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Term-Time Holiday Fines: What Happens When Separated Parents Disagree
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Term-Time Holiday Fines: What Happens When Separated Parents Disagree

Teresa Davidson
Teresa Davidson
Partner & Head of Family
Winston Solicitors

Every August, the same story runs. The fines have gone up. It’s £80 per parent, per child, doubling to £160 if you don’t pay in time. Take three children to Spain in June, and the cost gets uncomfortable quickly.

However, what the coverage almost never addresses is the household where the decision was never a joint one. Because a notice is issued per parent, a single trip can produce a fine for a parent who did not book it, did not agree to it and did not go. That is not an anomaly or a misapplication of the rules; it is simply how the framework works.

The framework introduced in August 2024 was designed to bring consistency to how absence is treated across England. It is admirably clear about what triggers a notice and what it costs. It is silent on the question separated parents most often ask: my ex booked this, so why am I being fined for it?

What the Rules Say About Fines

The National Framework for Penalty Notices took effect on 19 August 2024. It sets a single national threshold: a notice must be considered where a child has 10 sessions of unauthorised absence, usually five school days, within a rolling 10 school week period. Those absences do not need to be consecutive.

A first notice is £80 per parent, per child, if paid within 21 days, rising to £160 if paid between days 22 and 28. A second notice for the same child within three years is a flat £160. After two notices in three years, the local authority considers prosecution instead, and a conviction means a criminal record. Head teachers can authorise absence only in exceptional circumstances, and cheaper flights are not one of them.

All of that tells you what a fine costs, but none of it tells you what happens when the two people with parental responsibility disagree.

Why the Law Counts You as a Parent Even if You Said No

Here is the point that catches people out, and the reason the framework produces results that feel so unjust to separated families.

For education law purposes, “parent” is defined far more widely than most people expect. It captures every biological or adoptive parent, everyone else holding parental responsibility, and, separately, any person who has care of the child. It says nothing about who booked the holiday, who paid for it, or who travelled. The legislation asks who the child’s parents are, not who made the decision, and that distinction is the whole difficulty for separated families.

The practical effect is that a parent who did not consent, did not book and stayed at home all week still falls within the definition, and can be issued with a notice on that basis. Depending on the circumstances, a new partner with day-to-day care of the child may fall within it too, even without parental responsibility.

To illustrate how quickly that can add up, imagine a separated couple with two children. One parent takes both away for a week in term time without the other’s agreement. In principle, that is four notices, one to each parent for each child. Paid promptly, that would come to £320. Left beyond 21 days, it would be £640.

Can Both Parents be Fined for One Trip?

In principle, yes, but in practice, it depends significantly on where you live. Local authorities decide whether to issue, and approaches vary. Some will consider written representations from a parent who neither knew about nor consented to the absence. Others issue to both as a matter of routine. It is worth contacting the attendance team promptly, and in writing, to find out which applies to you.

Understanding what a penalty notice is helps here. It is an out-of-court settlement offered as an alternative to prosecution, not to a conviction, and there is no formal right of appeal. The realistic choices are to pay, or to decline and put your case forward if prosecution follows. Keep in mind that the second route carries real risk and should not be taken without advice, because the available defences are narrow.

If you are making representations, what is likely to carry weight is evidence that you objected: a dated message to the other parent, an email to the school before the absence asking that your objection be recorded, confirmation of the child arrangements in place.

Object in writing to the other parent and to the school, and do it before the trip rather than after the notice arrives.

How the Court Can Stop a Trip Before it Happens

Taking a child out of school for a holiday is an exercise of parental responsibility. Where parents who share it cannot agree, the family court can decide for them.

A Prohibited Steps Order under section 8 of the Children Act 1989 prevents a particular step being taken without the court’s permission. In this context, that step would be removing the child from school during term time, or taking them out of the country for the trip. In deciding whether to make the order, the court applies the welfare checklist, weighing the disruption to the child’s education against the value of the holiday itself, and considering whether the objection is genuinely child-focused.

Section 8 also helps the parent on the other side of the argument. A Specific Issue Order asks the court to decide a particular question about a child’s upbringing, and the travelling parent can apply for one to seek approval for the trip when the other parent refuses.

Timing matters enormously. These applications can be made urgently, and in a genuine emergency without notice, but the court prefers advance notice and evidence that agreement was attempted first. In most cases you will also be expected to have attended a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. A parent who takes advice in April about a June trip has options, but a parent who calls two days before departure has very few.

