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Pension Sharing on Divorce

Heidi Fleming
Family lawyer with
Bretherton Law

It is easy to see how getting divorced can have a negative impact on an individual’s finances, whether it be those of the wife or the husband.

Having two houses and cars to pay for and run, where once there may have only been one, additional childcare payments, holidays and the countless other extra costs of no longer living under one roof can put serious pressure on standards of living.

Little wonder then that many divorcing couples do not focus on retirement planning when going through a divorce.

According to a study by insurer Prudential, divorcees planning on retiring this year are likely to be 16% worse off than those who have never divorced, and face a shortfall of £3000 in their annual income in comparison.

And around a third of people who have been divorced can expect to retire with debts to their name, compared with one in five who have never divorced.

So when it comes to splitting family assets, the home and its contents are not the only things to consider.

Pension plans can form a substantial part of the divorcing couple’s assets and with the lengthening periods before individuals can draw their state pension, coupled with longer life-expectancy, pensions funds are becoming more and more central to divorce settlements.

Dividing a pension fund can be problematic in that an arrangement that suits one party may not be of advantage to the other.

There are three main ways to deal with a pension in the event of a divorce. The first option is offsetting, where one party simply transfers assets of a certain value, such as the family home, to their former spouse in lieu of their share of the pension. Whilst this is a straightforward solution it may not always be the best – you may have somewhere to live, but no longer any retirement income.

Pension sharing is often favoured as it offers a clean-break solution. In this instance any pension funds are valued and shared between the divorcing parties in accordance with a court order, leaving both parties with a pension in their own name.

The difficulty with pension sharing lies in setting a value on the pension and using a Pension Actuary to value and explain how you need to share your pension to reach your objectives and the effect is fundamental.

Another solution but the least popular is a Pension attachment order in which once the pension becomes payable the pension arrangement pay part or a lump sum to the ex-spouse. Downsides to this sort of arrangement are there is no clean break, and it is impossible to predict either party’s needs at the time the pension becomes payable or the value of the asset to be divided.

Everyone’s circumstances are different and the solution is to think through the options carefully and to get the best advice possible.

About Heidi

Heidi qualified as a Solicitor in England and Wales in 2009. She initially practised in Yorkshire and then as a Solicitor overseas in Gibraltar. She was subsequently called to the bar in Gibraltar in 2015. Heidi relocated to St Albans in late 2016 to join Bretherton Law‘s Family Department as a Senior Associate.

Heidi specialises in Family Law advising on high net worth Divorce, Nullity, Cohabitation, Financial Remedy, children matters and domestic violence cases.

Heidi also has experience in representing children, parents and other relatives in public law proceedings involving social services.

She is a member of the Law Society’s Children’s Panel and is able to represent Children within Private and Public Law proceedings.

Divorce Solicitor calls for Financial Settlements

Lancashire Divorce Solicitor calls for Financial Settlements for all Divorces

Jacquie Birkett
Head of Family Law
Barber & Co Solicitors

Jacquie Birkett, a divorce solicitor and former chartered accountant, who is head of Family Law at Lancashire based law firm, Barber & Co Solicitors, has spoken out in an interview about why getting a financial settlement at the same time as divorce is so important.

Couples who opt for a divorce without coming to a financial agreement may come to regret it in the future. Even long after a divorce, an ex-spouse may make a claim in relation to financial issues arising from the breakdown of their marriage.

What part does a financial settlement play in a divorce?

It is absolutely vital for the parties to negotiate and arrive at a financial settlement on the breakdown of their marriage. Such a settlement means that both parties can move on into the future certain of their financial position and the options they now have. Any settlement reached should be set down in a final order made by the Court within the divorce proceedings.

Why is arranging a financial settlement so important?

Arranging a financial settlement provides certainty for both parties. This can help them make important decisions as they move forward into a new life and ensure that they do not need to worry about, for example, providing stability and security for their children.

What problems can arise if you do not arrange a financial settlement?

If an agreement is not reached as to how financial issues are to be dealt with on the breakdown of a marriage then this can make it extremely difficult for both parties to move on.

In principle either party can make a claim against the other in relation to those financial issues at any time in the future unless the party who wishes to make the claim has since remarried.

If a claim is made then the assets of each party will be valued at that time and not at their value when the marriage broke down thus including lottery wins, inheritances, the fruits of business success and the increase in value of property in the intervening period.

Does not having a financial settlement affect how the marital home is divided up?

If there is no financial settlement, then it is likely that one of the parties remains in the former matrimonial home often with the children of the family.

In these circumstances it is very unlikely that the spouse who has left the home will have any lump sum with which to pay a deposit on a new property for themselves. This may cause problems when the children come to stay or may prevent them staying at all if it has not been possible to source suitable alternative accommodation.

