legal guidance for a smooth divorce.

Read more articles by Gemma Scourfield.

About Gemma Scourfield

Gemma is a divorce and family law solicitor with Woolley & Co, Solicitors based in Pembrokeshire West Wales. She has been based in Wales since qualifying in 2007 although has clients throughout the UK and abroad. In 2016, Gemma was accredited as an Advanced Family Law Panel Member with the Law Society which recognises her expertise in domestic abuse and financial relief.

Gemma qualified as a family law solicitor in 2007, she joined Woolley & Co from a regional firm in Wales in August 2021.

Preparing for Divorce – A Guide to Gathering the Right Paperwork
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Preparing for Divorce – A Guide to Gathering the Right Paperwork

Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Preparing for a divorce can be an overwhelming process – especially when it comes to gathering the necessary paperwork. This guide will help you understand what documents you need and how to organise them effectively.

By being well-prepared, you can streamline the divorce process and potentially save time and money.

Having all your documents in order also gives you a clearer picture of your situation, which can be invaluable when making important decisions.

Financial Documents

Start by collecting all relevant financial documents. Having a clear picture of your financial situation is crucial for fair asset division and potential spousal maintenance calculations. Also, it’s important to be mindful of hidden assets. These typically include:

  • Bank statements for the past 12 months
  • Credit card statements
  • Mortgage documents or rental agreements
  • Payslips and P60 forms
  • Tax returns for the past three years
  • Pension statements
  • Investment account statements
  • Documentation of any debts or loans

Property and Asset Information

Gather documents related to your property and assets. These documents will help determine the total value of your marital assets for equitable distribution.

  • House deeds or lease agreements
  • Vehicle registration documents
  • Valuations of high-value items (e.g., jewellery, art, antiques)
  • Business ownership documents, if applicable

Personal Identification Documents

Ensure you have copies of essential personal documents. These documents may be required for various legal procedures during the divorce process.

  • Birth certificates for you and any children
  • Marriage certificate
  • Passport
  • Driving licence

Child-Related Documents

If you have children, collect the relevant paperwork. This information will be vital if child arrangements need to be determined as part of the divorce proceedings.

  • School records
  • Medical records
  • Child benefit information
  • Any existing custody or visitation agreements

Other Legal Documents

Gather any existing legal documents that may be relevant. These documents can significantly impact the divorce proceedings and outcomes.

  • Prenuptial or postnuptial agreements
  • Previous court orders or judgments
  • Separation agreements
  • Wills or trusts

Organising Your Paperwork

Once you’ve gathered all the necessary documents, it’s time to organise them effectively. Create a filing system, either physical or digital, that works for you. This might involve using folders, binders, or cloud storage solutions.

Make copies of all important papers. Keep one set for yourself and prepare another for your solicitor.

Store the originals in a secure location, such as a safe deposit box or a locked filing cabinet at home.

Consider using a spreadsheet to track and summarise financial information. This can be particularly helpful for complex financial situations.

Being organised will help you and your solicitor navigate the divorce process more efficiently. It can also reduce stress by giving you a sense of control over the situation.

Final Thoughts

Gathering the right paperwork for your divorce may seem daunting, but it’s a crucial step in ensuring a fair and smooth process. Following this guide and consulting with your solicitor will prepare you to move forward with your divorce proceedings.

Remember, thorough preparation can lead to better outcomes and potentially reduce the stress and duration of the divorce process.

While collecting and organising all these documents may take time and effort – doing so will ultimately serve you well as you navigate this challenging life transition.

If you’re unsure about any aspect of document gathering, don’t hesitate to seek advice from your solicitor. They can provide guidance specific to your situation and ensure you haven’t overlooked any crucial paperwork.

Read more articles by Fair Result.

Read more articles by Chris Sweetman.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage breakdown.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

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The Dangers of DIY Divorces

Emma Alfieri
Emma Alfieri
Legal Director
Greene & Greene Solicitors

Since fault free divorce law came into effect on 6th April 2022, it has become much easier for parties to complete a DIY divorce without seeking legal advice. Whilst the changes were welcomed, the new law has resulted in many DIY divorcees not understanding the law and/or encountering problems along the way.