If the trip involves taking the child overseas, the issue may be far more serious than an unauthorised absence. Taking a child out of the UK without the consent of everyone with parental responsibility, or without the court’s permission, can amount to child abduction.

There is one exception, which is if a child arrangements order names you as the person the child lives with. Then, you can take them abroad for up to a month without the other parent’s consent. However, that exception only covers taking the child out of the country. It says nothing about school. A parent relying on it is still keeping the child out of lessons without authorisation, and can still be fined for it.

If you Already Have a Child Arrangements Order

Most child arrangements orders deal with where a child lives and/or when they spend time with each parent. Few say anything useful about term time travel or who applies to the school for leave of absence.

That gap is worth closing. Provisions that repay the effort include a minimum notice period for proposed holidays, an express agreement that neither parent will book term time travel without the other’s written consent, and agreement on how any penalty will be shared.

What to do Next

If you want to travel in term time, then ask the head teacher in advance and expect refusal. Secure the other parent’s written agreement before you book. Agree in writing who bears any penalty. Remember that going ahead without agreement may fine the other parent too, which rarely improves the co-parenting relationship.

If you object, then say so in writing, immediately, and keep the record. Tell the school before the absence. Take advice early rather than in the final week, when the options have already narrowed. If a notice arrives, do not simply ignore it.

The disagreement addressed in April is usually resolved with a conversation or a letter. The same disagreement left until the week of departure is resolved with an urgent court application, at far greater cost, and with the child considerably more aware of it. That last point is the one worth holding on to.

This article is general information about the law in England as at the date of publication and is not legal advice. Penalty amounts, thresholds and local authority practice are subject to change.

About Teresa Davidson

Teresa Davidson is a Partner and Head of Family at Winston Solicitors, advising on all aspects of private children law, including child arrangements, disputes over parental responsibility and urgent applications to the family court.

The First Three Places I Travelled to After My Divorce
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The First Three Places I Travelled to After My Divorce

Laura Ericson
Laura Ericson
Founder
Laura Ericson Group Trips

I’d always been a traveller, but I tended to stick to the typical tourist path and conventional places that were deemed “safe” for female travellers. After my divorce in 2018, I made a promise to myself: I would take advantage of every opportunity to experience new places and step out of my comfort zone. Though it took a few years to find my footing, in 2021 I embarked on a series of transformative journeys that would change my perspective on both travel and life itself. Here are the three destinations that helped me rediscover myself and my love for adventure.

Colombia: Finding Beauty in the Unexpected

My journey began in Colombia, a country that wouldn’t have crossed my radar just a few years earlier. Like many, I had preconceptions about its safety, especially for solo female travellers. What I discovered instead was a hidden gem full of vibrant culture, warm people, and breathtaking landscapes.

In Medellín, known as the “City of Eternal Spring,” I found myself surrounded by perpetually blooming flowers and year-round perfect weather. Walking through Comuna 13, once considered one of the most dangerous neighborhoods in the world, I witnessed how art and community could transform a place. The stunning street art told stories of resilience and renewal – themes that deeply resonated with my own journey.

The lesson Colombia taught me was simple but profound: sometimes the most beautiful experiences lie just beyond our comfort zone. The places we fear might just become the ones that heal us the most.

Mexico City: Rediscovering Adventure in the Familiar

Mexico had always been my “safe” travel destination – the place I visited multiple times growing up and during my marriage, sticking to mostly tourist areas. But Mexico City showed me a completely different side of a country I thought I knew. Instead of predictable resort experiences, I found myself immersed in a sprawling metropolis rich with history, art, and culinary innovation.

In the heart of Mexico City, surrounded by ancient pyramids and modern art museums, I realised how much I had limited myself by always choosing the familiar path. This wasn’t the Mexico I knew from my previous trips – it was better, more authentic, and exactly what I needed to break free from old patterns.

The city taught me that even in familiar places, we can find new adventures if we’re willing to look beyond the surface.

Turkey: Embracing the Unknown

My journey to Turkey marked a complete departure from anything I’d done before. From hot air balloon rides over Cappadocia’s otherworldly landscapes to exploring ancient ruins along the Mediterranean coast, every day brought new wonders and challenges.

What struck me most about Turkey was how my preconceptions about it being “unsafe” melted away in the face of overwhelming hospitality and kindness from locals. Sipping Turkish coffee with strangers who became friends, watching the sunset over the Bosphorus, and getting lost in the Grand Bazaar – these experiences showed me that the world is far more welcoming than we often imagine.