For the spouse who remains in the property there may also be problems in the future. If they stay there until the children reach 18 then the equity in the property will usually be split equally at this time.

If the property has increased in value and the spouse who has remained cannot afford to buy the other out then the property will need to be sold. If a financial settlement was reached at the time of the divorce it may have been possible to argue that equality should be departed from and for the property to have been transferred into that spouse’s sole name.

What consideration is given to spousal maintenance in a financial settlement?

This is a complex area and very much depends on the particular circumstances of each individual case. Recent decided cases have concentrated much more on the needs of the spouse who is to be paid spousal maintenance and the need to set that spouse on the road to independence rather than earlier cases when much more generous decisions were made. It is vital to get expert legal advice in this area to ensure a fair outcome.

If I own a business, is my spouse legally entitled to half of it or any future earnings?

This is another complex area and very much depends on the type of business you own and how you own it. The Court is unlikely to deprive a spouse of his or her means of earning a living. It will not kill the “golden goose” but nonetheless the business will be considered along with all the other relevant circumstances of an individual case.

Are financial assets always split 50/50?

No. The starting point is that matrimonial assets should be split on a 50/50 basis however this may be departed from after considering the children’s needs, the length of the marriage, the ages, health and income earning capacity of the parties, the standard of living enjoyed during the marriage, needs and any other relevant circumstances. As always everything depends on the facts of the individual case and there is no set formula which can be applied.

What happens if I re-marry and do not have a financial settlement from my previous marriage?

Re-marriage will have an effect on your needs and obligations as well as your resources and this will be taken into account when reaching any financial settlement.

You should also note that in certain circumstances it is not possible to make a financial claim once you have re-married so it is important to take legal advice before you do.

About Jacquie

Jacquie is the Head of Family Law at Barber & Co Solicitors.  

She manages the firm’s new office in Ramsbottom which provides a specialist family law service along with services in wills and probate, conveyancing and company related matters.

Jacquie has 14 years experience of practicing family law and deal with all aspects including:-

  • Divorce
  • Dissolution of Civil Partnerships
  • Financial issues arising from relationship breakdown
  • Pre-Nuptial and Post-Nuptial Agreements
  • Deeds of Separation
  • Cohabitation Issues
  • Children Issues
  • Grandparents’ Rights
  • Schedule 1 Children Act Applications
  • Private Adoption
  • Fertility and Parenting Law

Barber & Co Solicitors, has four offices across the North-West of England in Preston, Darwen, Ramsbottom and Clitheroe

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What are the Top Ten Tips on Separation?

Melanie Pilmer
Solicitor
Greene & Greene Solicitors

Melanie Pilmer Family Solicitor at Greene & Greene suggests 10 important issues to consider at the early stages of separation:-

1. Bank Accounts

You need to consider if any joint accounts are to be closed or whether overdraft facilities on those accounts need to be restricted. If the joint account is still in use it would be sensible to agree what payments will go in and out from it.

2. Credit Cards

Consider whether there are any second cards that need to be cancelled, if a shared credit card is still going to be used agree what items of expenditure can be put on it and who will pay the debt.

3. Living Arrangements

Will you both still live in the house together? Sometimes this will be a necessity. Consider any practical steps you can take to make this easier for you both. Alternatively if one person will leave then who will that be and where will they go. Consider how you will fund two households.

4. Interim Payments

Consider the arrangements for Child Support and whether those can be agreed or if a Child Maintenance Service assessment will need to be made. If there are no children or if Child Support payments are insufficient to cover one party’s financial needs then consider any additional support that may be needed by way of Interim Spousal Maintenance.

5. Contact

What will the initial arrangements be for the care of the children? When and where will they see each of you?

6. Parenting Plan

Consider how you will make joint decisions in relation to the children in the future. You might want to draw up a parenting plan. You can find one at www.splittingup-putkidsfirst.org.uk.  This is a written or online agreement which helps you to record how you will share the care of your children now and in the future. It can be as detailed as you like and can also include issues such as how and when the children would be introduced to any new partners.

7. Considering Other Help You May Need

Consider a marriage counsellor if you feel that would help in trying to get a relationship back on track. If the relationship is at an end then a family therapist or family consultant or counsellor could help you work through issues surrounding the separation and communication.

8. Tax Issues

If you own more than one property or one of you moves out and lives elsewhere then it is essential that you take early advice as otherwise there may be adverse tax consequences arising.

9. Financial Advice

You may need to take early advice from a financial advisor or accountant in relation to managing budgets for two households. You may need advice from an accountant in relation to capital gains tax arising in respect of properties or company assets. You may need financial advice from an independent financial advisor in relation to pensions.

10. Wills

It is important to consider making or updating any Will you have after a separation. You may also want to consider death in service benefits under any pension provision.