One common (and wrong) assumption is that the Final Order of divorce automatically prevents an ex-spouse from making financial claims in the future. This is false. The only way to achieve a legally binding financial “clean break” is for the parties to also submit a separate signed Consent Order to the Court embodying the financial agreement they have reached. If this additional step is not taken, an ex-spouse is entitled to make financial claims against their former spouse in the future, even after they are divorced and the assets have been divided.

A trigger for a financial claim by an ex-spouse months or years after the divorce could be, for example, if a former spouse later accumulates wealth, such as by inheritance or lottery win. This situation can be stressful and expensive to sort out and therefore it is always advisable to enter into a Consent Order at the time of divorce.

In some DIY divorce cases the parties may be aware of the requirement to have a Consent Order but do not take advice before signing the document.   This could result in a binding Order that excludes valuable assets or income that cannot later be re-visited.

Another common mistake is some of the less obvious assets of the marriage such as pensions and business interests are overlooked, instead focussing on property alone. The pension assets of a marriage can be some of the most valuable assets and are often ignored resulting in a poor outcome for the party with the lower pension provision.

Timing is another factor that can get overlooked. For example, a divorce lawyer would usually recommend a final Order of Divorce is not applied for until financial matters have been resolved and a Consent Order approved by the Court (but not in all circumstances). There could also be consequences if a party re-marries before they have properly dealt with financial matters.

Believe it or not, every case is different. The individual facts need to be applied to each set of circumstances. Whilst many DIY divorcees will scour the internet for advice, there are no on-line resources that provide the answer to every single situation/scenario.  That’s why is it is always advisable to take legal advice early on, even if that advice is limited to just one consultation.

In conclusion, whilst a DIY divorce will always be the cheapest option, it is important that parties going through divorce can properly understand what they need to do, when, and to consider any other factors they may not have thought about.  This will ensure parties do not find themselves in a position where their quest to save money could be a decision they later live to regret.

This article is only intended to be a summary and not specific legal advice.

Read more articles by Emma Alfieri.

About Emma Alfieri

Emma Alfieri is a Legal Director at Suffolk firm Greene & Greene Solicitors.

Emma advises on all aspects of family law, including divorce and associated financial matters, disputes between cohabitants and child related disputes.

A member of Resolution, Emma is committed to resolving disputes as positively and agreeably as possible whilst also being motivated to obtain the best possible outcome for her clients.

Since 2012 Emma has been consistently recommended by the Legal 500 on an annual basis and in the most recent 2024 edition Emma is ranked as a “rising star”.

As an advocate of fault free divorce, Emma lobbied at Parliament with other members of Resolution in 2016 to bring about the recent changes to divorce law.

Breaking Down Divorce: Answering the UK's Top Google Searches
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Breaking Down Divorce: Answering the UK’s Top Google Searches

Lauren Laverick
Lauren Laverick
Solicitor
Beecham Peacock Solicitors

Divorces are an intimidating legal process to those who aren’t in the know – after all, who entering a marriage considers the possibility that so many dread? This leaves many partners feeling blindsided, overwhelmed and turning to the internet for quick answers.

Compared to July 2023, Google searches for “cheap divorce lawyers near me” have risen by 200%. The problem many find themselves in is that the internet can provide inaccurate information, but many solicitors charge for initial consultation calls, and so the costly divorce process begins before new singles can come to terms with their situation.

We have turned to Newcastle family law specialists Beecham Peacock Solicitors for their answers to the UK’s most-searched divorce questions, using Google search data to collate the queries and trusted solicitors to answer them accurately.

How much does a divorce cost?