This was the trip that inspired me to start my group travel business. As I stood in a hot air balloon overlooking the surreal landscape of Cappadocia at sunrise, I felt like I found my purpose. In that moment, I gained the courage to make a change: when I got home, I put in my 30-day notice and quit my 14-year career in higher education to start helping other travellers get out of their comfort zones and explore the world off the beaten path.

Turkey taught me that the greatest growth happens when we push ourselves beyond our perceived limitations, trust in the journey, and take big risks.

What These Journeys Taught Me

These three destinations did more than just stamp my passport – they fundamentally changed how I see myself and the world. They showed me that the “dangerous” or “sketchy” places I once avoided often held the most profound beauty and opportunities for growth.

More importantly, these trips helped me rediscover the fearless traveler I’d been in my youth – the one who moved to Spain by herself to teach English and wasn’t afraid to take the road less travelled. Each stamp in my passport became a reminder that I was capable of so much more than I’d allowed myself to believe during my marriage.

The greatest lesson from these journeys wasn’t about the destinations themselves, but about the power of pushing beyond our comfort zones. Sometimes, the best way to heal and grow is to go places that scare us a little – both literally and figuratively.

For anyone emerging from divorce or any major life change, I encourage you to consider taking that trip you’ve always dreamed of. The world is waiting, and you might just find yourself along the way.

Read more articles by Laura Ericson.

About Laura Ericson

Laura Ericson is the founder of Laura Ericson Group Trips, where she leads curated group trips for solo travellers seeking authentic cultural experiences and personal transformation through travel.

Follow her adventures on Instagram @lolawhiskey, join her women-only Facebook Group Lola Loves Travel or visit lauraericson.com to learn more about upcoming trips.

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From Divorce to Discovery: How Travel Healed My Heart and Changed My Life

Laura Ericson
Laura Ericson
Founder
Laura Ericson Group Trips

Seven years ago, I walked into a courtroom and ended my marriage. I didn’t mark the date on my calendar or plan to commemorate it – I actually had to look up the court records recently when someone asked. Seven whole years since I started my life over from scratch. Seven years of quiet rebuilding, finding myself, and discovering a whole new world of possibilities I never knew existed.

The Silent Journey

I did everything differently than most people expected when I got a divorce. I walked away from my marriage pretty much empty-handed, buried the pain deep inside, and didn’t even tell my parents for months. No divorce party. No dramatic name change. No social media announcements. I just…disappeared into myself for a while. In fact, it took five years before I publicly announced my divorce.

Why? Because I couldn’t bear the questions, the well-meaning but painful enquiries that reopened wounds barely beginning to heal. Every “What happened?” felt like picking at a scab that hadn’t quite formed. Every “Are you okay?” reminded me that I wasn’t – not yet.

Finding Myself in Foreign Places

But here’s what I discovered in those seven years: sometimes you have to get lost to find yourself again. For me, that meant boarding planes to places I never dreamed I’d visit. Before my divorce, I wasn’t by any means the the all-inclusive resort type, but I’d been sticking to comfortable, predictable destinations for years because it was familiar and easy. Post-divorce me? She decided to ride camels through the Sahara Desert, explore ancient Colombian cities, and watch hot air balloons float over Turkish valleys at sunrise.

There’s something magical about standing in a place that terrified you and realising you’re not just okay – you’re thriving. Each stamp in my passport became a reminder that I was stronger than I thought, braver than I knew, and capable of so much more than I’d believed during those years I’d lost myself in my marriage.

The Unexpected Gift of Starting Over

Looking back now, I realise that divorce wasn’t the end of my story – it was the beginning of a much better one. Yes, it felt like death at the time. I mourned the loss of my marriage and the person I used to be. But that loss created space for something new to grow.

Travel became my therapy, my teacher, and ultimately, my new purpose. Standing alone at an Adele concert in Barcelona (a trip originally planned with my ex-husband), I remembered the fearless young woman who once taught English in Spain. I wondered where she’d gone. In that moment, surrounded by thousands of strangers singing their hearts out, I made a promise to myself: I would find her again.

Seeing the real Kenya—complete with giraffe, hippo, rhino, lion, and zebra sightings!
Meandering inside the famous blue-painted streets of Chefchaouen, Morocco.

From Personal Pain to Professional Purpose

Now I run a travel business helping others – many of them healing from their own life transitions – discover the transformative power of experiencing new places and cultures. I’ve watched women who thought they could never travel alone climb mountains in Morocco. I’ve seen people fighting through depression find joy in Cuban street food and salsa dancing. I’ve witnessed countless moments of courage, connection, and pure joy as travellers step out of their comfort zones and into new versions of themselves.