ABOUT MELANIE

Melanie, a solicitor with Greene & Greene Solicitors, advises in relation to a full range of family matters including divorce and associated financial matters, cohabitation disputes, children matters and Pre-Nuptial Agreements.

She is a collaboratively trained lawyer and member of Resolution – First for Family Law. She has significant experience in relation to resolving complex financial disputes often involving business assets and a considerable amount of my practice consists of negotiating and preparing Nuptial Agreements.

Melaniepilmer@greene-greene.com

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Survive divorce
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Six-step Formula to Surviving the ‘Divorce Season’

Vanessa Fox
Partner and Head of
Family Law
hlw Keeble Hawson

I hotly dispute the ‘divorce season’ myth, that family lawyers see an increasing number of divorce enquiries in January which are sparked by the strains of the festive period. In our experience, this month is quieter than usual and we receive more approaches in the spring and autumn.

For those of you who are experiencing the trauma and distress of a divorce – or a potential split – this depressing time of year can make the impact harder to handle. The ‘Christmas hangover’ can send focus and wellbeing plummeting at a time when it is vital to stay on the ball.

Here are six steps to surviving the ‘divorce season’.

  1. Seek legal advice on your rights before leaving the marital or shared home. Those who are married or in a civil partnership can’t make their partner leave the family home without a court order, regardless of whether both or either of you own/rent the property. Cohabitees have less legal protection and can be forced to leave the shared home if their partner rents or owns it solely. If not legally obliged to do so, it is often best to stay until matters are resolved, to avoid being accused of abandoning the family and to reach agreement first.
  1. Take proper financial advice before discussing options with your partner – a route that appears attractive could have many pitfalls so avoid rushing to make an agreement. Solutions that separating couples think are impossible often turn out to be achievable, and it is important to talk to an Independent Financial Advisor (IFA) immediately, rather than after the divorce. An advisor will explain your options and make sense of any offers your partner makes.
  1. Explore all possible repercussions and outcomes for you and your family and take the advice of as many family professionals – and trusted confidantes – as possible before calling time on your relationship. This includes couples counselling where a trained, independent counsellor can help you to talk through the issues and communicate more constructively. They can also help you to examine external factors that might affect your relationship, such as how arguments can escalate, as well as negotiate and resolve conflicts. While not a universal panacea, this process has saved many a marriage and long-term relationship.
  1. If divorce or separation is the only way forward, always put children and their feelings first. As the adults of the family, parents should behave like grown-ups, so keep full blown rows to a minimum, don’t criticise your former partner in front of the children and don’t ask them to take sides. Discuss the situation with them, reassure them that the divorce is not their fault – and outline any domestic upheaval so they have as long as possible to get used to the idea. If handled sensitively, you will find that children can survive divorce better than you do.
  1. During the divorce process, always make every effort to be courteous and polite with your former partner. While you may not always feel like it, the more civilised you can keep discussions and negotiations, the more focused and productive they will be – saving time, money and emotional expenditure.
  1. Finally, avoid contacting or texting the new partner of your former spouse/partner or replying to their texts. They should not play a greater part than necessary and your main focus should be to sort out the best outcome for you and your children and move forward.

In summary, before rushing into anything, ensure you have explored every option and take professional advice – both legal and financial. If divorce is inevitable, be civil to – and communicate effectively with – your ex-spouse.

Above all, spare your children from undue angst and stress.

About Vanessa Fox

hlw Keeble Hawson partner, Vanessa Fox, marked 25 years as head of the firm’s family law department in 2016.

Collaboratively trained and a qualified mediator, she has modernised South Yorkshire Resolution since becoming chair in 2013 and is also a member of the Law Society’s Family Law Panel and the Children Panel.

She can be contacted at on 0114 290 6232 or on vanessafox@hlwkeeblehawson.co.uk.

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Family Mediation for Cohabiting Couples

Paul Sandford
Paul Sandford
Mediator and
Tribunal Judge

It is quite apparent that marriage is on the decline. Many couples simply cohabit instead. Increasing numbers of people need help and advice in connection with cohabitation disputes rather than marriage disputes.

What many cohabiting couples do not realise is that cohabitation does not create a legal, binding relationship in the same way that marriage does.

Even in the modern age of human rights, when divorce reform is meant to be on the agenda and civil partnerships have been introduced, cohabiting couples still do not have the same level of protection that is enjoyed by their married counterparts-there is no such thing as “a common law marriage!”.

Some people may have had the foresight to enter into a cohabitation agreement. Others will have economic independence and will be able to weather any results and financial storms.

However, most people are not in such favourable positions.

One very good option for disputing cohabiting couples is to go to mediation – In practice mediation gives the parties the flexibility to reach a mutually binding an acceptable agreement that could not otherwise be achieved – not only will they save a lot of money by going to mediation but they could achieve a great deal more.

