One of the greatest needs when someone is in conflict, or hurting, is to feel heard, to feel that their feelings and views on the situation are validated. Attentive, patient and active listening, is in my view, one of the most important
I have gone through divorce twice; the first one was 20 years ago and the second 12 years ago. Truth is going through divorce is never an easy process however amicable. It will hurt greatly at some point during the process both
It is quite apparent that marriage is on the decline. Many couples simply cohabit instead. Increasing numbers of people need help and advice in connection with cohabitation disputes rather than marriage disputes. What many cohabiting couples do not realise is that cohabitation
This article looks at how using child psychologists along side the mediation process can help parents to achieve the best possible outcomes for their children when they separate. Separation is a hard process for an adult to go through – especially where
If you ask a passer-by what she or he thinks family mediation is about the chances are that that person will mention divorce, separation or disputes about child contact. In one sense this is correct and it is certainly true that family
In family cases involving children, the law is clear-the welfare of the child is the paramount consideration. However, the adversarial UK court system that people so often use is such that even in the best run of cases, this all-important principle can
Does anyone remember the film, Annie Hall? In one scene, the screen divides into two showing Annie played by Diane Keaton and Alvie, the Woody Allen character discussing their relationship with their analysts. Alvie’s analyst asks him, “how often do you have
“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.” This very insightful sentence, written by the renowned philosopher and academic, Elie Wiesel, essentially explains why so many partnerships and marriages flounder or fail. In some instances, the split that is announced to
The Ministry of Justice recently published the Legal Aid Statistics for October to December 2015, which revealed that the number of Mediation Information and Assessment Meetings (MIAMs) have continued to decline and were down by 16% in the last quarter. MIAMs were
This is a question, among others, that The Divorce Magazine posed to Family Mediator Paul Sanford of Albert Square Mediation. Paul explained that family mediation is an informal process for those going through divorce or any other a family dispute. How does
What good is mediation? This was the question I was recently asked by a client. John[1] had separated from his wife, Jane, with whom he had three children, and divorce proceedings had started. John wanted to know how mediation would help him and
In this interview (scroll down), Family Mediator Glynne Davies, speaks of the divorce process UK and how legal aid can help those unable to afford the costs of the divorce proceedings. When wondering how to get a divorce, you may want to consider