Experiencing pure joy and celebration at a historic monument in India during Holi.
Reflecting during a peaceful moment in Greece overlooking the Fortress of Palamidi.

The Truth About Healing

Here’s what I want you to know if you’re in the middle of your own divorce journey: the pain won’t last forever. Those moments when you can barely breathe? They’ll pass. That feeling that you’ve failed? It’s not true. You’re not failing – you’re being brave enough to choose yourself.

Yes, there will still be triggers years later. A song, a smell, a casual comment from a stranger might suddenly transport you back. But each time it happens, the sting lessens. Eventually, you’re left with something that looks less like a wound and more like a map of where you’ve been – and how far you’ve come.

Getting my steps in at Panna Meena ka Kund: the ancient stepwells of India.
Making a new friend in the Sahara as the golden sun sets over endless dunes.

Your Next Chapter

Divorce isn’t the end of your story. It’s an invitation to write a new one. Fill it with adventures you never dared to take before. Pack it with moments that make your heart race and your soul sing. Make it a story about finding yourself in places you never thought you’d go.

My story led me from a courthouse in Wisconsin to sunset camel rides in Morocco. Where will yours take you? The blank pages are waiting. Make them extraordinary.

About Laura Ericson

Laura Ericson is the founder of Laura Ericson Group Trips, where she leads curated group trips for solo travellers seeking authentic cultural experiences and personal transformation through travel.

Follow her adventures on Instagram @lolawhiskey, join her women-only Facebook Group Lola Loves Travel or visit lauraericson.com to learn more about upcoming trips.

Separated Parents: Taking a Child on Holiday / Abroad
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Separated Parents: Taking a Child on Holiday / Abroad

Emma Alfieri
Emma Alfieri
Legal Director
Greene & Greene Solicitors

With lighter evenings and (slightly) warmer weather, Spring is that time of year when parents realise the school summer holidays are not too far off and are busy making family plans for the summer holidays.

We are often asked to advise separated parents about the rules on taking their child/children abroad and whether they require permission to do so.

The rules are clear.  A parent must get the permission of everyone with parental responsibility for a child before taking the child abroad.  If this is not possible, permission will have to be sought from the Court.

The only exception to this rule is where there is already a Court Order (Child Arrangements Order) in place.  In this case, if the Court Order states that the child will “live with” a nominated parent, that parent can take the child abroad for 28 days without getting permission from the non-resident parent.

The word ‘abroad’ relates to any country other than England and Wales, so permission must be sought to travel with a child to Scotland or Northern Ireland.

Taking a child abroad without permission of the other person with Parental responsibility or without a court order is child abduction.

Who has Parental Responsibility?

A mother automatically has parental responsibility for her child from birth.

A father usually has parental responsibility if he is married to the child’s mother or listed on the birth certificate.

Same-sex partners will both have parental responsibility if they were civil partners at the time of the treatment, such as donor insemination or fertility treatment.

Why is it so important to get permission of the other parent?

At a UK or foreign border, an adult travelling with a child might be asked for evidence of permission to travel with the child.

A letter from the other person with parental responsibility for the child is usually enough to evidence the permission. The letter should include the other parent’s contact details and confirmation that they know about and agree to the trip.

It also may help at the border if the parent takes with them evidence of their relationship with the child, such as a birth or adoption certificate, or a divorce or marriage certificate, particularly if the adult’s  surname is different from the child’s.

Before travel it is advisable to check the entry requirements for the country to ensure all the required documentation in place.  Depending on the country there may also be differing age limits/rules for when a person is considered to be a child.

How do you get permission from a Court?

If permission cannot be obtained from the other person with parental responsibility to take the child abroad, the parent seeking to take the child abroad will need to apply to the Family Court for a Court Order.

If a parent is refusing to grant permission they will need to have a good reason as to why. The Court is more likely to grant permission if travel is to a safe country and the travel is going to benefit the child.

If a Court application is required it is important to allow plenty of time (ideally at least 3 months) so there is sufficient time for the Court to deal with the issue.

This article is only intended to be a summary and not specific legal advice.

Read more articles by Emma Alfieri.

About Emma Alfieri

Emma Alfieri is a Legal Director at Suffolk firm Greene & Greene Solicitors.

Emma advises on all aspects of family law, including divorce and associated financial matters, disputes between cohabitants and child related disputes.