About Paul

Paul Sandford is an accredited civil mediator,  family mediator and Tribunal Judge

He mediates for a leading UK charity, has been appointed a governor/mediator at a London Secondary School and has the benefit of having worked as a solicitor for around 25 years.  He has also worked as a trainer and university lecturer and has considerable experience of working with people who are disabled or who do not have English as a first language.

As well as being Regents University accredited, Paul recently completed ADRg civil/commercial and family training and is working towards becoming an accredited family mediator.

He has particular  knowledge and experience of housing, property/commercial, medical and public law issues and employment, workplace, family and educational disputes. He is a member of two mediation panels: Clerksroom, which has excellent conference call facilities, and the Business Mediation Group. In his spare time Paul enjoys cooking, football, test cricket and listening to the blues, and fundraises for his school.

Divorce and the Farming Family

Divorce and the Farming Family

Melanie Pilmer Solicitor Greene & Greene Solicitors
Melanie Pilmer
Solicitor
Greene & Greene Solicitors

The damaging effects of divorce are often felt more acutely in cases involving farming families: especially so where the farm has been held within one family for generations.

Often farming businesses will involve Partnership or Corporate Structures, land may be co-owned with extended family, land ownership may be within or outside of business structures and various land or property assets may also be held in Trust. These can all complicate matters.

Typical questions that arise are:

  • How can the assets be divided fairly where a farm has been passed dynastically to one spouse through the generations?
  • What weight will the court apply to the financial and non-financial contributions of the non-owning spouse?
  • Will the court force a sale or transfer of land and property?

The court’s approach can be unlike other cases and present unique challenges.

The court is tasked with arriving at a fair outcome and must meet the parties’ (and any dependent children’s) reasonable needs. In doing so the court will consider whether the farming family intended that the farm should be passed down through the generations.

The court will have to consider whether the farming family can and should retain the farm (in so as far as that is possible) even if that means an overall unequal division of assets. Numerous other factors including the standard of living enjoyed by the parties during the marriage can also be taken into account.

Funding a settlement may require finance to be raised against the retained farm. Land may need to be sold in order to retain the majority of the farm to pass on to future generations.

Many farming businesses experience cash flow and liquidity issues which can make it difficult (or impossible) for income generated from the farm to satisfactorily meet the needs of two separate households following separation.

Divorces involving family farms are often complex and it is important that if you find yourself in this position you seek the assistance of a lawyer experienced in this area.

About Melanie

Melanie, a solicitor with Greene & Greene Solicitors, advises in relation to a full range of family matters including divorce and associated financial matters, cohabitation disputes, children matters and Pre-Nuptial Agreements.

She is a collaboratively trained lawyer and member of Resolution – First for Family Law. She has significant experience in relation to resolving complex financial disputes often involving business assets and a considerable amount of my practice consists of negotiating and preparing Nuptial Agreements.

Melaniepilmer@greene-greene.com

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(Editorial first published in Rural Review, September 2016)

 

 

I’m Getting Divorced: How to Help Children Cope with Divorce and Separation

Clayton Miller
Clayton Miller
Founding Member Partner KMJ Solicitors

If you’re thinking of getting divorced, you’re not not alone.

With 42% of UK marriages ending in divorce, the UK has the highest divorce rate in Europe. Unfortunately, a high percentage of these divorces involve more than two people.

If you’re leaving your marriage and wondering what this means for your children, here’s a rundown of how to help your child cope, and what it means for their future.

Younger Children can Experience Greater Issues from Separation

The time between a child’s birth and when they turn six years old is crucial in terms of development.

During these years, it’s important that a child has contact with the people with whom he or she has formed a bond, usually the child’s parents.

If this relationship is disturbed, disrupted or removed entirely, it can cause problems later in life, such as an inability to form healthy and enduring romantic or personal relationships, or the lack of motivation to study and work.

There is probably no battle more destructive to a child than the battle over the time a child spends with both parents. While mediators and solicitors in family law can help to some extent, it is often hard for them to judge what is best for the child.

If the case is taken to court and it falls to the ruling of a judge, the decision may overly favour the father or the mother. If an amicable divorce is at all possible and parents can put aside their personal battles for the sake of their children, then often the child is far better off than losing most or all contact with one of their caregivers.

This being said, while divorce can be upsetting for children, researchers agree that a split is better for children in the long run than an unhappy marriage.

Children and Teenagers Require Different Treatment in Divorce

In studies on the development of children up until the age of six, research on the effects of separation on young children confirms that children can be harmed emotionally when separated from the parent with whom they have the primary attachment.

Help Children Cope with Divorce and SeparationWhen separated, the child often becomes anxious or distressed — the beginnings of what can become, for a small percentage of children, far more serious emotional problems in their adult life.

While a younger child can respond to a divorce by trying to get their parents back together, a common response among teenagers is to try and get back at the parents. Where a young child feels sadness, the adolescent manifests feelings of anger. A divorce can drive even more of a wedge between a teenager and their family than they already feel, and compel them further to break away.

