This is Adolf’s Story.
Once again, I (Soila) am in touch with a desperate father, whose children have been taken away from him.
If you’re the alienating parent, I would be so very interested in understanding why you have chosen this for your children. Maybe I am missing something? I am aware that there are certain times and circumstances where contact with one parent is better off not happening as in the case of abuse and/or safety issues.
But if you’re ex partner is actually a good enough father/mother who wants and tries to give your child similar things that you give him/her, then why interfere with that relationship that is ever, ever, so important to your child’s wellbeing and development?
If there are no concerns with regards to real safety for your child, how will you later explain to your son/daughter why they couldn’t see daddy/mummy after the divorce? Will they listen and say, “Oh I see and understand. Thank you for keeping me away from him/her. You did me so much good.”
Do you think that one day this video could be about your child, by your child?
Have you heard of Parental Alienation Syndrome? Is this what is happening here?
Are you a part of the group of adult children of parental alienation? What would you tell a mum/dad who is currently alienating the children from the other parent?
Soila is the founder of The Divorce Magazine and creator of the online course – Helping Children Cope with Divorce
She is known for taking away the pain of trauma and loss in children, adolescents and their families and is the author of “When Love is Broken. A read-together book for children and parents going through divorce and separation.
Soila holds an MSc in Psychoanalytic Developmental Psychology from UCL (University College London), is an accredited Positive Parenting Program (Triple P) practitioner and a trained Family Mediator.
Soila is Graduate Member of the British Psychological Society.
You can contact her on 07850 85 60 66 or via email firstname.lastname@example.org