A member of Resolution, Emma is committed to resolving disputes as positively and agreeably as possible whilst also being motivated to obtain the best possible outcome for her clients.

Since 2012 Emma has been consistently recommended by the Legal 500 on an annual basis and in the most recent 2024 edition Emma is ranked as a “rising star”.

As an advocate of fault free divorce, Emma lobbied at Parliament with other members of Resolution in 2016 to bring about the recent changes to divorce law.

Take a Getaway to Refresh Your Mental Health After Divorce.
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Take a Getaway to Refresh Your Mental Health After Divorce

Most people enter a marriage with hopes of the union lasting a lifetime, but broken promises and changing circumstances can make staying together untenable. The sudden disruption of the family unit and daily routine can unsettle you and leave you scrambling for a way to move forward.

Jump Start Your Fitness Regimen

A physical journey can symbolise and lay the foundation for the beginning of a new fitness journey. Research shows that exercise boosts your mental health along with your physical well-being. A resort may offer stimulating and relaxing wellness activities. Stay moving during your retreat by taking tours and excursions by walking, biking, kayaking, or another method of active travel.

New cultures and experiences may open up unique nutritious cuisine. Review menus ahead of restaurant visits to find healthy options. Seek fresh food preparation ideas and recipes that avoid excess sugars and cheap fats and add a few to your diet.

Get in Touch With Nature

The outdoors offers a perfect time to meditate and ponder where you’ve been and where you want to head next. Forest bathing relieves many ailments and enhances your mood. Of course, you can substitute the beach, snowy mountains, or any natural setting for the forest as long as you enjoy an unhurried and peaceful time outdoors. Bring the practice back home with you for re-centering yourself in stressful moments.

Strengthen Old Relationships

Going through a divorce can be a challenging and emotionally taxing experience for anyone involved. During this time, it’s important to prioritize your mental health and wellbeing. Seeking out emotional support and counselling can be an effective way to cope with the stressors and challenges that come along with divorce.

By addressing and working through your feelings with a trained professional, you can begin to heal and move forward in a positive direction. Mental health support can also help ensure that you are equipped to make informed decisions about your future and your relationships with others.

Make New Healthy Friendships

Beware of rebound relationships to avoid dealing with unresolved issues. Spend time getting to know yourself, but don’t restrict yourself from forming new bonds with someone who supports you with honesty, integrity, and empathy. Your trip may allow you to meet new people who become lifelong loved ones.

Strengthen Old Relationships

If stress or an unhealthy marriage caused you to neglect sincere friends and family, a trip together can help you restore the relationship. Focus on each other, and don’t use the time to rehash old wounds. Steer the conversation away from your ex and remain positive. If you travel alone, reflect on the good people in your life and send warm greetings to loved ones back home to reaffirm your affection.

Plan Your Trip Now

If you’re ready for a getaway to rejuvenate your mind and spirit, use these tips to plan your trip:

  • Set your budget. Resources may be in flux as your divorce legal team guides you to a fair settlement. Figure out what you can afford and if you can travel far away or need to stay closer to home.
  • Fix your timeframe. Kids and work may affect how long you can break away. Try to at least take a long weekend so you can settle into your mental refresh for a day or two without travel.
  • Find your destination and accommodations. If you can’t head to your ideal retreat, find a spot that offers something similar. Set alerts for special offers on travel sites. Plane fares and hotel stays are often cheaper during the week and calmer because of fewer patrons.

Secure Your Home

Securing your home when you travel, by installing a home security system, locking all doors and windows, enlisting a trusted neighbor to keep an eye out, and setting lights on a timer or with smart home technology can help deter potential intruders and safeguard your property and belongings while you’re away.

Additionally, taking extra precautions such as pausing mail and newspaper delivery, removing spare keys from hiding places, and updating social media settings to avoid announcing your absence can further increase safety and security. If you’re adding security features to your home, be sure to document any upgrades as they could raise your home’s appraised value.

Take Time to Reset and Refresh

Dramatic changes require time and reflection to process the transition correctly. Use a personal retreat to rejuvenate your mental and emotional health and start the next chapter of your life on solid footing.

Are you looking for more helpful resources about life after divorce? Then add The Divorce Magazine to your weekly e-reading list!

Read more articles by Daniel Sherwin.

About Daniel

Daniel is a single dad raising two children. At DadSolo.com, he aims to provide other single dads with information and resources to help them better equip themselves on the journey that is parenthood.