Advice from a psychologist is to take advantage of the adolescent’s self-interest by giving them more responsibility, therefore giving them the feeling of the family relying on them, which counteracts the feeling of increased separation and independence from the family unit.

For younger children, it is important to observe and practice the 3 Rs to restore a child’s trust in the security of their family: Routines, Rituals, and Reassurance.

Divorce can Actually be Beneficial to Children

In this article in the Huffington Post, adults talk about the effect their parents’ divorce had on them, either as children or adults. Some of the most harmful things parents can do to their children in a divorce are badmouthing the other parent in front of the child and trying to get their children to choose a side.

However, some also said they felt a sense of relief after their parents divorced, and were happy to see their parents begin to thrive on their own.

In a 2002 study by Mavis Hetherington, it was found that many children experience anxiety, anger, shock and disbelief as some common short-term negative effects from divorce. After a year or two, however, these side-effects have reduced or completely disappeared, and it is only in a minority of cases that the negative after-effects of divorce continue long-term.

Handled well, the negative effects of divorce discussed above can in time fade, as opposed to causing the long-term damage that is also a risk.

If there has been a lot of conflict before and during a divorce, there is little doubt from researchers that divorce is beneficial for children. In a 1985 study, Hetherington found that a high level of conflict before the split can help children to adjust to the split itself.

By contrast, when the conflict before a divorce is much less, the child is more unprepared and therefore might find it harder to adjust. If the child is from a high-discord family, then the divorce may be a welcome relief from their parents’ fighting.

What Difference can a Good Divorce Lawyer Make?

The right divorce lawyer can make all the difference in a divorce, whether you’re faced with a battle over the children, a disagreement over assets, or even an amicable but unsure divorce where you’re not sure how to proceed.

Divorce lawyers will have handled many cases involving children, so it’s important to find one that suits the needs of you and your children.

If you’re based in London, for instance, make sure you hunt through the best divorce lawyers in London until you find the right one, rather than settling. A good divorce lawyer in London will be able to advise on separation of assets, as well as how to divide childcare between two households instead of one.

The best divorce lawyers in London, or in other parts of the UK, will also be able to advise on foreign marriages if one partner wishes to move away.

In such situations, complications can arise about how to handle childcare, as courts can be reluctant to sanction relocation to another country with a child. This reluctance can seriously impact their relationship with the parent in the original country.

Whatever the situation, whether you’re considering or undergoing a divorce, an experienced solicitor for your divorce can make not only your life much easier but also the lives of your children.

About Clayton

Clayton Miller is a founding member partner of KMJ Solicitors, a highly sought-after family law firm in London.

Legal 500 describe Clayton as being especially able to “assimilate and master the details of complex financial cases and keep on top of them”.

Clayton is dual qualified in both Australia and the UK and is a member of the dual-qualified Family Lawyers and International Bar Association. He has over fifteen years of experience as a family law specialist, including divorce and separation as well as offshore trusts, prenuptial agreements and cohabitation law.

 

The Year of the Prenup
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2016: The Year of the Prenup

melanie pilmer - greene-greene
Melanie Collaboratively Trained Lawyer Greene & Greene Solicitor

In my role as a family lawyer, I am often asked by clients about prenuptial agreements. The idea of a nuptial agreement regularly provokes a range of emotive responses.

Those who are not open to the idea start by questioning whether they are legally binding and often suggest discomfort about an agreement that contemplates the marriage failing.

On the other hand, there are those who are more comfortable with the concept, asking about what types of people enter into such agreements and what is involved in terms of time and cost.

I help by explaining the following:

1. If the agreement is fair, if certain conditions are met and if you sign a nuptial agreement, then you should expect the court to hold you to it;

2. A fair agreement arrived at with the benefit of sound legal advice can provide peace of mind and guard against expensive and unpredictable proceedings. However it is always the intention that the agreement will not be needed and the marriage will succeed. The agreement should be put in place in much the same way as an insurance policy is taken out to cover unforeseen circumstances;

3. Anyone with inherited wealth, pre-acquired assets or an established asset base should consider a nuptial agreement. The cost of preparing an agreement is minimal compared to the costs of proceedings; and

4. A nuptial agreement can be entered into before the marriage (prenuptial) and even after the marriage (postnuptial).

During both 2015 and continuing into 2016 I have seen a marked increase in couples seeking nuptial agreements and I was delighted when my recent work in this area was publicly commended by a leading London Family QC.

The ‘wedding season’ is almost upon us, with research suggesting the average wedding now costs in excess of £20,000.

A recent survey of 1,000 men and women in the UK by OnePoll, the market research agency, found that 10% regretted not signing a prenuptial agreement. Notwithstanding their increase in popularity, due to the benefits and enforceability of these agreements becoming better understood, I suspect that this percentage will increase until the preconception that they are for the rich and famous disappears.

