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Over the past 30 years, divorces among individuals aged 60 and over have surged by an astounding 85%. In the past decade alone, divorce rates for men over 65 have risen by 23%, while rates for women over 65 have climbed by 38%. This has slowly but surely materialised in a steadily growing trend, commonly referred to as ‘grey divorce’ or ‘silver splitting,’ particularly prevalent among those nearing or already in retirement, and embodying a deviation or redefinition of ‘for better or worse’.

Unlike earlier-life divorces, grey divorce often poses implications of its own kind due to the life stage of those involved. Hayley McCormack, a family law specialist at Roythornes Solicitors, navigates the complexities of separating at later stages in life, particularly as this presents significant financial challenges, due to the proximity to retirement and the complexity of accumulated assets.

Historically, divorce was rarely a viable option for older couples, as financial dependence and social stigma discouraged separation. Women, in particular, often lacked financial independence, making it difficult to consider leaving a marriage in later years. Today, however, as societal norms have evolved and financial autonomy has increased, more couples see separation as a realistic path, even in retirement. Unlike younger couples, later-life divorces often involve the division of lifetime possessions such as pensions, property, and savings, which can have a profound impact on future security and stability.

There’s no place like home

One of the most contentious aspects of later-life separation is agreeing what to do with the family home, which for many is one of the most valuable assets in a marriage. The matrimonial home often carries sentimental significance over financial value. In most grey divorce cases, deciding whether to sell, retain, or transfer ownership of the home can be acutely convoluted as the choice will precede to lasting financial and emotional consequences.

While there may be a sum of options to ponder, it is often easier or sometimes necessary to sell the family property to fund the purchase of two properties instead. Selling the home and splitting the proceeds is often the simplest solution, especially if both parties prefer a clean financial break. This option can provide each party with the funds to purchase or rent new homes suited to their needs.

In this situation, it is essential for both parties to consider what is most affordable, taking into account repayment of any mortgage and early redemption fees, purchase price, stamp duty, legal costs, moving fees and any furniture or white goods they will need. If there is an existing mortgage, this can either be redeemed from the net proceeds or one of the individuals, if you need it, may be able to port the existing mortgage to a new property if there are any preferential rates to benefit from.

The place that holds a piece of your heart

Selling the home may not always be the desired approach and often one partner may wish to stay in the property. If this is a viable option financially, it can provide stability, particularly if there are health considerations or a desire to remain in a familiar community. However, retaining the home requires careful consideration of whether one partner can sustain the home’s upkeep and associated costs independently.

If one partner wishes to retain the family home, they may be able to offset the home’s value with other assets. For instance, one partner may keep the house while the other retains a larger share of cash, investments, or pensions. Although pensions are a significant marital asset, they are often overlooked during separation negotiations. Offsetting the value of the family home against pension assets can be a viable solution, but due to the complexity of these calculations, legal and financial guidance should always be sought.

Another approach for staying in the home is to refinance or increase the mortgage to buy out the other party’s share. In this scenario, the partner who remains in the home would need to assume full responsibility for the property’s costs and may have to qualify for a new or adjusted mortgage. The buy-out process typically involves transferring the property into the sole name of the individual staying in the home, which a solicitor would handle to ensure the contemporaneous transfer and payment of funds. High street lenders have amended their borrowing criteria so that mortgages can be taken later in life, but this will still be dependent on affordability and specialist mortgage advice may be required.

Together apart with joint ownership

For some, continuing to co-own the family home while one partner lives there may be a practical solution, particularly if both parties expect a rise in the property’s value or wish to avoid selling in a perhaps down market. However, delayed interest payment involves several complexities.

Setting a “trigger event” for when the other party will receive their share is essential. This could be a specific future date, the sale of the home, mortgage redemption, or even the passing of one party. Legal advice is vital in these situations, as both parties may need to prepare updated wills or trusts to address inheritance or transfer issues.

Delaying the transfer or sale can additionally lead to tax complications, particularly if one partner receives their share at a future date, which may affect capital gains tax.

Finally, if both parties remain on the mortgage but only one stays in the home, the partner who leaves may have limited borrowing capacity for a new mortgage, affecting their ability to purchase their own property.

Mapping the road ahead

Given that later-life divorces often come just before or during retirement, careful planning around long-term financial security is vital. In addition to decisions about the family home, separating couples should closely review pensions, savings, business assets and other retirement funds to ensure both parties are financially secure. Professional advice is crucial in navigating these challenges to avoid pitfalls that could impact future stability.

Fresh starts in later life

As the rise in grey divorce reshapes societal views on marriage, independence, and retirement, it highlights the evolving needs and priorities of later-life couples. Navigating these unique challenges, particularly decisions surrounding the family home, pensions, and savings, can be complex.

With the right guidance, couples can move forward confidently, ensuring they make informed choices that support their future. Family lawyers assisting those who are facing a divorce, with all the challenges that brings, are there to tune in to what clients are experiencing and ensure matters are handled sensitively; while similarly ensuring they give clear, pragmatic advice to help put their client in the best position to recover from the stress and cost that comes with separation.

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About Hayley McCormack

• Divorce
• Financial settlements
• Pre/post-nuptial agreements
• Cohabitation issues and agreements
• Child-related matters, including international/domestic relocation
• Trusts and inherited wealth
• Pre-marriage and post-separation acquired wealth

About Roythornes Solicitors

Roythornes Solicitors is a top 150 national law firm with five strategically located offices across the Midlands and East Anglia. The firm adopts a one team ethos across all offices, with trusted advice being given by its recognised experts on a national spread. It prides itself on building longstanding relationships with clients with a high emphasis on personal connectivity. The firm’s clients include major blue-chip companies, family businesses and private individuals, based nationally and internationally.

Each client benefits from the company’s partner-led, practical approach. As well as a powerful breadth and depth of legal expertise, the team brings commercial know-how and invaluable lateral thinking to each case, drawing on a diverse range of skills and contacts.