“There are several factors that can affect how much a divorce costs, mainly depending on whether the divorce sees the inside of a courtroom or if the couple opts for a no-fault divorce,” Beecham Peacock divorce solicitor, Lauren Laverick, explains. “If couples do agree to a more amicable no-fault divorce, the costs will typically comprise of legal advice, drafting divorce petitions and the handling of necessary paperwork. The standard fee when applying for a no-fault divorce is £593 before additional solicitor charges, which will vary depending on your solicitor and case.”

How to get a divorce.

“To start the legal process of filing for a divorce, you first have to check that your marriage meets the minimum criteria: you must have been married for one year, your marriage must be recognised in the UK and either you or your spouse must be living in England or Wales, as separate rules affect Scotland,” Lauren explains. “Thanks to the no-fault divorce system, neither party has to accept any wrongdoing for the breakdown of the marriage.

“Next, you must apply for a divorce application, which can be done by post or through the UK government’s website. This application will ask for personal details relating to the circumstances of the divorce, including children and financial arrangements,” Lauren continues. “This form can be completed by yourself or a hired solicitor. Once accepted, a copy will be sent to your spouse, who must acknowledge receipt of the letter and confirm that they agree.

“If your spouse agrees, the rest of the process comes down to sorting legal documents which can be arranged by your solicitor. If your spouse disagrees, based on grounds of finances or child custody, then these issues must be resolved,” Lauren says. “This is where you can lean on your solicitor to guide you through an amicable compromise, negotiating with your spouse through mediation, collaborative law processes, or if the disagreement cannot be settled, a more costly court hearing.

“Your solicitor will be crucial during this process if it comes to it – they will have your best interests at heart and protect your rights in the divorce process,” Lauren adds. “Once an agreement is made, you’ll apply for a conditional order, the first of two decrees needed to finalise the process. This informs the court that the divorce can proceed based on the information you’ve given. Then, if the court is satisfied, they will issue a certificate allowing you to apply for the final order.

Around six weeks from the completion of the first order, you can apply for the final order – legally ending the marriage. Once this is accepted, you are officially divorced.”

How long does a divorce take?

“The length of the divorce depends on the complexity of the case, mainly dictated by disagreements between you and your spouse in accepting the initial application,” Lauren says. “The average time to complete a divorce procedure is seven months, but this process will rely heavily on a solicitor processing forms swiftly and finding resolutions between disagreements if they arise, which could extend the time it takes to finalise the divorce.”

How many marriages end in divorce?

“The most recent statistics from the Office of National Statistics showed just over 80,000 divorces in 2022. We can work out from this data that 34.2% of marriages, on average, end in divorce,” Lauren says. “That’s lower than the often-heard claim, ‘half of marriages end in divorce’, but it still leaves many disappointed, stressed and emotionally struggling singles who never imagined they’d be in this position,” Lauren continues.

“It’s the lowest number of divorces there’s been since 1972, however. Hopefully this trend continues and there will be more happy couples as the years go on.”

How much does a divorce cost if both parties agree?

“If both parties agree to the divorce and to the terms, then we can assume this question relates to couples who have filed for a no-fault divorce and agree completely on the nuances of the divorce procedure – including details of finance considerations and child custody arrangements with no amendments,” Lauren continues.

“In this instance, the divorce will be completed as quickly as possible and with no court fees. This means that the average cost of an uncontested divorce will range from £600–£2,000, including the £593 government application form. The range of payment will therefore depend on how much your solicitor charges to process the divorce,” Lauren explains.

“This is why it is important to explore your options when searching for a solicitor, finding a balance between someone who you know will represent your interests well and who is also within your desired budget. As with most things, paying someone who can do the job right the first time may actually save you money compared to someone who can do it cheaply but inefficiently.”

Are you currently at the beginning stages of filing for divorce? If so, we hope your process goes as swiftly and as painlessly as possible.

Read more articles by Beecham Peacock Solicitors.

About Beecham Peacock

Established in 1953, Beecham Peacock is one of the North East’s leading law firms with a wealth of experience in a myriad of different legal fields. Its team of expert solicitors includes specialists in wills, trusts and probate, personal injury, family law and employment law. The firm also offers a wide range of other legal services.