About the Author

Melanie Pilmer advises in relation to a full range of family matters including divorce and associated financial matters, cohabitation disputes, children matters and Pre-Nuptial Agreements.

She is a collaboratively trained lawyer and member of Resolution – First for Family Law.

She has significant experience in relation to resolving complex financial disputes often involving business assets and a considerable amount of my practice consists of negotiating and preparing Nuptial Agreements.

www.greene-greene.com

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Divorce Law to be Replaced – How the Collaborative Divorce Process is Taking Over

Nigel C Winter - Partner in the Family Department of Rawlison Butler solicitors
Nigel C Winter – Partner in the Family Department of Rawlison Butler Solicitors

There is one thing we can be sure of – if something is happening in California, it will be happening everywhere else within 20 years’ time. And in America we have seen a dramatic increase in the use of Collaborative Law which is now increasing in the UK.

Are the days of the old fashioned acrimonious divorce numbered?

When parties are going through a sensitive transition like a divorce they will often want to go to lawyers who are trained in avoiding conflict and getting them both where they want to be.

And whilst the newspapers are full of celebrities in high profile divorces, there are many more who are to great lengths to stay out of the papers – trust me; Anonymity is the new celebrity!

The Collaborative Divorce Process

In many ways the Collaborative approach to family separation is tailor-made to the requirements of the modern world. It seeks to preserve family life albeit one in which the parents are no longer married.

Co-operating after separation is essential to serving the best interests of the children. Furthermore the model seeks to minimise conflict and offers total privacy. That degree of privacy is not available in the conventional Court-based divorce as many sensitive celebrities have found out to their cost.

Small wonder increasing numbers are opting for the Collaborative approach and, like it or not such people to seem to ‘set the trend’.

How Does it Work in Practice?

Both parties take advice from collaboratively trained lawyers. There would then be a four way meeting between both lawyers and both parties.

The first difference that anybody looking in would notice, is that everyone is on first name terms.

It’s a small thing but it is a vast difference to cross examining someone under oath. The dynamic is completely different and everybody has the confidence to talk freely safe in the knowledge that they are not prejudicing their position.

The lawyers have a vested interest in ensuring that this process doesn’t breakdown as there is an agreement if it does that they would have to stop acting and the parties would seek legal advice elsewhere to take the matter on to Court.

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The Collaborative Divorce Process – a four way meeting between both lawyers and both parties.

Contrary to popular belief, lawyers do not have a vested interest in taking cases to Court, but as that is a perception it is promptly rectified by this very rigid rule.

Are there any disadvantages? Frankly it is hard to see any.

If there is an overbearing spouse or partner then it is well within the realms of possibility that they will seek to use the Collaborative process as a means of getting what they want.

However, each individual case should be ‘screened’ at the outset to make sure that there is the requisite degree of trust, honesty and devotion to fairness.

This will not cover all cases and there is perhaps an inevitable tension between a lawyer’s desire to serve the parties within the Collaborative process and their unyielding professional duty to ensure that their client receives the best advice concerning an appropriate settlement. Where the two conflict, the latter must prevail.

A further boost is given to the Collaborative process by virtue of the fact that the Courts now emphasise the importance of alternative dispute resolution ie avoiding Court.

Indeed it is a pre-requisite in the vast majority of cases that the parties attend Mediation before they can actually issue proceedings.

The shortcoming with Mediation is that the lawyers are not present and therefore their advice still has to be sought afterwards in any event.

However they are present throughout during any Collaborative meeting and ‘on tap’ to advise both parties. One might therefore speculate that had the Collaborative process been more widely available when Parliament enacted this law, that they would have included Collaborative law as an alternative to Mediation.

The Collaborative approach is not limited to divorce either. Both Cohabitation and Pre-Nuptial Agreements can be discussed and drawn up adopting the same process.

With the divorce rate falling and cohabitation an alternative family model, the continued increase in Collaborative Law as a preferred option is set to increase.

Will it replace divorce law? Perhaps not completely but there is every reason to believe that it will in due course be the first choice for dispute resolution over and above the Court.

And about time too.

Nigel C Winter is a partner in the Family Department of Rawlison Butler Solicitors, based in the South East of England. He has been practicing family law for over two decades, is a collaborative lawyer and a regular contributor to a wide variety of publications on Divorce and Family Law.

He has been practicing family law for over 2 decades, is a Collaborative lawyer and a regular contributor to a wide variety of publications on divorce and family law.

 Disclaimer – This document is provided for information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

 

 

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How to Deal with a Divorce – 7 Key Financial Tips for Women Going Through Divorce

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Mary Waring
Independent Financial Advisor and The Wealthy Woman: A Man is Not a Financial Plan: A Woman’s Guide to Achieving Financial

Mary Waring is a Chartered Financial Planner who specialises in giving financial advice to women.

