Coping with Divorce Doesn’t Mean Starving your Heart

Coping with divorce doesn't mean starving your heart
Charis Rooks
Author and Speaker

I know its hard right now and I won’t ask you to list what is hurting you the most because honestly you may not know at this point in time or you may have too many to list.

I too had this issue so in my mindset I went in protect myself mode.

Protect myself meaning becoming someone that I’m not. I became a harsh cold woman who disliked mostly every sign of happiness that I saw.

I believed this was an act of guarding my heart from ever being hurt again, so I validated this by saying to myself “I have to do what I have to do I’m in survival mood now.”

The truth is I wasn’t guarding my heart at all. I was letting the very thing into my heart that I called myself keeping out.”

Yes I agree we must protect but we also must know that protecting our heart is not hardening our hearts to those around us.

The best example would be if you were feeding a child who seemed to not finish their food. Would you decrease the amount of food you’re placing on their plate or would you not feed them at all?

This is also true with your heart you can protect your heart by making necessary adjustments but also at the same time if you’re not careful you can starve your heart.


After her second divorce, Charis decided that it was time to do something not only for herself but also for other women going through similar struggles.

As a survivor of divorce, Charis knows all about the lies and confusion that come with divorce. Though divorce does eventually end, the emotional scars and stress that come with a difficult divorce do not.

Charis is passionate about speaking the truth to women who are caught in the endless cycle of struggle after divorce and she encourages them to share their stories to help provide not only counseling for themselves but also support for others.

Charis does not limit her time to Draw for Women but also reaches out in other ways.

She is an accomplished and published author, having penned God Rarest Diamonds: A Proverbs Life after Divorce Devotional for women and Coming Soon- The 30 Day Life after Divorce Prayer Challenge for Women, which provides encouragement, support, and spiritual enlightenment to those who are struggling, helping readers bring peace to their life journeys. In addition to Draw for Women and writing,

Charis has a personal life that is as full as her professional life.

Charis is married to a wonderful man and is the mother of two talented and beautiful daughters.

Charis earned her Bachelor’s Degree in Business Technical Management with a concentration in Small Business and Entrepreneurship- Magna Cum Laude in Spring of 2016 and is currently pursuing her MBA.

When she is not working or studying, Charis loves to read, write, and travel. Charis is a dedicated individual who wants nothing more than to share her ideas, experiences, and knowledge to help other women who are struggling with divorce to become comfortable with themselves and with the state of their lives again. 


Twitter: Charis Rooks @draw4women


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