Edith was barely twenty when she married a man whom she discovered later was labelled a sociopath.
Max was handsome, charming and determined to have her hand in marriage. Little things did not add up right.
Max told conflicting stories and blamed work woes on others. Things happened to him and he was blameless, in his point of view.
Edith did not know Max that well, since they had such a brief courtship.
Max began to put Edith down in subtle ways at first. Then he focused on her insecurities and upped the belittling.
Since she was so young and inexperienced, Edith thought there was something wrong with her.
Edith’s family and friends noticed changes and her increasing unhappiness. Max’s parents were enablers and continued to excuse Max’s behaviours while Edith’s alarmed parents insisted that she meet with a counsellor to discuss her marriage.
After getting some professional help, Edith discovered that she had married a sociopath and decided to divorce him. She felt fortunate not to have had any children with Max, so ties could be completely severed.
Near the end of her divorce, a bank came after Edith for payment on a loan, since she was listed as a co-signer. She was flabbergasted since she had never been to that financial institution. Edith demanded to see the signature that was supposed to be hers.
The bank manager refused and Edith insisted that the police be called right then and there. He acquiesced and pulled out the paperwork.
Edith was livid and demonstrated that “her” signature was forged, by showing him the one on her driver’s license.
The bank manager still had an attitude until Edith asked how they could have a co-signer who did not show any identification.
She threatened to sue the bank if she ever heard from them again.
There were a few other bumps in the road during the divorce, but things were straightened out in the end.
Money seemed to be missing and Max baulked at paying alimony. Edith got maintenance for just a short period.
Today, Edith has had a long marriage with husband number two and has been blessed with children.
She told her kids not to get married so young and to date the person for more than a year and also advocates really getting to know their family before marriage. She says if something does not feel right, then listen to your intuition.
The second time around, Edith married a calm, stable man who did not feel the need to impress her. They are compatible with similar interests and values.
Wendi Schuller is a nurse, hypnotherapist and is certified in Neuro-linguistic Programing (NLP).
Her most recent book is The Global Guide to Divorce and she has over 200 published articles.
She is a guest on radio programs in the US and UK. Her website is globalguidetodivorce.com.