Her fabulous strap-line is “A Man’s not a Financial Plan”.  

In this interview, Mary gives some really sound financial advice for women and mums going through divorce.

When you meet with a financial planner, do get a fixed fee quote rather than an hourly rate.  They’ll tell you what you will get for your money and how much it’s going to cost.  You don’t need to have millions to seek advice.  

Here are Mary’s 7 financial tips for women on how to deal with a divorce:

Talk to a solicitor.

One thing you really need to know about is the financial order.  If and once you’re divorced, realise that either partner can still make a financial claim against the other.  It’s not just about the money at hand but it’s also about the monies that may come your way at a later date, such as an inheritance or where your earrings increase.

Even if you’ve drafted a financial agreement between yourselves, that you both agreed to, unless you’ve both had legal advice and have a full financial disclosure, that agreement will not be binding.

The financial claim can actually stay open indefinitely unless it’s been dismissed by a court order and it is for that reason, that Mary suggests you seek a solicitor’s advice.

Make a full disclosure of all your financial assets and income. 

It can be tempting to not disclose, everything, particularly if you think your husband may not be disclosing fully, but Mary warns that, chances are if you don’t make full discloser it will be discovered. And if you’re discovered you will have lost credibility and of course there will be extra costs.

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Keep in mind, not just what you want but actually what you need as a minimum.

If you’re in a large house, with the with children, chances are you will want to stay in the house because you want as little disruption as possible for the children.

However, you do have to consider, if indeed you can afford to run the house  if you stay in it and/or if the family finances sufficient for you to stay in the house.

If the family finances up till now have supported one house and the husband moves out, the husband still has to have accommodation somewhere, so it’s the same pot of money, paying for a separate property. 

If there is not enough money to cover that, you need to recognise that from the beginning.  There’s no point in saying, “I want to stay in the house and I’m not moving,” because if there’s not enough money for that, you’re not going to end up with it.  

What about stay at home mums? 

If this is you, you need to know, that if you’re at home with the children and have not been working, it doesn’t mean that you are entitled to a lower share of the assets than if you were out working.  Equal weight is given to both the domestic and financial contributions.

What about “common law wives”?  Would she have the same rights as a married woman? 

This is the most terrible myth!  It is widely believed, by a lot of women, that if they’re cohabiting, particularly if they’ve got children, that they will have the same rights as a spouse. 

The fact is, in law, there is no such thing as a common law wife and that’s regardless of how long you’ve been together, or if you have children or not.  The children will be looked after, yes, but the “common law wife” herself has no rights at all.  So for women in this situation, they will have to either consider marriage or a cohabitation agreement that is designed to give that partner some protection if the relationship does go wrong later down the road.

There’s more to the interview so do have a listen.

Don’t look back in anger? Try telling that to Dale Vince.

Katie McCann  Head of Family Law and in-house counsel at Kuits Solicitors
Katie McCann
Head of Family Law and in-house counsel at Kuits Solicitors

Kathleen Wyatt has recently received permission from the Supreme Court to seek financial provision from her ex-husband, Dale Vince.

So far, normal.

Except for the fact that the pair separated 30 years ago before officially divorcing 23 years ago.

So why wasn’t this sorted out following their divorce in 1992?

And what can divorcees do to protect themselves against these types of claims?

During the couple’s relationship, the pair lived a nomadic lifestyle, surviving on very little money. Following their separation, life continued in a similar manner for Ms Wyatt, who today lives in an ex-council house in Wales with her children.

However, things changed dramatically for Mr Vince when he founded Ecotricity in 1995, which is now one of the UK’s biggest green energy companies.  Mr Vince’s new lifestyle mirrors his business success and he currently lives in a £3 million 18th-century castle with his new wife and their son.

At first glance, it seems obvious that any maintenance claim brought by Ms Wyatt so long after their divorce should fall flat. After all, the maths is plain and simple: Mr Vince’s success came three years after the couple divorced and therefore this surely means that Ms Wyatt’s ship has sailed and she has no right to any of her ex-husband’s earnings?

This logic was certainly used by Lord Justice Thorpe in the Court of Appeal, who stated that Mr Vince was not to be Ms Wyatt’s ‘insurer against life’s eventualities’. However, shockingly, when the matter reached the Supreme Court, Lord Wilson ruled that Ms Wyatt should be entitled to bring a claim against her ex-husband and stated that the matter should be heard by a judge in the Family Division of the High Court.

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Mr Vince when he founded Ecotricity in 1995, which is now one of the UK’s biggest green energy companies.

When the case does come before the High Court, Ms Wyatt will likely base her claim on her significant childcare contributions over the years. Mr Vince will rely on the ridiculously long delay in the claim being brought, as well as the fact that although the couple were officially married for 11 years, they actually only enjoyed marital cohabitation for two years.

Although Ms Wyatt’s claim may not be successful, the fact that she has received permission to bring it before a Judge is still extremely unsettling for divorcees, who should not have to live in fear that their divorces, which they presumed to be ‘done and dusted’, may rear their ugly heads in the form of a claim in the future.

If nothing more, the Supreme Court’s ruling comes as a huge warning to anyone whose marriage ends in divorce, and that warning is quite straightforward: it is imperative to get a final order so that all monetary claims are dealt with together with the divorce.

It is certainly understandable why many fall into the trap of thinking that a clean break is unnecessary; after all, when a couple have lived on an extremely low budget throughout their marriage, the cost of a court order is likely be viewed as an unnecessary expense.

However, it is vital for couples to realise that things can and do change – one party may win the lottery, a loved one may leave a large and unexpected inheritance, or one party may start a business that reaches a level of success they couldn’t have imagined in their wildest dreams.

Today, separating spouses are privy to the ‘online quickie divorce’, a service that allows parties to get divorced for a fixed fee of as little as £100 plus VAT.

Whilst such services may appear appealing and are often very useful for those looking to keep their divorce costs to a minimum, it is imperative for couples to understand that such a service often does not deal with matrimonial finances and instead only take the couple to the decree absolute stage of their divorce.

In order for both spouses to move on with their independent lives after divorce, it is crucial that they draft, approve and sign a final financial order before submitting it to court for approval.

Whilst the cost of a lawyer drafting such an agreement may be a slight inconvenience, it will be miniscule compared to a claim that could be brought years later by an ex-spouse with a hefty sense of entitlement.

Nobody wants to be looking over their shoulder after divorce and the best insurance against having to do this is to tie things up at the point of divorce instead of leaving loose ends.

Katie McCann is head of family law and in-house counsel at Kuits Solicitors in Manchester City Centre. She has a special interest in resolving high value relationship breakdown disputes.

Vital Living Together Advice

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Suzy Miller of Alternative Divorce Guide

“Well it’s the same as being married” was a phrase I heard over and over again but which eventually proved to be a lie.  

For ten years, my husband and I lived with our three children as an unmarried couple and when the relationship abruptly ended I quickly learned all that was wrong with that simple phrase.

You can believe, think and tell yourself that while you are together, but don’t be foolish enough to think it’s the same when you are splitting up.

Will you get some of his pension? – Nope. You are not eligible for any of it.

My career was put aside to look after the kids so now he has a pension. I have none. The pension that was going to support both of us became just his. But, had we been married, I would have had claim to half of it, as it stands today, I get nothing. And it’s hard to create a secure pension from scratch at 40 with no job and three small children to look after.

Surely half the house goes to me. Not if your name is not on the deeds.  

You may be able to go on living in the “matrimonial” home if you have dependent children but probably only until they reach the age of 16 years at which point you yourself becomes homeless, with no property, unless you’ve been able to save up for one whilst bringing up the kids.

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Surely half the house goes to me.

In my case, I couldn’t continue living in the home with the children as it had to be sold to cover the debts I didn’t know he had amassed.

My name was not on the deeds despite the fact that I had financially contributed to the running of the household whilst he paid the mortgage.

There was one positive thing about not being legally married  I wasn’t liable for his debts – one benefit at least.

Don’t count on spousal maintenance either because you are not a spouse.

Thank god for Working Family Tax Credit to top up your income and help cover childcare costs when you get a part-time job It is true that a percentage of his gross salary (minus his pension payments) will be provided but only as a contribution for the children’s needs – child support.   You yourself get nothing.  No spousal maintenance. That new pair of shoes that you need,  you need to go out and earn it.

‘Common Law Marriage’ is a myth.

51% of the British population still think that common law marriage exists in law, according to a British Social Attitudes survey!  Those surveyed believe that cohabiting couples are protected by ‘common law marriage’.  But that is not the case I’m afraid.

“There is no such thing as a Common Law wife and cohabiting couples can be extremely vulnerable on separation because many people cohabit without realising the legal implications.” Kim Beatson, Anthony Gold Solicitors

So what can you do if you’re not married and financially dependent on your partner, with children to care for?

Well, there are now plenty of married of couples who thought it was too unromantic to get a prenup, are later on seeing the light and getting themselves a postnup.

If you’re living together and not planning on getting married anytime soon, you can create a Cohabitation Agreement at any point. It may not have the full strength under the pressure of litigation as a marriage license, but should the need arise and it’s put to the test, it will be taken seriously by any reasonable judge.

But the whole point is that you shouldn’t have to end up fighting about who gets what if the relationship ends, or how much is needed to bring up your family, because you have already sat down and worked it all out in advance.

Suzy Miller

Alternative Divorce Guide

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